Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It didn’t erase the whole day, she will still have good memories of the field trip and the pizza. Especially if you don’t make a huge deal about the meltdown.
Most likely she was tired or hormonal or there was something else at play (friend drama) that she didn’t have control over.
When she’s calm the next day I would talk to her briefly about her reaction to not getting what she wanted. Say “I understand you’re disappointed we couldn’t go, but we aren’t going to fulfill your every wish. Was there something else going on that upset you?” Then try to hold back and reaction or judgment until she stops talking. I have a pretty strong relationship with my older teen and I think it’s because we communicate well. And part of the parent’s role is listening without always reacting.
D’Amour’s advice is fine, but she has this way of speaking in an ASMR voice. It’s super annoying and distracting.
I realize she’s a therapist, and she’s probably trying to be “soothing” , but her manner of speech is like nails on a chalkboard.
Gosh, you are way nicer than me. I would have reminded her I volunteered for the field trip (her request), allowed the friends to come to your home and bought them pizza. I did all of this for YOU, not for me. Show some appreciation.
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