Husband constantly snaps at me

[Anonymous]

As a child of divorced parents, I would rather leave and have joint custody then keep my kids in such a toxic home, exposed to constant criticism. My dad was like this and when he left, we were all relieved. I know it wasn’t a walk in the park for my mom to be a single mom, but I know my siblings and I were better off.

Staying “for the kids” isn’t always a good goal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a child of divorced parents, I would rather leave and have joint custody then keep my kids in such a toxic home, exposed to constant criticism. My dad was like this and when he left, we were all relieved. I know it wasn’t a walk in the park for my mom to be a single mom, but I know my siblings and I were better off.

Staying “for the kids” isn’t always a good goal.

Why are you assuming op’s husband is like your dad? We only have one side of the story here

[Anonymous]

Mine does this when going through a dry spell in the bedroom. The problem is the behavior is such a turnoff that I am definitely not inclined to initiate anything so it just continues until he snaps out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s probably because you’re really annoying.

Winner! Winner! Chicken Dinner!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this when going through a dry spell in the bedroom. The problem is the behavior is such a turnoff that I am definitely not inclined to initiate anything so it just continues until he snaps out of it.

You basically admitted you are the problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this when going through a dry spell in the bedroom. The problem is the behavior is such a turnoff that I am definitely not inclined to initiate anything so it just continues until he snaps out of it.

You basically admitted you are the problem

You know for normal people, the default to wanting more sex is to be nicer. Not ruder. Unsurprisingly the latter is ineffective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this when going through a dry spell in the bedroom. The problem is the behavior is such a turnoff that I am definitely not inclined to initiate anything so it just continues until he snaps out of it.

You basically admitted you are the problem

You know for normal people, the default to wanting more sex is to be nicer. Not ruder. Unsurprisingly the latter is ineffective.

One of the worst thing a husband can do in a marriage is to always be nice to the wife. V dries up quickly if he is always nice. He needs to be assertive

[Anonymous]

If his snapping is interfering w/your peaceful enjoyment of a happy life on a regular basis then I would likely divorce him - or at least separate for awhile.

But that is what I would do.
Since you do not want to divorce him AND you two have already been to therapy (and it did not work,) you can a.) find a new therapist & try again or b.) find a way to “stick it out” until your children are grown up.

So sorry this is happening to you. ❤️‍🩹💔

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If his snapping is interfering w/your peaceful enjoyment of a happy life on a regular basis then I would likely divorce him - or at least separate for awhile.

But that is what I would do.
Since you do not want to divorce him AND you two have already been to therapy (and it did not work,) you can a.) find a new therapist & try again or b.) find a way to “stick it out” until your children are grown up.

So sorry this is happening to you. ❤️‍🩹💔

C.) work on your own issues and stop blaming everything on your husband

[Anonymous]

Wow! Such an unwarranted comment. I have the same issue as OP and I get her problem. I too don’t want to divorce and can only deal with the problem by talking to my husband a lot less.

[Anonymous]

What attracts you to a snapping man ?
How do you see past that ?
Ick!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so so tired of it. Most of his communication toward me is snapping at me. He feels justified doing it because he’s stressed, or trying to get out the door, or I’m doing something not to his liking.

It’s killing our marriage. I don’t feel the same way about him as I used to. We’ve tried therapy. It didn’t help. We have young kids so don’t want to jump to divorce. But how normal disposition toward me is usually nasty. What would you all do in my situation?

Think long and hard about what you're letting your children witness. My husband's father was emotionally abusive growing up, mostly towards his mom but also towards him and his sister. It messed him up and ruined his relationship with his mother as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow! Such an unwarranted comment. I have the same issue as OP and I get her problem. I too don’t want to divorce and can only deal with the problem by talking to my husband a lot less.

Why? Are you financially dependent on your husband? Why would you want to be married to someone who treats you like that? Your kids are seeing and hearing it all.