Lonely husband pressuring son to be his "buddy"

[Anonymous]

Ha ha! I can see the old age of your DH is not going to be pretty. Alone in a nursing home and never visited by anyone. You all hate him so much. Poor man.

[Anonymous]

More concerned with you son here. "My son said he just wanted to go driving by himself tonight." "My college aged son wanted to drive around by himself afterwards to catch the fireworks before midnight."

Why? Why alone? Or is he not telling you who he's hanging out with or what he's really doing? Why so secretive and alone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More concerned with you son here. "My son said he just wanted to go driving by himself tonight." "My college aged son wanted to drive around by himself afterwards to catch the fireworks before midnight."

Why? Why alone? Or is he not telling you who he's hanging out with or what he's really doing? Why so secretive and alone?

Son was probably getting high and looking for some downlow sex.

OP, just get a divorce already. Sheesh. You sound horrible.

[Anonymous]

Why is your son so selfish? I assume you raised him.

[Anonymous]

Son wanted alone time after needy parent all day.

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds like he’s greater autistic phenotype.

Your son was not seeing fireworks solo lol. You’re quite naive.

[Anonymous]

My goodness. I can always count on DCUM's bitter people to be snarky. lol

Son OFTEN goes to places alone. He's an avid photographer. He's taken numerous classes in photography and many have offered to buy his photos. He refuses to sell them. He just loves taking beautiful photos.

My son isn't selfish. And I'm not a terrible wife or mother. Husband has been cruel to the whole family for many years. When I was very ill and bedridden, unable to cook for the kids, husband only made breakfast for the younger kids but not for our college aged son. He asked him to use his allowance money for food. It wasn't enough of an allowance for gas and food, however, and I was too sick to protest on his behalf at the time. My son still needed gas money to get to school and so was skipping meals. He lost about 8 lbs during that time.

Too many other cruel behaviors to get into and it's not worth discussing it.

I'm not sure what "greater autistic phenotype" is but I have wondered whether he might be somewhere on the spectrum in light of the many behaviors he's exhibited.

I still have younger children - so divorce is out of the question right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My goodness. I can always count on DCUM's bitter people to be snarky. lol

Son OFTEN goes to places alone. He's an avid photographer. He's taken numerous classes in photography and many have offered to buy his photos. He refuses to sell them. He just loves taking beautiful photos.

My son isn't selfish. And I'm not a terrible wife or mother. Husband has been cruel to the whole family for many years. When I was very ill and bedridden, unable to cook for the kids, husband only made breakfast for the younger kids but not for our college aged son. He asked him to use his allowance money for food. It wasn't enough of an allowance for gas and food, however, and I was too sick to protest on his behalf at the time. My son still needed gas money to get to school and so was skipping meals. He lost about 8 lbs during that time.

Too many other cruel behaviors to get into and it's not worth discussing it.

I'm not sure what "greater autistic phenotype" is but I have wondered whether he might be somewhere on the spectrum in light of the many behaviors he's exhibited.

I still have younger children - so divorce is out of the question right now.

Sorry that people are being mean. But your excuse of having younger children so you won't divorce is so silly. Please reevaluate. You're setting a bad example for your children, I hope you don't have daughters. I love being in my own household, and showing my daughter that my life doesn't need to be centered around an angry man. He lives a mile away and so it's not like he's not around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My goodness. I can always count on DCUM's bitter people to be snarky. lol

Son OFTEN goes to places alone. He's an avid photographer. He's taken numerous classes in photography and many have offered to buy his photos. He refuses to sell them. He just loves taking beautiful photos.

My son isn't selfish. And I'm not a terrible wife or mother. Husband has been cruel to the whole family for many years. When I was very ill and bedridden, unable to cook for the kids, husband only made breakfast for the younger kids but not for our college aged son. He asked him to use his allowance money for food. It wasn't enough of an allowance for gas and food, however, and I was too sick to protest on his behalf at the time. My son still needed gas money to get to school and so was skipping meals. He lost about 8 lbs during that time.

Too many other cruel behaviors to get into and it's not worth discussing it.

I'm not sure what "greater autistic phenotype" is but I have wondered whether he might be somewhere on the spectrum in light of the many behaviors he's exhibited.

I still have younger children - so divorce is out of the question right now.

If you only want bum pats and to be told exactly what you want to hear why bother posting?
Your son is an adult it's not your job to manage his relationship with his dad.

He was not going to just watch fireworks alone or photographing them. He has a boyfriend or girlfriend that he doesn't want you to meet yet see the bit about him being an adult.

Staying together for the kids means you fake happy families so suck it up and entertain your husband for the kids

[Anonymous]

I think you are toxic with your husband and should divorce even with dependents. It’s not healthy for him to be around such negativity, or for you to be so negative.