My spouse tells their family every thing

[Anonymous]

In a lot of families, people use each other as sound boards and confidants, hard for others to understand if they don't come from similar background and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You two need to discuss what and how much of your lives can be discussed with your respective families and friends and how much needs to be private. Its not rocket science.

You can love and respect your parents yet have healthy boundaries.

Don't marry someone before knowing them for two years so you two know each other's family dynamics. If having a close knit family is a problem, don't marry into one.

Someone like that isn’t going to listen. If you don’t have the common sense about what is private for family only or a sense that your relationship with your spouse is separate and closer, than from your parents or siblings, you’re not going to learn.

Indicates a broken brain or a person not ready for marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a lot of families, people use each other as sound boards and confidants, hard for others to understand if they don't come from similar background and vice versa.

Interesting … sounding out problems with family… like the closest member of your family? And if you’re married and your spouse isn’t the closest member of your family, you’re doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a lot of families, people use each other as sound boards and confidants, hard for others to understand if they don't come from similar background and vice versa.

Yup.alot of dysfunctional families on DCUM so it's understandable they wouldn't understand this dynamic..

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In a lot of families, people use each other as sound boards and confidants, hard for others to understand if they don't come from similar background and vice versa.

Interesting … sounding out problems with family… like the closest member of your family? And if you’re married and your spouse isn’t the closest member of your family, you’re doing it wrong.

It's possible to have both.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You two need to discuss what and how much of your lives can be discussed with your respective families and friends and how much needs to be private. Its not rocket science.

You can love and respect your parents yet have healthy boundaries.

Don't marry someone before knowing them for two years so you two know each other's family dynamics. If having a close knit family is a problem, don't marry into one.

Someone like that isn’t going to listen. If you don’t have the common sense about what is private for family only or a sense that your relationship with your spouse is separate and closer, than from your parents or siblings, you’re not going to learn.

Indicates a broken brain or a person not ready for marriage.

Wow. Dramatic much. This is a person who has spent too much time in therapy and on the Internet

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a lot of families, people use each other as sound boards and confidants, hard for others to understand if they don't come from similar background and vice versa.

Interesting … sounding out problems with family… like the closest member of your family? And if you’re married and your spouse isn’t the closest member of your family, you’re doing it wrong.

It's possible to have both.

No, your parents and siblings are your extended family after you get married. Don't betray your spouse.

[Anonymous]

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You married a person who has loose lips possibly likes to gossip and over shares

How did you not know this? Ask him/her to stop.

X2. Tell them to STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drives me crazy, it’s innocuous on the surface but it’s weird to hear them give a blow by blow account of our lives. It’s a huge turnoff and I’m a private person.

So establish dominance. Tell them you want some things to be just between the two of you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a lot of families, people use each other as sound boards and confidants, hard for others to understand if they don't come from similar background and vice versa.

Interesting … sounding out problems with family… like the closest member of your family? And if you’re married and your spouse isn’t the closest member of your family, you’re doing it wrong.

It's possible to have both.

No, your parents and siblings are your extended family after you get married. Don't betray your spouse.

Oh it's the zealot poster

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In a lot of families, people use each other as sound boards and confidants, hard for others to understand if they don't come from similar background and vice versa.

Interesting … sounding out problems with family… like the closest member of your family? And if you’re married and your spouse isn’t the closest member of your family, you’re doing it wrong.

It's possible to have both.

No, your parents and siblings are your extended family after you get married. Don't betray your spouse.

Oh it's the zealot poster

Oh, it's the poster who forgot her wedding vows.

Take care of YOUR family first... sorry if your brother doesn't like that he got demoted to "extended family" but he should get his own wife, not meddle in your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drives me crazy, it’s innocuous on the surface but it’s weird to hear them give a blow by blow account of our lives. It’s a huge turnoff and I’m a private person.

You married the wrong person. You are a private person, he is not. You value privacy, he does not. How did end up together. You should have married and more private person. You made a mistake but you can still fix it.

[Anonymous]

My spouse does this too and I’ve told him to stop when I find out. I don’t care if he shares things about the kids, vacations, or other things, but I draw the line at sharing things about my medical issues or things to do with my family. It comes back to bite me in the end. They complain when the find out my mom and I went to do things and say that I never invite my MIL to do those things, too. Well, my mom never treated me the way MIL has.