Mid 40s F, sex drive WAY up

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I feel like this whole thread is being written by 15 year old boys

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this whole thread is being written by 15 year old boys

Yeah, especially the "you're allowed to cheat" bit. Ugh. SO gross...

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Anonymous wrote:Two things:

How long does this increase typically last? Because I hear it totally plummets after menopause? So like 5-10 years at the most?

I must be in perimenopause now because my libido is way up. I basically think about it all the time now and want to have sex every day. My husband must be bewildered, lol. It’s funny because all through my thirties, when I was pregnant/post partum/breastfeeding/and then frequently “touched out” by 3 babies and toddlers, I only really wanted it around ovulation. I made sure to have sex once a week just to keep my husband happy but I would have been ok without.

Now though, it’s completely different and I have to assume it’s due to the hormone imbalance (estrogen falls in perimenopause so testosterone is more dominant at the moment).

So that leads me to the second thing:

Is this what it’s like for men all their lives but even worse? I truly can’t imagine. I kind of feel bad for them now!! They can’t help themselves.

Does anyone else relate?

If your husband can't meet your needs, you should feel free to find other outlets. You have a biological need, and free license to do whatever is necessary.

Only creeps think this way. Disgusting. Where is your integrity? Your self-respect? what a dog...

[Anonymous]

I remember fondly of those days when DW was going through this

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Anonymous wrote:Enjoy it. Went to the urologist last week for my weak erections who then sent me to a cardiologist. I got all results back I have no med issues according to them that warrant ED meds.

Imm going to try some mediation maybe i am too stressed. I appreciate my DW patience as we work on this.

That’s whack. You literally have the only issue that warrants ED meds - poor erections and have been checked out to verify no other cause. Give it a couple weeks, re-approach the urologist, tell him you’ve been getting great sleep and lowered your stress and are still having trouble, and you think you could benefit from a Cialis script. If he won’t do it, try your PCP.

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Anonymous wrote:Enjoy it. Went to the urologist last week for my weak erections who then sent me to a cardiologist. I got all results back I have no med issues according to them that warrant ED meds.

Imm going to try some mediation maybe i am too stressed. I appreciate my DW patience as we work on this.

That’s whack. You literally have the only issue that warrants ED meds - poor erections and have been checked out to verify no other cause. Give it a couple weeks, re-approach the urologist, tell him you’ve been getting great sleep and lowered your stress and are still having trouble, and you think you could benefit from a Cialis script. If he won’t do it, try your PCP.

Change urologists.

[Anonymous]

Libido completely disappears during menopause for most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like this whole thread is being written by 15 year old boys

Trolls have completely taken over this subgroup and many of the others.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this whole thread is being written by 15 year old boys

46 F here and no. This is very normal for women our age. I'm sorry you can't relate. Sounds like you have some issues to work out though if this perfectly normal thing triggers you.

[Anonymous]

When I was 38-39 I went through this DH wasn't interested at all due to depression we had zero sex and I didn't and don't cheat. I felt like I was in heat but it didn't last long now I'm 49 still having cycles but no interest. Enjoy it while you can it's very fleeting for some. I feel sadness and a little regret....

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this whole thread is being written by 15 year old boys

You will be back in a few decades.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like this whole thread is being written by 15 year old boys

You will be back in a few decades.

A resurgence in libido prior to menopause is well-known. It’s the way the posts are written that sound contrived.

[Anonymous]

For some women, the resurgence of libido results in opening the back door. If that’s the case for you OP, let DH know.

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Anonymous wrote:Libido completely disappears during menopause for most.

I know plenty of women in their 50s and 60s with active sex lives. I actually don’t have any friends who have completely lost their desire. So I doubt the above statement is true.

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Anonymous wrote:Libido completely disappears during menopause for most.

I know plenty of women in their 50s and 60s with active sex lives. I actually don’t have any friends who have completely lost their desire. So I doubt the above statement is true.

Agree.

Totally wrong assumption at least for my 67 year old wife. Thankfully.