Now that they are a teen, I think it is important to be honest and talk factually about the violence and injuries and answer their questions. If your child doesn’t remember then It doesn’t make sense to them if they don’t understand the risk to their life that led to the extended no contact.
Regardless of what you tell them, when your child is 18, they may make contact just to confirm for themselves that their parent is the violent monster that you have described and that it would be unsafe to have contact. |
Agree. Definitely a therapist for your child. |
OP here,
He has been in therapy for quite a while. We recently switched providers and models. He does know what happened, but because people stepped in to protect him, he doesn't remember it the same way. To the person calling my ex a "monster", he's not he's a person with severe mental illness. |
You’d be surprised. Some people are willing to manipulate the courts or just play dumb about it. |
What do you think would be said on the call? |
Ok so what more do you want? Stick with therapy. Don’t crowdsource here with these weirdos who can’t possibly relate. |
I expect, based on phone calls before the order, that ex will spend the entire phone call trying to get information about me, where I go, am I interacting with other men, etc . . . Which in a best case scenario leaves my kid feeling like crap because who wants to tell their dad about the baskets they scored and have Dad reply with “Did Mom come to the game? Who did she sit with in the stands? Any Dads? Did she talk to the coach? Could you hear what they said?” And in worst case scenario could lead to kid sharing info that puts us at risk, or to Dad threatening kid for refusing to share info, or for not intervening when he saw me interacting with a man. I also worry that we will end up back in court and the fact that I allowed a violation of the PO will be used as a reason to end the PO. |