what % of 35 year old are still living at home?

[Anonymous]

I assume a high percentage. Housing is unaffordable and jobs can be hard to find (especially those who went into tech - not to mention all of those government layoffs).

[Anonymous]

Well I assume they are living at home. I am living at home. My home, and I assume they are living in their home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I only know one person - a 50 year-old Korean woman who has always lived with her parents. She works in finance and never married and I think they all like the arrangement. At this point, she is the one taking care of them.

I also know a Korean family in a similar situation. 4 kids, the family owns a 2 family house. 3 of the kids got married and moved away. One stayed, he took over one apartment, the widowed mom lives in another, and the son takes care of the house letting his mom age in place. He is gainfully employed full time, so it’s not a failure to launch financially situation.

[Anonymous]

Most move out in 30s before 40 to finally buy a house of their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what % of 35 year old are still living at home?
I see the numbers of people in their 20s is very high, but don't see much numbers of people over 35+ are they moving out ?

That's a very traditional thing to do. Families add on to houses, or build more in close proximity, or simply make do with living all under one roof.

It's how generational wealth is built.

Sending kids out at 18 to rent, spend, and get into debt is asinine and mostly uniquely North American in nature.

That's also how generational trauma, codependency and blurred boundaries are built.

Only if one is mentally ill or maladjusted.
Apple and tree thing.

[Anonymous]

I wonder what % of those 35-year-olds smoke pot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two relatives in this category.
One is taking care of the 10 acre farm because his parents are getting too old. He also has a WFH job. He left for several years and then came back.
Another has lived in the parents'home forever even now, married, with children. Cultural difference that my relative married into. My relative LIKES it because she gets to live in a beautiful house with free babysitting and never has to cook or clean. If they tried to move out the parents would lose it.

A lot of married with kids ACs (above 35) are choosing to live with their parents in my own immigrant community. The buying power for housing and various services is immense because they are pooling resources. Here are the benefits -

- Financial security. You will not lose the house if one person loses their job. Also, people save a lot of money when they are sharing costs in multi-gen families, so the savings are robust enough to withstand financial ups and downs,
- Usually live in a beautiful, very big house in a good school district - which adult children could not have afforded in their own salary, by pooling in resources. There are common areas and also own private areas/spaces for each member of the family.
- Free babysitting? Yes...to an extent. Most people do spend on getting some sort of nannies/help who come home and help the grandparents to take care of the babies. Also, as they kids grow older - grandparents can take them for EC activities or have tutors come home to teach. Of course, illness, snow days, weekends, lockdowns, remote learning etc...everything gets handled much more easily. Kids are always supervised and kept busy.
- Free eldercare? Yes...to an extent. The common household machinery serves everyone - laundry, cooking, cleaning, home/lawn/car maintenance - is done jointly and/or outsourced - so the elderly may be very frail but are never living in squalor and neglect. Usually, some kind of paid companion or nursing attendent is also hired because of better buying power. I know vendors who come to cut hair, nail and shave beards of elderly people, give therapuetic massages or various physical therapies etc. It delays sending the elderly patient to AL significantly
- Loneliness and mental illness. Usually, there is enough support and companionship to curb bad habits, depression, loneliness and mental illness. People of all generations are usually engaged and have better resilience.

In the event of the death of an elderly parent, the adult children don't have to scramble to take care of the remaining parent or get rid of their hoarded up house and sell it. The act of living together in the first place already sees a natural Swedish Death Cleanse to happen. Nothing gets impacted in a logistically big way. This is a gift for the adult children who are called to take care of elderly parents, young children and their own home and career - at the same time and feel overwhelmed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two relatives in this category.
One is taking care of the 10 acre farm because his parents are getting too old. He also has a WFH job. He left for several years and then came back.
Another has lived in the parents'home forever even now, married, with children. Cultural difference that my relative married into. My relative LIKES it because she gets to live in a beautiful house with free babysitting and never has to cook or clean. If they tried to move out the parents would lose it.

