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Anonymous wrote:Get him signed up for all kid activity duty. He can stand on the sidelines at practice, start the carpool for other kids, attend all dr appts, organize play dates, go shopping for their new shoes, etc.

Yeah if he's WFH he won't have commute time anymore and his social time can be kid stuff. My DH was WFH and this worked great for us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get him signed up for all kid activity duty. He can stand on the sidelines at practice, start the carpool for other kids, attend all dr appts, organize play dates, go shopping for their new shoes, etc.

Right!! Why is this on the mom only? Sounds like dad would love to sit and talk to all the other dads at practices.

OP- I don't think your dh is cut out for WFH. Watching TV during the work day?!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Get him signed up for all kid activity duty. He can stand on the sidelines at practice, start the carpool for other kids, attend all dr appts, organize play dates, go shopping for their new shoes, etc.

Yeah if he's WFH he won't have commute time anymore and his social time can be kid stuff. My DH was WFH and this worked great for us.

But OP coaches a varsity sport. Is that skill perfectly elastic to the DH?

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Anonymous wrote:Get him signed up for all kid activity duty. He can stand on the sidelines at practice, start the carpool for other kids, attend all dr appts, organize play dates, go shopping for their new shoes, etc.

Yeah if he's WFH he won't have commute time anymore and his social time can be kid stuff. My DH was WFH and this worked great for us.

But OP coaches a varsity sport. Is that skill perfectly elastic to the DH?

I only coach a varsity sport in the fall, so I do have flexibility during the other seasons, but I could definitely put him in charge of things. Both of our children drive, so drivers aren’t needed as much, but he will definitely need to step up in other areas. He hates to do house chores, like he doesn’t do them at all. Since I work less, I do some of them, but I do admit that I’m lazy about others, like laundry. Maybe I need to get him on board with doing some house chores for this to work. Maybe I’m worried about him more than he’ll resent me now that I processed this through.

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Anonymous wrote:Is considering taking a job that is remote. I know that sounds ideal, and so much of it is, but there are a few flaws -
1. He is an extreme extrovert. On the few days that he works from home, he’s itching to get out of the house and do something by the end of the day. I’m afraid he will drive me crazy because I’m more of an introvert and I’m happier to be home.
2. I really don’t need him micromanaging my life or judging me. I work part-time, volunteer at my kids school, coach varsity sport, but take my downtime during the day bc that is when I get it. From 3-10 I’m busting my tale. I’m not sure he fully comprehends this and if I want a nap at 1:00, then I deserve one! When he is done with his workday, he gets his downtime.

Any ideas on this? How to keep our marriage, healthy and intact.? Are there places that he could go to work during the day that don’t cost much money? Any advice would be helpful..

Why would your husband work elsewhere? The idea of your DH working from the library or a coffee shop so you don’t feel judged napping at 1 pm is irrational. Does he think you work full time or are more productive? Just align with him on things if you are afraid of judgement; don’t try to kick him out of the house so you can maintain some facade of business.

I WFH and on the days my husband is also WFH we both do our own thing. He’s not mad I went for a run and I’m not mad he bought a coffee.

If your spouse going to WFH puts stress on your marriage it probably needs some TLC.

OP here - This is a great point and very valid. And to answer another question that was on here, I am very on top of things when it comes to paying bills, keeping track of our lives, doing all the paperwork, dealing with kids schoolwork, doing finances, paying taxes, etc. but sometimes I do slack with laundry and housework.

This is an excellent troll. Notice she is listing made up work (how much paperwork does a household have, are you filing TPS reports daily?).

You don’t even get the housework done, but need a nap? You are depressed or anemic. Are you secretly a kindergartener and need crackers and milk before nap?

Working parents the deal is both parents grind equally — so unless you DH is checking out and popping his feet up on the lazy boy when his shift ends, this is inequitable and he will now see it in real time in person.

[Anonymous]

Napping during the day OP? Who has time for that? Also you're just going to go to the job store and get one of the WFH jobs? This post makes zero sense to me. No reason why you're looking for work yet you start in on your annoying husband. What does he have to do with any of this?

Your post lacks clarity and effort.

[Anonymous]

Wow, OP here- sorry for offending people. It is hard to explain my job without getting too detailed but it is independent work, and hourly, so my pay is small. And for coaching, I don’t really get paid much either. Because I’m not really earning much income I’ve taken over all of the household things. And yes, there isn’t a ton of paperwork for our house, but our children are not Neurotypical, so that does require a lot of involvement from me with their school. It also requires a lot of managing their homework, preparing them for test, and making sure they’re getting the accommodation that they need. So yes, there is an a ton of paperwork for our home, I meant more for our children.
I kept potentially be anemic or depressed. I do take iron pills, lol. I think it’s more that I’m an introvert and my job requires me to be around people, so that kind of exhausts me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, OP here- sorry for offending people. It is hard to explain my job without getting too detailed but it is independent work, and hourly, so my pay is small. And for coaching, I don’t really get paid much either. Because I’m not really earning much income I’ve taken over all of the household things. And yes, there isn’t a ton of paperwork for our house, but our children are not Neurotypical, so that does require a lot of involvement from me with their school. It also requires a lot of managing their homework, preparing them for test, and making sure they’re getting the accommodation that they need. So yes, there is an a ton of paperwork for our home, I meant more for our children.
I kept potentially be anemic or depressed. I do take iron pills, lol. I think it’s more that I’m an introvert and my job requires me to be around people, so that kind of exhausts me.

Sorry for the types I’m on my phone!

[Anonymous]

He will go stir crazy and drive you nuts. Start noticing things around the house "that need to be done" and fixate on him. Extroverts have lots of social energy--that will instead be redirected to you and endless household thigs. BTDT. ugh.

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Yeah update us in 1 month OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He will go stir crazy and drive you nuts. Start noticing things around the house "that need to be done" and fixate on him. Extroverts have lots of social energy--that will instead be redirected to you and endless household thigs. BTDT. ugh.

That is MY FEAR! Is there a place I can send him - rent an office or go a coffee shop or something?!

[Anonymous]

WFH is risky now, as A.I. is starting to replace a lot of those "jobs" it seems. If it's all computer, cut out the human from the equation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WFH is risky now, as A.I. is starting to replace a lot of those "jobs" it seems. If it's all computer, cut out the human from the equation.

OMG go to one of the many AI doom threads you started and preach there.
AI is a disaster in so many areas and not replacing real people. And offshore is a disaster too. Executives are blind to the shiny things and cost "savings" but the data don't lie that everything is absolutely costlier and excrement.