Teaching your kids how to drink

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my kids are preschoolers and I guess I'm "teaching" them to drink now, in that they know that alcohol is for grownups only, and that they see us never have more than one or two drinks, and usually in social occasions (like when we have friends or family for dinner or a party).

I'll start letting them have tastes probably around 12 (as my dad did) and their own drink once they seem to be done growing, around 15-17. With us, at home only.

Oh, and I'll also teach them the key things in high school:

1) Never drive drunk or get in the car with someone drunk.
2) Mom will always come and get you, just call.
3) Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything.
4) Never get drunk around people you don't know well or trust. You don't know anyone that well your first semester of college, so keep it to a beer or two. Wait until you have real friends you've known and bonded with for a few months and trust if you want to experiment with drinking more. And then look out for each other!
5) Watch your drink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my kids are preschoolers and I guess I'm "teaching" them to drink now, in that they know that alcohol is for grownups only, and that they see us never have more than one or two drinks, and usually in social occasions (like when we have friends or family for dinner or a party).

I'll start letting them have tastes probably around 12 (as my dad did) and their own drink once they seem to be done growing, around 15-17. With us, at home only.

Thanks, preschool mom. Super helpful.

[Anonymous]

Taught our son and daughter to be aware and alert. For our daughter, girl code, leave no girl behind and watch out for each other always. For our son, to be aware of what guys are doing around girls at parties because every one of those girls is somebody's daughter/sister. If he sees someone trapped, he should help. If he sees a girl trashed, he should be a gentlemen and get her home safely rather than taken advantage of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my kids are preschoolers and I guess I'm "teaching" them to drink now, in that they know that alcohol is for grownups only, and that they see us never have more than one or two drinks, and usually in social occasions (like when we have friends or family for dinner or a party).

I'll start letting them have tastes probably around 12 (as my dad did) and their own drink once they seem to be done growing, around 15-17. With us, at home only.

Oh, and I'll also teach them the key things in high school:

1) Never drive drunk or get in the car with someone drunk.
2) Mom will always come and get you, just call.
3) Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything.
4) Never get drunk around people you don't know well or trust. You don't know anyone that well your first semester of college, so keep it to a beer or two. Wait until you have real friends you've known and bonded with for a few months and trust if you want to experiment with drinking more. And then look out for each other!
5) Watch your drink.

Please be trolling. Your third point makes you sound like a gang leader with a heart of gold. I have been raising my kids with age appropriate lessons. As to drinking, the legal age is 21, we have alcoholics on both sides (my kids have seen some of them ruin gatherings), I will not allow, enable or approve any underage drinking, etc, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my kids are preschoolers and I guess I'm "teaching" them to drink now, in that they know that alcohol is for grownups only, and that they see us never have more than one or two drinks, and usually in social occasions (like when we have friends or family for dinner or a party).

I'll start letting them have tastes probably around 12 (as my dad did) and their own drink once they seem to be done growing, around 15-17. With us, at home only.

Oh, and I'll also teach them the key things in high school:

1) Never drive drunk or get in the car with someone drunk.
2) Mom will always come and get you, just call.
3) Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything.
4) Never get drunk around people you don't know well or trust. You don't know anyone that well your first semester of college, so keep it to a beer or two. Wait until you have real friends you've known and bonded with for a few months and trust if you want to experiment with drinking more. And then look out for each other!
5) Watch your drink.

Please be trolling. Your third point makes you sound like a gang leader with a heart of gold. I have been raising my kids with age appropriate lessons. As to drinking, the legal age is 21, we have alcoholics on both sides (my kids have seen some of them ruin gatherings), I will not allow, enable or approve any underage drinking, etc, etc.

So you have nothing of value to add to this post. Move along Karen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my kids are preschoolers and I guess I'm "teaching" them to drink now, in that they know that alcohol is for grownups only, and that they see us never have more than one or two drinks, and usually in social occasions (like when we have friends or family for dinner or a party).

I'll start letting them have tastes probably around 12 (as my dad did) and their own drink once they seem to be done growing, around 15-17. With us, at home only.

