13YO boy and porn

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for the helpful responses. I told him that porn is not healthy for his mind and body and that it can give him an unhealthy idea of relationships. I restricted the settings on his iPad and told him he only gets to use it in the kitchen/living room, and only when I’m home.
He did not complain. He kept saying how sorry he was. I told him that I’m not mad, but that it’s my job to keep him safe and healthy.

[Anonymous]

I think the real issue here is not that he saw the porn. The bigger issue here is: why did he want to see something like, that?? And what made him think it was ok to see porn?

Real conversations about true respect for women and consent, need to happen. And he needs to be made to understand porn exploits women. And that’s never ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you not have parent limits set on the ipad search engine?

Do you not have teenagers? Those limits are a joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for the helpful responses. I told him that porn is not healthy for his mind and body and that it can give him an unhealthy idea of relationships. I restricted the settings on his iPad and told him he only gets to use it in the kitchen/living room, and only when I’m home.
He did not complain. He kept saying how sorry he was. I told him that I’m not mad, but that it’s my job to keep him safe and healthy.

A+ response, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the real issue here is not that he saw the porn. The bigger issue here is: why did he want to see something like, that?? And what made him think it was ok to see porn?

Real conversations about true respect for women and consent, need to happen. And he needs to be made to understand porn exploits women. And that’s never ok.

Why did a 13 year old boy want to see porn?! This is an actual question being asked? I think OPs response was spot on but come on, live in the real world, it is not the slightest bit unusual for a 13 year old boy to be curious about porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the real issue here is not that he saw the porn. The bigger issue here is: why did he want to see something like, that?? And what made him think it was ok to see porn?

Real conversations about true respect for women and consent, need to happen. And he needs to be made to understand porn exploits women. And that’s never ok.

Are you serious Clark? Guessing you never had boys or grew up around boys or ever had a bf talk to you honestly.

[Anonymous]

The Internet porn algorithm trap that kids can fall down when their brains are still developing is completely different than finding dad’s Playboys in the garage or whatever 1980s scenario a lot of people picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the real issue here is not that he saw the porn. The bigger issue here is: why did he want to see something like, that?? And what made him think it was ok to see porn?

Real conversations about true respect for women and consent, need to happen. And he needs to be made to understand porn exploits women. And that’s never ok.

Are you serious Clark? Guessing you never had boys or grew up around boys or ever had a bf talk to you honestly.

My girls would never have done this. They know better and have been properly educated about toxic content, such as any sort of porn or filth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you not have parent limits set on the ipad search engine?

Any kid with half a brain can get around any parental controls. Why don't parents understand this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have his dad talk to him. He's a boy not a girl andsome things that aren't normal for girls and women are very normal for boys. Do you have brothers OP? He should have a male in his life to talk to him about that.

you are a sexist, discriminatory aşshole. wtf do you want the dad to say? provide anecdotes about sexual encounters with the kids mom? inherent sexism means that more males view porn but he doesnt need a guy to share the best porn sites with, he needs a guy (or gal) that makes it clear that what he did was innapropriate and more importntly, illegal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the real issue here is not that he saw the porn. The bigger issue here is: why did he want to see something like, that?? And what made him think it was ok to see porn?

Real conversations about true respect for women and consent, need to happen. And he needs to be made to understand porn exploits women. And that’s never ok.

Are you serious Clark? Guessing you never had boys or grew up around boys or ever had a bf talk to you honestly.

My girls would never have done this. They know better and have been properly educated about toxic content, such as any sort of porn or filth.

Spoken like a true hardcore catholic karen mom. there is "ethical porn" that is, well, ethical. "any sort of porn" is a wild overgeneralization and no one gives a shít about what your girls would have done. good for you for being hyperrrstrictive and shaming teenage girls over curiosity about adult topics. now lets get back to the subject at hand. op handled this situation better than you ever could. you think you are such a good mother because "my daugthers would never watch porn" but it really just shows the toxicity of your relationship with your daughters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the real issue here is not that he saw the porn. The bigger issue here is: why did he want to see something like, that?? And what made him think it was ok to see porn?

Real conversations about true respect for women and consent, need to happen. And he needs to be made to understand porn exploits women. And that’s never ok.

Are you serious Clark? Guessing you never had boys or grew up around boys or ever had a bf talk to you honestly.

My girls would never have done this. They know better and have been properly educated about toxic content, such as any sort of porn or filth.

Spoken like a true hardcore catholic karen mom. there is "ethical porn" that is, well, ethical. "any sort of porn" is a wild overgeneralization and no one gives a shít about what your girls would have done. good for you for being hyperrrstrictive and shaming teenage girls over curiosity about adult topics. now lets get back to the subject at hand. op handled this situation better than you ever could. you think you are such a good mother because "my daugthers would never watch porn" but it really just shows the toxicity of your relationship with your daughters.

+1

Happily married, monogamous woman, who occasionally watches porn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for the helpful responses. I told him that porn is not healthy for his mind and body and that it can give him an unhealthy idea of relationships. I restricted the settings on his iPad and told him he only gets to use it in the kitchen/living room, and only when I’m home.
He did not complain. He kept saying how sorry he was. I told him that I’m not mad, but that it’s my job to keep him safe and healthy.

A+ response, OP.

I diasgree. It's perfect if her son was 10. He's not 10 he's 13 and actively seeking out sexual content he's not going to become less interested. You really need to step up your talks and education you and his other parent if he has one. Because if you think it's done it's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you for the helpful responses. I told him that porn is not healthy for his mind and body and that it can give him an unhealthy idea of relationships. I restricted the settings on his iPad and told him he only gets to use it in the kitchen/living room, and only when I’m home.
He did not complain. He kept saying how sorry he was. I told him that I’m not mad, but that it’s my job to keep him safe and healthy.

A+ response, OP.

I diasgree. It's perfect if her son was 10. He's not 10 he's 13 and actively seeking out sexual content he's not going to become less interested. You really need to step up your talks and education you and his other parent if he has one. Because if you think it's done it's not.

+1

You need to watch the NF show “Adolescence.”

This boy is far down the path to growing to be a violent predator

[Anonymous]

I think a lot of y'all responding to this are older and don't understand how extreme and violent mainstream porn has become in the last few years, and how badly it's influencing Gen Z and Gen Alpha. There was just an article about how strangulation injuries are becoming more common in women under 35 because of how frequently choking shows up in mainstream porn. https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/article/2024/sep/02/i-think-its-natural-why-has-sexual-choking-become-so-prevalent-among-young-people