Tell me stories about how you succeeded despite the mean pretty girls

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

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+2. If it makes you feel any better OP, I’m in the reverse situation where I’m the pretty girl and the other girl constantly takes digs at me and snubs me because her husband has a harmless crush on me. It’s frustrating and isn’t fair, but a lot of women just can’t deal with other women in a mature and kind manner.

oh pp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

100%

+2. If it makes you feel any better OP, I’m in the reverse situation where I’m the pretty girl and the other girl constantly takes digs at me and snubs me because her husband has a harmless crush on me. It’s frustrating and isn’t fair, but a lot of women just can’t deal with other women in a mature and kind manner.

Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful.

[Anonymous]

I once had an encounter with a "pretty mean girl" in a work situation and it ended poorly for me. She poisoned people against me so by the time I felt ready to complain to anyone about her behavior towards me, they were predisposed to dislike me (because she'd been spreading rumors about me for months) and then I wound up looking petty and jealous. Which was frustrating because I wasn't -- I may not be as pretty as she was, but I was happily married, liked my job, and had good friends outside of work and a nice life.

It became intolerable enough that I eventually left because I just felt like no on liked me there and I knew people were talking about me behind my back.

I still don't know what it was about me that made her decide to go after me. She didn't want my job (which was a niche role she wasn't qualified for anyway -- they had to hire someone new when I left), she wasn't after my husband, and she was pretty and professionally successful.

It will always be a mystery to me. This was years ago and I've emotionally moved on but It was very upsetting for me for years. If I saw people from that job on the street, I'd duck into a store to avoid interacting with them, and I intentionally avoided industry events where I thought I might run into her for several years.

Why are some women like this? I truly don't get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

100%

+2. If it makes you feel any better OP, I’m in the reverse situation where I’m the pretty girl and the other girl constantly takes digs at me and snubs me because her husband has a harmless crush on me. It’s frustrating and isn’t fair, but a lot of women just can’t deal with other women in a mature and kind manner.

Oh man, I was friends with one of these girls in college. Flirted with everyone’s boyfriend then complained nobody liked her because “it’s harmless! You’re insecure!”

While I believe everyone is free to do whatever they want, I don’t stay friends with women who don’t abide by girl code. If someone’s husband had a crush on me, I would avoid him entirely and if I was around, pick my nose or talk about my period or whatever.

It doesn’t even take that much to shut down a friend’s husband.

[Anonymous]

Ghost and move on.

Block. Ignore. Avoid.

Works for me! I have done this repeatedly and live in a petty, competitive, mean-spirited community of social climbing, catty women.

[Anonymous]

My frenemy and I are both happy in different states now.

She appears happy online, and I know I am happy and doing well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

100%

+2. If it makes you feel any better OP, I’m in the reverse situation where I’m the pretty girl and the other girl constantly takes digs at me and snubs me because her husband has a harmless crush on me. It’s frustrating and isn’t fair, but a lot of women just can’t deal with other women in a mature and kind manner.

Oh man, I was friends with one of these girls in college. Flirted with everyone’s boyfriend then complained nobody liked her because “it’s harmless! You’re insecure!”

While I believe everyone is free to do whatever they want, I don’t stay friends with women who don’t abide by girl code. If someone’s husband had a crush on me, I would avoid him entirely and if I was around, pick my nose or talk about my period or whatever.

It doesn’t even take that much to shut down a friend’s husband.

PP probably encourages it for the ego boost. You know she’d be the first to freak out if her H started flirting with a hotter, younger woman. Beautiful women are always the most insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

100%

+2. If it makes you feel any better OP, I’m in the reverse situation where I’m the pretty girl and the other girl constantly takes digs at me and snubs me because her husband has a harmless crush on me. It’s frustrating and isn’t fair, but a lot of women just can’t deal with other women in a mature and kind manner.

Be careful! In my house we have the “you touched it last, you clean it up” rule. So if I catch you “harmlessly” touching his arm - congrats on your new roommate! No backsies! I’ll bring his stuff by!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried taking off your glasses and whipping your hair out in slow motion?

Nothing gets to the mean pretty girls like when their boyfriend (played by Freddie Prinze Jr), the popular team football captain, suddenly notices you for the first time since the 8th grade.

Hmm. I would have thought there would be more Freddie Prinze Jr fans on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a frenemy situation (not of my own doing). I don’t call her my frenemy really, I can just tell I am being snubbed by someone younger and prettier and more superficial than me. Not over a guy or anything. I try to be one of the women who raises other women up, but I feel insecure collective vibes coming from her, and she has a lot of not-so-subtle digs at me. Trying to tell myself that all will balance out in the end, right? Right??

Balance out? What, specifically, is it that you want to see "balance out" this equation (that's mostly in your head)?

The best way to handle a "frenemy" is to not waste your time having one. If you can get away from her, do so. If you can't, grey rock. But if you're continuing to pour energy into this woman, under your martyr syndrome "raising other women up" and expecting something in return, you are your own problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

100%

+2. If it makes you feel any better OP, I’m in the reverse situation where I’m the pretty girl and the other girl constantly takes digs at me and snubs me because her husband has a harmless crush on me. It’s frustrating and isn’t fair, but a lot of women just can’t deal with other women in a mature and kind manner.

Oh man, I was friends with one of these girls in college. Flirted with everyone’s boyfriend then complained nobody liked her because “it’s harmless! You’re insecure!”

While I believe everyone is free to do whatever they want, I don’t stay friends with women who don’t abide by girl code. If someone’s husband had a crush on me, I would avoid him entirely and if I was around, pick my nose or talk about my period or whatever.

It doesn’t even take that much to shut down a friend’s husband.

PP probably encourages it for the ego boost. You know she’d be the first to freak out if her H started flirting with a hotter, younger woman. Beautiful women are always the most insecure.

No one’s flirting with your old husband, don’t be so insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

Pretty sure that is what is going on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I once had an encounter with a "pretty mean girl" in a work situation and it ended poorly for me. She poisoned people against me so by the time I felt ready to complain to anyone about her behavior towards me, they were predisposed to dislike me (because she'd been spreading rumors about me for months) and then I wound up looking petty and jealous. Which was frustrating because I wasn't -- I may not be as pretty as she was, but I was happily married, liked my job, and had good friends outside of work and a nice life.

It became intolerable enough that I eventually left because I just felt like no on liked me there and I knew people were talking about me behind my back.

I still don't know what it was about me that made her decide to go after me. She didn't want my job (which was a niche role she wasn't qualified for anyway -- they had to hire someone new when I left), she wasn't after my husband, and she was pretty and professionally successful.

It will always be a mystery to me. This was years ago and I've emotionally moved on but It was very upsetting for me for years. If I saw people from that job on the street, I'd duck into a store to avoid interacting with them, and I intentionally avoided industry events where I thought I might run into her for several years.

Why are some women like this? I truly don't get it.

Can almost guarantee that you were the problem, not her. And you totally lack insight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

Pretty sure that is what is going on here.

This. I saw right through it with OPs "I'm the type that raises women up". Her post title says otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

Pretty sure that is what is going on here.

Title of the thread.