Do you know people who like to ‘speak their mind’ and ‘keep it real’ with others but flip when the tables are turned?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone does this. The people complaining about it probably do it most of all.

OP, consider the possibility that you weren't "keeping it real" so much as "being a jerk". A lot of people "speak their mind" with "brutal honesty" and what that distills to is actually more like "run off at the mouth and let their unchecked, unconsidered emotional reactions fly".

Pretty sure op made it clear they were talking about someone else

[Anonymous]

The passive aggressive / covert ones are way worse. Choose your poison. About a fourth of America is overtly agressive and a fourth are passive aggressive with some of those being both overt and covertly agressive. The remaining 50 percent more regulated. Try to find people closer to the center.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:??

What do you mean when the tables are turned?

Someone gives them real feedback so they flip out or give fake nice feedback back?

They flip out

So they are emotionally immature. Under developed.

The mature thing to do when receiving constructive feedback is say you heard it- don’t have to agree with it, ask a clarifying question or two- without attacking the other person, and then move on or vow to look into it or apologize if you need to, etc.

Back and forth conversation.

[Anonymous]

Unf I don’t think most people are good at receiving feedback at work or at home.

They start making excuses or deflecting or blaming others for their very own behaviors. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:??

Is her feedback usually correct? Or totally loony?

Is she a very intelligent and/or successful person? Or average?

[Anonymous]

Some people can’t handle the truth!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The passive aggressive / covert ones are way worse. Choose your poison. About a fourth of America is overtly agressive and a fourth are passive aggressive with some of those being both overt and covertly agressive. The remaining 50 percent more regulated. Try to find people closer to the center.

My personal experience does not support your theory that 50% of americans are "more regulated". 5, maybe. 10 when there's not a troll running the country. But 50%? Where do you live, because I'm not seeing this here, nor is it supported by my traveling experiences.

[Anonymous]

Yes of course. The people who are so convinced of their own superiority and good judgment that they spend a lot of time giving unsolicited feedback/criticism of others are the people most likely to be defensive or hurt if anyone points out their own flaws.

I had a boss like this and I laid out her shortcomings as a boss on my way out the door (BS customer service job, didn't care about burning bridges) and it was actually enjoyable to watch her flail and freak out when confronted with evidence of how bad she was at her job.

She was a covert narcissist thought, so she just ran to her sycophants and they reassured her she was flawless and I was the devil. Classic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The passive aggressive / covert ones are way worse. Choose your poison. About a fourth of America is overtly agressive and a fourth are passive aggressive with some of those being both overt and covertly agressive. The remaining 50 percent more regulated. Try to find people closer to the center.

My personal experience does not support your theory that 50% of americans are "more regulated". 5, maybe. 10 when there's not a troll running the country. But 50%? Where do you live, because I'm not seeing this here, nor is it supported by my traveling experiences.

I do live in a wealthy area so maybe that's why it's better. If it's lower, than OP is going to come in contact with this even more. Just part of living.

[Anonymous]

This is like 95% of folks who think they're "keeping it real." They do not want honesty, they just want an audience.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. Those people aren't keeping it real so I don't hang around them.

Sometimes there is little choice in the matter

For people like this, I call them out on it. If they complain, I tell them that I'm keeping it real.

[Anonymous]

I grew up in a Philly neighborhood where telling someone that they’re being an ass to their face was seen as a form of love and care. That’s what “keeping it real” actually meant. If your own people aren’t going to tell you you’re wrong, who will?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I grew up in a Philly neighborhood where telling someone that they’re being an ass to their face was seen as a form of love and care. That’s what “keeping it real” actually meant. If your own people aren’t going to tell you you’re wrong, who will?

I’m ok with that. I have a few people in my like like this. What I don’t like are the ones who ‘keep it real’ when it means criticizing others but who get angry when it’s done back to them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The ones who gleefully dish it out are always the ones who can’t take it.

+1. The Venn diagram is a circle.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, the people who claim to be "sensitive" usually are "thin skinned." They can dish it out but they fall apart if you give them a little taste of their own medicine.