A lot of married with kids ACs (above 35) are choosing to live with their parents in my own immigrant community. The buying power for housing and various services is immense because they are pooling resources. Here are the benefits -

- Financial security. You will not lose the house if one person loses their job. Also, people save a lot of money when they are sharing costs in multi-gen families, so the savings are robust enough to withstand financial ups and downs,
- Usually live in a beautiful, very big house in a good school district - which adult children could not have afforded in their own salary, by pooling in resources. There are common areas and also own private areas/spaces for each member of the family.
- Free babysitting? Yes...to an extent. Most people do spend on getting some sort of nannies/help who come home and help the grandparents to take care of the babies. Also, as they kids grow older - grandparents can take them for EC activities or have tutors come home to teach. Of course, illness, snow days, weekends, lockdowns, remote learning etc...everything gets handled much more easily. Kids are always supervised and kept busy.
- Free eldercare? Yes...to an extent. The common household machinery serves everyone - laundry, cooking, cleaning, home/lawn/car maintenance - is done jointly and/or outsourced - so the elderly may be very frail but are never living in squalor and neglect. Usually, some kind of paid companion or nursing attendent is also hired because of better buying power. I know vendors who come to cut hair, nail and shave beards of elderly people, give therapuetic massages or various physical therapies etc. It delays sending the elderly patient to AL significantly
- Loneliness and mental illness. Usually, there is enough support and companionship to curb bad habits, depression, loneliness and mental illness. People of all generations are usually engaged and have better resilience.

In the event of the death of an elderly parent, the adult children don't have to scramble to take care of the remaining parent or get rid of their hoarded up house and sell it. The act of living together in the first place already sees a natural Swedish Death Cleanse to happen. Nothing gets impacted in a logistically big way. This is a gift for the adult children who are called to take care of elderly parents, young children and their own home and career - at the same time and feel overwhelmed.

- In addition - these households are very lively because there is significant socialization for each generation with their own peer groups, hobbies etc.
- Grandkids are usually very bonded with the grandparents and play an active role in being engaged with them.
- People in the household have a healthier diet and lifestyle because healthy home cooked meals and clean enviorns are always easily available to them.

[Anonymous]

About 15% live at home in 2025.

Varies greatly by region.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two relatives in this category.
One is taking care of the 10 acre farm because his parents are getting too old. He also has a WFH job. He left for several years and then came back.
Another has lived in the parents'home forever even now, married, with children. Cultural difference that my relative married into. My relative LIKES it because she gets to live in a beautiful house with free babysitting and never has to cook or clean. If they tried to move out the parents would lose it.

A lot of married with kids ACs (above 35) are choosing to live with their parents in my own immigrant community. The buying power for housing and various services is immense because they are pooling resources. Here are the benefits -

- Financial security. You will not lose the house if one person loses their job. Also, people save a lot of money when they are sharing costs in multi-gen families, so the savings are robust enough to withstand financial ups and downs,
- Usually live in a beautiful, very big house in a good school district - which adult children could not have afforded in their own salary, by pooling in resources. There are common areas and also own private areas/spaces for each member of the family.
- Free babysitting? Yes...to an extent. Most people do spend on getting some sort of nannies/help who come home and help the grandparents to take care of the babies. Also, as they kids grow older - grandparents can take them for EC activities or have tutors come home to teach. Of course, illness, snow days, weekends, lockdowns, remote learning etc...everything gets handled much more easily. Kids are always supervised and kept busy.
- Free eldercare? Yes...to an extent. The common household machinery serves everyone - laundry, cooking, cleaning, home/lawn/car maintenance - is done jointly and/or outsourced - so the elderly may be very frail but are never living in squalor and neglect. Usually, some kind of paid companion or nursing attendent is also hired because of better buying power. I know vendors who come to cut hair, nail and shave beards of elderly people, give therapuetic massages or various physical therapies etc. It delays sending the elderly patient to AL significantly
- Loneliness and mental illness. Usually, there is enough support and companionship to curb bad habits, depression, loneliness and mental illness. People of all generations are usually engaged and have better resilience.

In the event of the death of an elderly parent, the adult children don't have to scramble to take care of the remaining parent or get rid of their hoarded up house and sell it. The act of living together in the first place already sees a natural Swedish Death Cleanse to happen. Nothing gets impacted in a logistically big way. This is a gift for the adult children who are called to take care of elderly parents, young children and their own home and career - at the same time and feel overwhelmed.

You are very, very naive. I come from a culture where multigenerational living is not uncommon, and there are some big tradeoffs.

I will just address the bolded. Hoarding is a mental illness. It doesn’t magically disappear because several generations live together. If you have a hoarder living in your house, everyone goes down with them. You may put upon yourself a Sisyphean task of keeping up with the hoarder, but eventually you will lose that battle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two relatives in this category.
One is taking care of the 10 acre farm because his parents are getting too old. He also has a WFH job. He left for several years and then came back.
Another has lived in the parents'home forever even now, married, with children. Cultural difference that my relative married into. My relative LIKES it because she gets to live in a beautiful house with free babysitting and never has to cook or clean. If they tried to move out the parents would lose it.