Oh, and I'll also teach them the key things in high school:

1) Never drive drunk or get in the car with someone drunk.
2) Mom will always come and get you, just call.
3) Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything.
4) Never get drunk around people you don't know well or trust. You don't know anyone that well your first semester of college, so keep it to a beer or two. Wait until you have real friends you've known and bonded with for a few months and trust if you want to experiment with drinking more. And then look out for each other!
5) Watch your drink.

Please be trolling. Your third point makes you sound like a gang leader with a heart of gold. I have been raising my kids with age appropriate lessons. As to drinking, the legal age is 21, we have alcoholics on both sides (my kids have seen some of them ruin gatherings), I will not allow, enable or approve any underage drinking, etc, etc.

So you have nothing of value to add to this post. Move along Karen

Becky, what I add is a reminder that 21 is the legal drinking age. Cool mom or no, you're breaking the law. What a great lesson for your kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What age do you teach your kids how to drink? Is it a good idea? If they are going to college how to tell them when is enough?

Boomer here. Too bad they don't make Boone's Farm Strawberry wine for them anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What age do you teach your kids how to drink? Is it a good idea? If they are going to college how to tell them when is enough?

Disgusting and pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What age do you teach your kids how to drink? Is it a good idea? If they are going to college how to tell them when is enough?

Boomer here. Too bad they don't make Boone's Farm Strawberry wine for them anymore.

or Bartles and James wine coolers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We let our 16 year old drink when he’s with us. Flame away.

Older kids are 20 and 22 and in college or just out of.

We did the same. Older kid now 20 in college. I can't stop them from drinking, but we have discussed in depth not to drink and drive, get in the car of anyone who is driving, drink till you blackout. And watch your drink for roofies.

DH is from the UK, so they have a different mindset about drinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you an alcoholic in recovery? I know a few alcoholics in recovery (my husband and his AA friends) who believe they should teach their children how to drink, so they know what being drunk feels like.

I don’t agree, so DH and I argued about it a lot before our kids left for college.

IMO, it's better for your kid to experience it at home than at some party with a lot of drugs and booze.

I don't drink at all, and I would rather my kids learn what it feels like at home rather than at a party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my kids are preschoolers and I guess I'm "teaching" them to drink now, in that they know that alcohol is for grownups only, and that they see us never have more than one or two drinks, and usually in social occasions (like when we have friends or family for dinner or a party).

I'll start letting them have tastes probably around 12 (as my dad did) and their own drink once they seem to be done growing, around 15-17. With us, at home only.

Oh, and I'll also teach them the key things in high school:

1) Never drive drunk or get in the car with someone drunk.
2) Mom will always come and get you, just call.
3) Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything.
4) Never get drunk around people you don't know well or trust. You don't know anyone that well your first semester of college, so keep it to a beer or two. Wait until you have real friends you've known and bonded with for a few months and trust if you want to experiment with drinking more. And then look out for each other!
5) Watch your drink.

Please be trolling. Your third point makes you sound like a gang leader with a heart of gold. I have been raising my kids with age appropriate lessons. As to drinking, the legal age is 21, we have alcoholics on both sides (my kids have seen some of them ruin gatherings), I will not allow, enable or approve any underage drinking, etc, etc.

PP here. I can understand your position on not allowing, enabling or approving any underage drinking. It's not the path I will take, and it's not the path my parents took, but I get it.

But what's your problem with "Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything."? That's excellent advice, in all circumstances, not just around drinking. You should ABSOLUTELY tell your kids to tell the police nothing. I'm sorry, but unless you're in immediate physical danger, the police aren't your friends, and they're not there to help you. They will also lie right to your face to get you to confess to a crime. My friend's brother was arrested for public intoxication (out by the frats at his college) and the police did their "if you just tell us what happened we can help you" and he did and they threw the book at him. And by the time his parents found out, it was too late to do much. He didn't do jail time or anything, but tons of community service, and probation and it's on his record, which was avoidable if instead of telling the police the truth, he'd just said "I want to talk to my parents and I want a lawyer."

[Anonymous]

I will start with my kids mixing me cocktails starting late elementary school/middle school and watch them like hawk if they are pouring themselves a little. And maybe let them have a sip or two in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean, my kids are preschoolers and I guess I'm "teaching" them to drink now, in that they know that alcohol is for grownups only, and that they see us never have more than one or two drinks, and usually in social occasions (like when we have friends or family for dinner or a party).

