Do your teens expect you to cook meals for them over the summer?

[Anonymous]

So many stepford mom/wives!!

Do you all work full time? If so, why oh why are most of the home chef as well? A 16 yo or 17 yo can cook!!

[Anonymous]

Same as PPs. I/DH will shop and make sure there are provisions for breakfast and lunch but that’s everyone for themselves. We eat together most nights. It’s one of the few things I feel I’ve done right as a parent. 😉 We split the cooking with one person leading and everyone else helping as they are able/available. The main cook doesn’t do clean up. Our DS cooks more on his own than our DD. She is a grazer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, all four seasons of the year.

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We have family dinner every night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, all four seasons of the year.

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We have family dinner every night.

+2 Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many stepford mom/wives!!

Do you all work full time? If so, why oh why are most of the home chef as well? A 16 yo or 17 yo can cook!!

In my case, it’s because I like to cook. My kids know how to cook but if they don’t choose to they can do the dishes or mow the lawn or do the laundry or contribute in some other way and I will be happy because I like cooking better than those tasks.

[Anonymous]

My DS and I go over our schedules for the week and plans who is cooking on which night. Tonight I made soup and BLTs because he had to work late. Yesterday he made us breakfast for dinner. Tomorrow he said he'd make spaghetti. On weekends, he usually tries a new recipe and I might get Panera or pizza. The other nights are usually leftovers. My DS knows better than to ask me about dinner when he's had off all day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many stepford mom/wives!!

Do you all work full time? If so, why oh why are most of the home chef as well? A 16 yo or 17 yo can cook!!

In my case, it’s because I like to cook. My kids know how to cook but if they don’t choose to they can do the dishes or mow the lawn or do the laundry or contribute in some other way and I will be happy because I like cooking better than those tasks.

Oh sure, it’s so fun to be a servant! /s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course. Is this an American thing, to not cook for your child when they're still living with you? My teens sometimes make their own meals, if they don't like what their father and I plan on cooking. Sometimes we all decide to have what they're cooking, so they make enough for everyone. But the default is that the parents cook, and more generally, provide for the family - we are paying and will pay for their colleges, for example.

We are originally from western Europe and have relatives in East Asia, and everyone we know has a similar lifestyle.

I'm middle class and kids and teens do a lot more than what I read about UMC kids here. Mine have always had chores and they all take turns cooking (less during the school year). We don't have cleaning people. My teens mow the lawn in addition to regular chores.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many stepford mom/wives!!

Do you all work full time? If so, why oh why are most of the home chef as well? A 16 yo or 17 yo can cook!!

It's a love language. And yes they can cook but I like my cooking better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DS and I go over our schedules for the week and plans who is cooking on which night. Tonight I made soup and BLTs because he had to work late. Yesterday he made us breakfast for dinner. Tomorrow he said he'd make spaghetti. On weekends, he usually tries a new recipe and I might get Panera or pizza. The other nights are usually leftovers. My DS knows better than to ask me about dinner when he's had off all day.

This sounds reasonable. I feel sorry for these other women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So many stepford mom/wives!!

Do you all work full time? If so, why oh why are most of the home chef as well? A 16 yo or 17 yo can cook!!

In my case, it’s because I like to cook. My kids know how to cook but if they don’t choose to they can do the dishes or mow the lawn or do the laundry or contribute in some other way and I will be happy because I like cooking better than those tasks.

Oh sure, it’s so fun to be a servant! /s

People enjoy different things. Even women are allowed to choose for themselves what they enjoy, without being called "Stepford wives". I'm sorry you're too immature to understand that.

I like to cook. If it's not fun for you then make a different plan and do something else, but in our family everyone contributes, and a fair amount of cooking is my contribution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you mean lunch or dinner? I make dinner just about every night, year round. Breakfast and lunch they can do on their own, especially in the summer

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[Anonymous]

If you aren't cooking for your teens, what are you doing for your own dinner? Are you talking about situations where you have dinner plans out?

Otherwise, are you cooking dinner for yourself and not adding a portion for your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you aren't cooking for your teens, what are you doing for your own dinner? Are you talking about situations where you have dinner plans out?

Otherwise, are you cooking dinner for yourself and not adding a portion for your kids?

I think they are saying their teens usually cook dinner? or maybe everyone fends for themselves most nights?

At my house, the teens (3) have jobs and/or sports practice most late afternoons & evenings. Usually I cook (or DH does) and we eat with any of the kids that are home. Anyone not home can reheat leftovers later. We make enough for all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you mean lunch or dinner? I make dinner just about every night, year round. Breakfast and lunch they can do on their own, especially in the summer

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I genuinely don’t understand this. Has it become abnormal for parents to provide dinner? Don’t most parents have to eat dinner themselves anyway?

My parents provided us dinner (and yes they both worked FT) and we too, provide our kids dinner (and yes, we both work FT).

Generally that means that we cook, but sometimes it is takeout or something, sure.

If we are out, the kids figure out their own meals. We have plenty of food available. But if we are home and eating, we feed them as well.