A lot of married with kids ACs (above 35) are choosing to live with their parents in my own immigrant community. The buying power for housing and various services is immense because they are pooling resources. Here are the benefits -

- Financial security. You will not lose the house if one person loses their job. Also, people save a lot of money when they are sharing costs in multi-gen families, so the savings are robust enough to withstand financial ups and downs,
- Usually live in a beautiful, very big house in a good school district - which adult children could not have afforded in their own salary, by pooling in resources. There are common areas and also own private areas/spaces for each member of the family.
- Free babysitting? Yes...to an extent. Most people do spend on getting some sort of nannies/help who come home and help the grandparents to take care of the babies. Also, as they kids grow older - grandparents can take them for EC activities or have tutors come home to teach. Of course, illness, snow days, weekends, lockdowns, remote learning etc...everything gets handled much more easily. Kids are always supervised and kept busy.
- Free eldercare? Yes...to an extent. The common household machinery serves everyone - laundry, cooking, cleaning, home/lawn/car maintenance - is done jointly and/or outsourced - so the elderly may be very frail but are never living in squalor and neglect. Usually, some kind of paid companion or nursing attendent is also hired because of better buying power. I know vendors who come to cut hair, nail and shave beards of elderly people, give therapuetic massages or various physical therapies etc. It delays sending the elderly patient to AL significantly
- Loneliness and mental illness. Usually, there is enough support and companionship to curb bad habits, depression, loneliness and mental illness. People of all generations are usually engaged and have better resilience.

In the event of the death of an elderly parent, the adult children don't have to scramble to take care of the remaining parent or get rid of their hoarded up house and sell it. The act of living together in the first place already sees a natural Swedish Death Cleanse to happen. Nothing gets impacted in a logistically big way. This is a gift for the adult children who are called to take care of elderly parents, young children and their own home and career - at the same time and feel overwhelmed.

- In addition - these households are very lively because there is significant socialization for each generation with their own peer groups, hobbies etc.
- Grandkids are usually very bonded with the grandparents and play an active role in being engaged with them.
- People in the household have a healthier diet and lifestyle because healthy home cooked meals and clean enviorns are always easily available to them.

DP here. Good points though that you bring up.

Pushing kids out at 18 to 22 is just asinine and was a propaganda push decades ago before my time even, to try to increase post WWII spending to boost the economy and get the masses into debt. (Indentured Servitude basically)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two relatives in this category.
One is taking care of the 10 acre farm because his parents are getting too old. He also has a WFH job. He left for several years and then came back.
Another has lived in the parents'home forever even now, married, with children. Cultural difference that my relative married into. My relative LIKES it because she gets to live in a beautiful house with free babysitting and never has to cook or clean. If they tried to move out the parents would lose it.

A lot of married with kids ACs (above 35) are choosing to live with their parents in my own immigrant community. The buying power for housing and various services is immense because they are pooling resources. Here are the benefits -

- Financial security. You will not lose the house if one person loses their job. Also, people save a lot of money when they are sharing costs in multi-gen families, so the savings are robust enough to withstand financial ups and downs,
- Usually live in a beautiful, very big house in a good school district - which adult children could not have afforded in their own salary, by pooling in resources. There are common areas and also own private areas/spaces for each member of the family.
- Free babysitting? Yes...to an extent. Most people do spend on getting some sort of nannies/help who come home and help the grandparents to take care of the babies. Also, as they kids grow older - grandparents can take them for EC activities or have tutors come home to teach. Of course, illness, snow days, weekends, lockdowns, remote learning etc...everything gets handled much more easily. Kids are always supervised and kept busy.
- Free eldercare? Yes...to an extent. The common household machinery serves everyone - laundry, cooking, cleaning, home/lawn/car maintenance - is done jointly and/or outsourced - so the elderly may be very frail but are never living in squalor and neglect. Usually, some kind of paid companion or nursing attendent is also hired because of better buying power. I know vendors who come to cut hair, nail and shave beards of elderly people, give therapuetic massages or various physical therapies etc. It delays sending the elderly patient to AL significantly
- Loneliness and mental illness. Usually, there is enough support and companionship to curb bad habits, depression, loneliness and mental illness. People of all generations are usually engaged and have better resilience.