I'll start letting them have tastes probably around 12 (as my dad did) and their own drink once they seem to be done growing, around 15-17. With us, at home only.

Oh, and I'll also teach them the key things in high school:

1) Never drive drunk or get in the car with someone drunk.
2) Mom will always come and get you, just call.
3) Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything.
4) Never get drunk around people you don't know well or trust. You don't know anyone that well your first semester of college, so keep it to a beer or two. Wait until you have real friends you've known and bonded with for a few months and trust if you want to experiment with drinking more. And then look out for each other!
5) Watch your drink.

Please be trolling. Your third point makes you sound like a gang leader with a heart of gold. I have been raising my kids with age appropriate lessons. As to drinking, the legal age is 21, we have alcoholics on both sides (my kids have seen some of them ruin gatherings), I will not allow, enable or approve any underage drinking, etc, etc.

PP here. I can understand your position on not allowing, enabling or approving any underage drinking. It's not the path I will take, and it's not the path my parents took, but I get it.

But what's your problem with "Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything."? That's excellent advice, in all circumstances, not just around drinking. You should ABSOLUTELY tell your kids to tell the police nothing. I'm sorry, but unless you're in immediate physical danger, the police aren't your friends, and they're not there to help you. They will also lie right to your face to get you to confess to a crime. My friend's brother was arrested for public intoxication (out by the frats at his college) and the police did their "if you just tell us what happened we can help you" and he did and they threw the book at him. And by the time his parents found out, it was too late to do much. He didn't do jail time or anything, but tons of community service, and probation and it's on his record, which was avoidable if instead of telling the police the truth, he'd just said "I want to talk to my parents and I want a lawyer."

Consequences also would have been avoided if he wasn’t publicly intoxicated.

Let’s not pretend here. That wasn’t the officers’ fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I mean, my kids are preschoolers and I guess I'm "teaching" them to drink now, in that they know that alcohol is for grownups only, and that they see us never have more than one or two drinks, and usually in social occasions (like when we have friends or family for dinner or a party).

I'll start letting them have tastes probably around 12 (as my dad did) and their own drink once they seem to be done growing, around 15-17. With us, at home only.

Oh, and I'll also teach them the key things in high school:

1) Never drive drunk or get in the car with someone drunk.
2) Mom will always come and get you, just call.
3) Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything.
4) Never get drunk around people you don't know well or trust. You don't know anyone that well your first semester of college, so keep it to a beer or two. Wait until you have real friends you've known and bonded with for a few months and trust if you want to experiment with drinking more. And then look out for each other!
5) Watch your drink.

Please be trolling. Your third point makes you sound like a gang leader with a heart of gold. I have been raising my kids with age appropriate lessons. As to drinking, the legal age is 21, we have alcoholics on both sides (my kids have seen some of them ruin gatherings), I will not allow, enable or approve any underage drinking, etc, etc.

PP here. I can understand your position on not allowing, enabling or approving any underage drinking. It's not the path I will take, and it's not the path my parents took, but I get it.

But what's your problem with "Tell the police nothing. Tell the paramedics everything."? That's excellent advice, in all circumstances, not just around drinking. You should ABSOLUTELY tell your kids to tell the police nothing. I'm sorry, but unless you're in immediate physical danger, the police aren't your friends, and they're not there to help you. They will also lie right to your face to get you to confess to a crime. My friend's brother was arrested for public intoxication (out by the frats at his college) and the police did their "if you just tell us what happened we can help you" and he did and they threw the book at him. And by the time his parents found out, it was too late to do much. He didn't do jail time or anything, but tons of community service, and probation and it's on his record, which was avoidable if instead of telling the police the truth, he'd just said "I want to talk to my parents and I want a lawyer."

Consequences also would have been avoided if he wasn’t publicly intoxicated.

Let’s not pretend here. That wasn’t the officers’ fault.

Sure. But the question here is about advice and teaching your kid. Teach your kid not to be publicly intoxicated and generally not to break any laws. Excellent. But, whether you've done anything illegal or not, once you're arrested? The best advice for your kid is still "say nothing, ask to speak to us or a lawyer."