Women are so nasty on this Board, I now truly believe women cannot be friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I have some very profoundly deep female friendships. Almost like sisters. Had no idea that we weren't even capable of the friendships I thought we had. Dammit.

Me too! I don't trust women who don't like other women.

[Anonymous]

Pot...kettle...black.

[Anonymous]

I am convinced that there are just a few nasty people who troll the boards looking to start up drama. If you really pay attention (especially on some of the other boards like General Parenting) you'll see that it is usually the same person because of the style of their writing and the tendency to write mean one-sentence reponses. People who really care about an issue will provide more info to prove their argument. And then the other posters get all upset and start name calling when they could just ignore the troll.

I wish we could "flag" posts that are obviously unproductive and the moderators would remove them like on other message boards. I believe most people on these boards are normal, nice people.

[Anonymous]

Your subject line has a comma splice, and board should not be capitalized.

Anonymous wrote:Anonymity or not, the nasty, rude, hostile, irritated, condescending and judgmental emails make it pretty clear that true friendship among adult women is not possible. There's clearly too much ugly under the surface to make a real friendship possible.

[Anonymous]

When I am nice to my friends IRL, I am often thinking not-that-nice thoughts. I think things I would never say. I am outwardly supportive of everything any female acquaintance ever does, no matter how dumb it strikes me. I hope I leave people feeling good, because it's no more difficult for me to act nice and supportive than it is to act cutting and judgmental.

I am the Eddie Haskell of moms.

[jsteele]

Anonymous wrote:
I wish we could "flag" posts that are obviously unproductive and the moderators would remove them like on other message boards. I believe most people on these boards are normal, nice people.

Look in the lower right hand corner of each message. You will see a button that says "report". The purpose of that button is to do exactly what you describe. I remove messages every day because they have been reported. Some messages get reported that do not rise to the level of deserving removal, but I review every message that is reported.

[Anonymous]

Yes, we need a revolution here on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Kind of a silly subject line statement in that's it's a pretty big generalization from an anonymous board.

I never start crap on DCUM but if someone says something blatantly ridiculous or inflammatory, I will be my sarcastic self and call them on it. Overall though most of my posts are supportive because otherwise I don't really bother posting.

For the most part, this board is a lot like my neighborhood mom's list serv - some women are really intelligent and funny and I love hearing from them, others are not. Some are really misinformed (like the woman on my mom's list-serv who insisted the H1N1 vaccine would cause Gulf War syndrome).

I think it's easier in real life because when you are having a conversation with real people you don't generalize as much.

[Anonymous]

I'd rather have some not-so-nice things said to my face by close friends. At least I know where they're coming from.

How deeply do your friendships go? I have a handful of GOOD friends who are brutally honest, cynical, sarcastic and - most importantly - funny as hell. I don't waste my time with other women. They hang on my perimeter. Life's too short to deal with superficial beings - and liars.

PP, I bet if you really let loose we could be good friends.

Anonymous wrote:When I am nice to my friends IRL, I am often thinking not-that-nice thoughts. I think things I would never say. I am outwardly supportive of everything any female acquaintance ever does, no matter how dumb it strikes me. I hope I leave people feeling good, because it's no more difficult for me to act nice and supportive than it is to act cutting and judgmental.

I am the Eddie Haskell of moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"And I feel the same is true in "real life"...most women are perfectly rationale and pleasant and supportive. "

How do you know?

She said she "feels" the same is true in real life. Not that she knows.
But on a related note, the obnoxious "How do you know" poster is a classic on DCUM...

[Anonymous]

The women on this forum aren't friends. All your observations prove is that a group of strangers can be mean to each other.

[Anonymous]

It seems the rotten ones on this board are the minority. They seem quite bored and frustrated with their own lives. Look around - it's not hard to believe!

I'm tired of them derailing posts. They have nothing intelligent to add, and bring the quality of DCUM (I know, I know) down. We should either report them or pretend they don't exist.

They remind me of the ADD kid who would disrupt the entire class for no reason, and ended up dropping out of school, sadly. They need to get a grip.