Aging parents overseas

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Anonymous wrote:You have siblings there, it's their problem. Send money if that is an issue.
The cat pee could be human. I thought the smell in my mother's house was the cat. Tuns out it was her pee, she sat on towels and would not use Depends. She spent her last years homebound because of it.
The problem with your boyfriend is it makes it harder for her to get you to give up your life to serve her. It would be any person.

It is definitely the cats, but I noticed a smell in the bathroom as well. She uses pads for incontinence, but instead of putting the used ones in the trash, I found them in the bathroom cabinets wrapped in toilet paper. This is the reason for the bathroom smell. It was awful.

Why would she do that? It sounds like she is having age related cognitive decline and that is the real problem here.

She has been doing this for years. I notice it every time that I visit. I have not found the courage to ask about it, so I quietly remove the pads from the cabinet and put them in the trash. She seems to function normally, but I noticed a physical decline and therefore she is unable to keep up with the household chores of a very large house. My parents would really need to downsize, but they will never ever do this. I've tried suggestions, reached out to therapists, cleaning services etc. She also used to spend money compulsively on catalogue shopping and even got my father's salary seized a few times because she would hide the bills and not pay them. She was in her 30's and 40's at that time.

Maybe she does it because she has OCD.

Sounds like she has a long history of problems. You need to give up home that your mother will be kind, sensible, or reasonable. Focus on keeping her safe and healthy. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have siblings there, it's their problem. Send money if that is an issue.
The cat pee could be human. I thought the smell in my mother's house was the cat. Tuns out it was her pee, she sat on towels and would not use Depends. She spent her last years homebound because of it.
The problem with your boyfriend is it makes it harder for her to get you to give up your life to serve her. It would be any person.

It is definitely the cats, but I noticed a smell in the bathroom as well. She uses pads for incontinence, but instead of putting the used ones in the trash, I found them in the bathroom cabinets wrapped in toilet paper. This is the reason for the bathroom smell. It was awful.

Why would she do that? It sounds like she is having age related cognitive decline and that is the real problem here.

She has been doing this for years. I notice it every time that I visit. I have not found the courage to ask about it, so I quietly remove the pads from the cabinet and put them in the trash. She seems to function normally, but I noticed a physical decline and therefore she is unable to keep up with the household chores of a very large house. My parents would really need to downsize, but they will never ever do this. I've tried suggestions, reached out to therapists, cleaning services etc. She also used to spend money compulsively on catalogue shopping and even got my father's salary seized a few times because she would hide the bills and not pay them. She was in her 30's and 40's at that time.

Maybe she does it because she has OCD.

Sounds like she has a long history of problems. You need to give up home that your mother will be kind, sensible, or reasonable. Focus on keeping her safe and healthy. I'm sorry.

What are you trying to say? This is gibberish.