In the event of the death of an elderly parent, the adult children don't have to scramble to take care of the remaining parent or get rid of their hoarded up house and sell it. The act of living together in the first place already sees a natural Swedish Death Cleanse to happen. Nothing gets impacted in a logistically big way. This is a gift for the adult children who are called to take care of elderly parents, young children and their own home and career - at the same time and feel overwhelmed.

- In addition - these households are very lively because there is significant socialization for each generation with their own peer groups, hobbies etc.
- Grandkids are usually very bonded with the grandparents and play an active role in being engaged with them.
- People in the household have a healthier diet and lifestyle because healthy home cooked meals and clean enviorns are always easily available to them.

In practice, that usually means that the grandma has sacrificed herself and is busting her behind servicing all three generations, maybe even four if one of her parents is still around. And she will be doing this until she drops dead.

[Anonymous]

Considering homes only became really expensive in 2022 a 35 year old should have bought. Pre 2020 they price wise cheaper and in Spring 2020 to Spring 2022 rates were so cheap you could afford to buy more.

What were they waiting for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two relatives in this category.
One is taking care of the 10 acre farm because his parents are getting too old. He also has a WFH job. He left for several years and then came back.
Another has lived in the parents'home forever even now, married, with children. Cultural difference that my relative married into. My relative LIKES it because she gets to live in a beautiful house with free babysitting and never has to cook or clean. If they tried to move out the parents would lose it.

A lot of married with kids ACs (above 35) are choosing to live with their parents in my own immigrant community. The buying power for housing and various services is immense because they are pooling resources. Here are the benefits -

- Financial security. You will not lose the house if one person loses their job. Also, people save a lot of money when they are sharing costs in multi-gen families, so the savings are robust enough to withstand financial ups and downs,
- Usually live in a beautiful, very big house in a good school district - which adult children could not have afforded in their own salary, by pooling in resources. There are common areas and also own private areas/spaces for each member of the family.
- Free babysitting? Yes...to an extent. Most people do spend on getting some sort of nannies/help who come home and help the grandparents to take care of the babies. Also, as they kids grow older - grandparents can take them for EC activities or have tutors come home to teach. Of course, illness, snow days, weekends, lockdowns, remote learning etc...everything gets handled much more easily. Kids are always supervised and kept busy.
- Free eldercare? Yes...to an extent. The common household machinery serves everyone - laundry, cooking, cleaning, home/lawn/car maintenance - is done jointly and/or outsourced - so the elderly may be very frail but are never living in squalor and neglect. Usually, some kind of paid companion or nursing attendent is also hired because of better buying power. I know vendors who come to cut hair, nail and shave beards of elderly people, give therapuetic massages or various physical therapies etc. It delays sending the elderly patient to AL significantly
- Loneliness and mental illness. Usually, there is enough support and companionship to curb bad habits, depression, loneliness and mental illness. People of all generations are usually engaged and have better resilience.

In the event of the death of an elderly parent, the adult children don't have to scramble to take care of the remaining parent or get rid of their hoarded up house and sell it. The act of living together in the first place already sees a natural Swedish Death Cleanse to happen. Nothing gets impacted in a logistically big way. This is a gift for the adult children who are called to take care of elderly parents, young children and their own home and career - at the same time and feel overwhelmed.

- In addition - these households are very lively because there is significant socialization for each generation with their own peer groups, hobbies etc.
- Grandkids are usually very bonded with the grandparents and play an active role in being engaged with them.
- People in the household have a healthier diet and lifestyle because healthy home cooked meals and clean enviorns are always easily available to them.

DP here. Good points though that you bring up.

Pushing kids out at 18 to 22 is just asinine and was a propaganda push decades ago before my time even, to try to increase post WWII spending to boost the economy and get the masses into debt. (Indentured Servitude basically)

My Moms day school was only to sixth grade. Her and her two sisters were pushed out at 12 to full time jobs. Her two brothers stayed to work farm.

And my very first job HS was not required to the late 1940s. We had workers who were with firm for 50-60 years. They started work in 1939 at 14 and I was working with them when they were 64 in 1989. Staying at home till 18 only started in 1940s and only in the 1970s became common to stay home till 21. Today we have guys who are 30 living in Mommys basement.

[Anonymous]

Some live separately but rents are subsidized by their parents.