Do you do something special for your high schooler when they get straight As?

[Anonymous]

It depends on the kid and what their strengths/weaknesses are. I’m not above paying my kids for grades…but they are 15 and 17 and neither has ever gotten anything other than an A. But, they are both chronically late to everything, so for a while we gave monetary rewards for being on time. Which was a giant waste of money as they still have no concept of time.

[Anonymous]

FCCPS had 99/222 graduate with over 4.0 this year and bragged about it. So no, I would not do anything special for your kid with straight As. Grade inflation is everywhere.

https://mhs.fccps.org/o/mhs/article/2237777

[Anonymous]

We go out to dinner wherever they want. It’s almost always sushi.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FCCPS had 99/222 graduate with over 4.0 this year and bragged about it. So no, I would not do anything special for your kid with straight As. Grade inflation is everywhere.

https://mhs.fccps.org/o/mhs/article/2237777

good point, maybe I will just beat them when they don't get straight As

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FCCPS had 99/222 graduate with over 4.0 this year and bragged about it. So no, I would not do anything special for your kid with straight As. Grade inflation is everywhere.

https://mhs.fccps.org/o/mhs/article/2237777

That doesn’t mean 99 kids had straight As. With weighted classes, you can have multiple Bs and still a 4.0.

OP, we never rewarded or punished for grades. They’re their own reward.

[Anonymous]

Um no. It’s expected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:FCCPS had 99/222 graduate with over 4.0 this year and bragged about it. So no, I would not do anything special for your kid with straight As. Grade inflation is everywhere.

https://mhs.fccps.org/o/mhs/article/2237777

That doesn’t mean 99 kids had straight As. With weighted classes, you can have multiple Bs and still a 4.0.

OP, we never rewarded or punished for grades. They’re their own reward.

True. They also list how many had over a 3.85, which is 112 and over 50%.

I’ll answer OP’s question. Do what you feel you need to do for straight As. If your kid worked hard and this is an accomplishment, then reward as you see fit. If not, then don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My #1 worked very hard and never got straight As. My #2 also worked hard but school came easier to her. She graduated with 1 B over all 4 years. I would never want #1 to feel less.

Similar; #1 is an academic superstar. She works relatively hard, but hard work almost always =s high As. #2 has recently dx LDs, works as hard, if not harder and mainly gets Bs. Want to celebrate both for hard work, less about the outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congratulate them, but no money gifts - you want them to do well for themselves, not for the reward of money

+1 The A’s are the reward!

[Anonymous]

We instituted $$$ for As for my son with ADHD starting in 8th grade to get him to: (1) pay attention to the gradebook in his classes and notice when things were missing because he forgot to turn them in; and (2) care about the distinction between a B+, an A- and an A. It was like a math game to him more than anything, but he became a bit more diligent about keeping track of schoolwork because of it.

He only cared about getting an A and really tried to do his best if he actually liked the class (And he didnt like that many classes).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It it ever happened I think we’d celebrate.

Same. I’m happy with a mix of As and Bs.

[Anonymous]

My college sophomore son got straight As this past semester. I looked through old report cards and the last time he got them was in 5th grade. I took him out for ice cream. Lol. He moved to Catholic school in 6th grade and they are known for grade deflation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:About a third of high school kids get straight As now.

The distinction comes down to 97+ vs. 91. GPAs account for this.

Where did you get this stat?

[Anonymous]

No reward. My kid just graduated high school with a. Unweighted 4.0. For her, the motivation was/is internal. (Reward is I'm paying for her choice of colleges.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulate them, but no money gifts - you want them to do well for themselves, not for the reward of money

100%

I think this is right in elementary/middle but by high school, 1)kid is probably internally motivated already if getting straight As, and/or 2) I don’t care and if money makes them work harder and gets them a better gpa with better chances for college, I’m good with it.