13YO boy and porn
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Anonymous
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Caught my barely 13 year old looking at porn. I personally do not view porn as healthy for young teens and am looking to monitor his screen time much more closely.
I work full time and am not sure how to go about this. He has camp in the mornings but is home alone in the afternoons. I’m thinking I won’t allow him to use his iPad unless I’m there to monitor him. I’m looking for advice for those who have been through this. Thanks! |
Anonymous
| Not much you can do but try to limit the exposure. He will still find a lot of it. |
Anonymous
| It’s common for 13 year old boys to look at porn. Just let him read a book or watch TV until you get home. |
Anonymous
| Do you not have parent limits set on the ipad search engine? |
Anonymous
| Have his dad talk to him. He's a boy not a girl andsome things that aren't normal for girls and women are very normal for boys. Do you have brothers OP? He should have a male in his life to talk to him about that. |
Anonymous
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A friend recommended the book It’s Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn. It’s really more than just that—also good advice about presenting positive healthy attitudes about sex.
Also use Apple help to improve your parental controls on the iPad. |
Anonymous
| Let me guess. Your son is your oldest/only boy. It's normal! He's not a cute little preschooler who is just going to watch Bluey anymore! |
Anonymous
| It is normal for him to seek out porn, but there’s a huge difference between wanting to see boobs and being exposed to some of the really aggressive stuff that is online. I think a combination of a real sit down talk and limits would be good. |
Anonymous
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You need to control it at your router level
settings, not rely on iPad access. Talk a lot about it with him. It’s common and a real problem with parenting today. |
Anonymous
| No internet if you’re not home. No computer / iPad use outside the common areas. |
Anonymous
Lots of things are normal that still need to be addressed, so aside from allowing you to get your snark on, this comment accomplishes nothing. This space is a great resource for first time parents to ask questions of more experienced parents. If that makes you feel uncomfortable or critical, the internet world is big and you can go elsewhere. |
Anonymous
| If you want to go pro-league with the talk, show him the articles that link porn addiction to ED. |
Anonymous
| Porn ruins kids ability to be in a normal relationship. Stop it before he gets addicted to it. Set parent settings for content, only allow him to have screens in public areas of the house. |
Anonymous
| How do you control it at the router level? |
Anonymous
| Is there any way to make them unsee it or something ? |