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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This will depend so much on the individuals, the reason, the kid’s age…? Really hard to generalize.[/quote]

Kid is a teen.  Parent lives far away and there is a restraining order that names kid.  The unsafe behavior wasn’t just targeted at me, but also at kid, although kid doesn’t remember much of it.[/quote]

not even weekly or monthly via Facetime?[/quote]

No, the protective order specifies zero contact.[/quote]

Did you exaggerate to get the protective order? do you believe it is unsafe for the child to even have phone calls? the protective order was something you obtained so if you don’t think it is unsafe to have phone calls, this is your decision. [/quote]

I did not exaggerate and I do think it is unsafe for them to have phone calls.

Both because I worry about what would be said in the call, and because he could use it in court as evidence that we don’t think it’s needed.
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What do you think would be said on the call? [/quote]

I expect, based on phone calls before the order, that ex will spend the entire phone call trying to get information about me, where I go, am I interacting with other men, etc . . . Which in a best case scenario leaves my kid feeling like crap because who wants to tell their dad about the baskets they scored and have Dad reply with “Did Mom come to the game?  Who did she sit with in the stands?  Any Dads?  Did she talk to the coach?  Could you hear what they said?”  And in worst case scenario could lead to kid sharing info that puts us at risk, or to Dad threatening kid for refusing to share info, or for not intervening when he saw me interacting with a man.

I also worry that we will end up back in court and the fact that I allowed a violation of the PO will be used as a reason to end the PO.  [/quote]

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