Narcissistic parent

[Anonymous]

It's all about them. And they lack empathy. You are a trophy to reflect well on them.
Example: I went to 20th HS reunion. A lot of the girls asked about my mother because she had volunteered with my Girl Scout troop. I told her...or started to. She cut me off and said urgently in an ugly tone..."What about you? Were you top dog jobwise?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here’s an example from when I was going into high school. We were moving back to FCPS in the late 1970s and I knew that the state where we had living for my 7th and 8th grade years was behind FCPS academically, even though I was a kid. I said to my mom that I was worried about being behind in ninth grade and she replied, “Well, how do you think I feel? I have to go back at work after being home with kids for 15 years?” All about her. This wasn’t constant in my childhood, but definitely an undercurrent, and made it incredibly hard to deal with her as she aged.

That’s not narcissism. You complained about what you hated about moving back and she complained about what she hated. It wasn’t all about her it was about both of you. You could have had a full conversation on both of your concerns.

[Anonymous]

My dad only ever thought about himself, showed up to sports and school events when it suited him, yet made sure to take photos to show what an amazing dad he is. If he was ever called out on it, it was always someone else’s fault. He was always the victim.

In my early adulthood, my stepfather — who had been very present in my teens, taught me to drive, drive me to school dances, picked me up from school when sick, etc, — died unexpectedly, my dad was surprised that I was crying. He actually asked me why I was upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here’s an example from when I was going into high school. We were moving back to FCPS in the late 1970s and I knew that the state where we had living for my 7th and 8th grade years was behind FCPS academically, even though I was a kid. I said to my mom that I was worried about being behind in ninth grade and she replied, “Well, how do you think I feel? I have to go back at work after being home with kids for 15 years?” All about her. This wasn’t constant in my childhood, but definitely an undercurrent, and made it incredibly hard to deal with her as she aged.

That’s not narcissism. You complained about what you hated about moving back and she complained about what she hated. It wasn’t all about her it was about both of you. You could have had a full conversation on both of your concerns.

Not pp. This is narcissistic. If you do this you should stop.

If she was worried about being behind, and you ignore it to talk about you, you’re centering yourself.