Wedding gift for a cousin not close with

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stick with the Registry. Are you attending the wedding? It's always safe to pick a gift where the cost, generally, represents the cost of hosting you/you and another if you're bringing someone.

In my culture the registry is for the engagement party only. It would be tacky to buy something off the registry for the wedding. Wedding gifts are checks.

Is this OP? If so, you should have mentioned this at the start. If this isn't OP, unless OP is of the same culture this is not relevant. Just buy something off the registry you can afford. Spend what you would on a coworker you are not close to who invited you to a wedding. The amount should not be more than you can easily afford-close or not, but if you are not close, don't spend as much as you would on a close family member.

[Anonymous]

$100 and nothing more. That’s good enough and won’t ruffle any feathers.

[Anonymous]

$100-$150

Or similar amount in registry gifts

[Anonymous]

Please don't attend this wedding reception. You don't care for the couple and they don't want to seat/pay for your family of 4. Send your $100 in a card or not.

[Anonymous]

Give what you can, no one remembers who gave what in no time!!!

[Anonymous]

I went to a wedding of a not-close-cousin about a year ago and gave a check for $250. It was just me that attended. Our kids (late teens/early 20s) were not invited and we didn't want to leave the high schooler at home for the weekend (it was a couple hour flight away) so my Dh stayed home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't attend this wedding reception. You don't care for the couple and they don't want to seat/pay for your family of 4. Send your $100 in a card or not.

+1

[Anonymous]

This kind of thing really depends on your income and what you can afford.

If it was just the two of us we’d probably do $200.

If kids were invited probably $300.

But if not close, we might just decline the invite and send a card & $100-$200.

No real rhyme or reason behind the $ amounts, just around what I would normally do, off the top of my head. For people we are not close with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please don't attend this wedding reception. You don't care for the couple and they don't want to seat/pay for your family of 4. Send your $100 in a card or not.

She didn’t say she doesn’t care for them, she says they’re not close.

I have cousins like this whose weddings I’ve attended because my aunt or uncle would have been mortified if we hadn’t gone. Weddings aren’t just the bride and groom, even these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please don't attend this wedding reception. You don't care for the couple and they don't want to seat/pay for your family of 4. Send your $100 in a card or not.

She didn’t say she doesn’t care for them, she says they’re not close.

I have cousins like this whose weddings I’ve attended because my aunt or uncle would have been mortified if we hadn’t gone. Weddings aren’t just the bride and groom, even these days.

+1

Weddings are often a milestone of sorts for the parents of the bride and groom as well, and they often invite those close to them (even if those people are not personally so close to the bride and groom) if it is a larger wedding. Pretty common, especially if the parents are contributing financially to wedding costs, and can be a cultural expectation as well. Especially extended family. Often the entire extended family will be invited regardless of close relationship or not. And “not being close” certainly doesn’t mean there is any ill will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$100 and nothing more. That’s good enough and won’t ruffle any feathers.

Wow. Cheap, much?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This kind of thing really depends on your income and what you can afford.

If it was just the two of us we’d probably do $200.

If kids were invited probably $300.

But if not close, we might just decline the invite and send a card & $100-$200.

No real rhyme or reason behind the $ amounts, just around what I would normally do, off the top of my head. For people we are not close with.

I’ve always understood the etiquette to giftat least what the bride and groom are likely spending to have you attend. If you don’t want to spend that much then decline the invite and send a gift for less.

[Anonymous]

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