My spouse tells their family every thing

[Anonymous]

Drives me crazy, it’s innocuous on the surface but it’s weird to hear them give a blow by blow account of our lives. It’s a huge turnoff and I’m a private person.

[Anonymous]

Okay.

[Anonymous]

Does your spouse know it bothers you?

[Anonymous]

Mine is the same way, it's so annoying.

[Anonymous]

mine too. keep your mouth shut, man!

[Anonymous]

Must be an Aquarius or gemini

[Anonymous]

After the first few years of our marriage, my ex started to tell his sister everything, including our marital problems, private personal things that I had told him, etc. I told him repeatedly that I considered it a betrayal and that he was making it like there were three people in the marriage instead of two. He didn’t care. We are now divorced.

PP, he IS a Gemini!

[Anonymous]

If he is used to process life by sharing it with his family, it would take some time for conscious unlearning to establish new boundaries. Help him with the process by showing how you don't do that out of respect for this new family which you two are building together.

[Anonymous]

If OP's DH was asking her to do this, DCUM would say that he is trying to isolate and control her.

[Anonymous]

It depends what information he is relaying. Where we plan to vacation - not a problem. Money stuff or medical - off limits in my book.

[Anonymous]

Mine too and it's hard to keep medical things to myself for logistical reasons, but he just barfs everything back to his parents. I've expressed this over many years. Now I keep things more to myself.

[Anonymous]

You married a person who has loose lips possibly likes to gossip and over shares

How did you not know this? Ask him/her to stop.

[Anonymous]

There are people like this, for whom if you tell them something, they think it's ok to tell the whole world. It's the reason why I never tell my sister anything anymore.

I'm a vault, and also a private person. To me, I can't imagine blabbering to the whole world - even if it seems benign. Even for benign things, it's not my business to tell or pass it on.

[Anonymous]

I wonder what DCUMERS talk about with their families, health/medical is off limits, as is the kids because anything talking about the kids is bragging or invading their privacy, no politics or religion. sports is lowclass. Food is triggering. Vacation again might be seen as bragging. Seems weather is a safe topic.

[Anonymous]

You two need to discuss what and how much of your lives can be discussed with your respective families and friends and how much needs to be private. Its not rocket science.

You can love and respect your parents yet have healthy boundaries.

Don't marry someone before knowing them for two years so you two know each other's family dynamics. If having a close knit family is a problem, don't marry into one.