Tell me stories about how you succeeded despite the mean pretty girls

[Anonymous]

Have a frenemy situation (not of my own doing). I don’t call her my frenemy really, I can just tell I am being snubbed by someone younger and prettier and more superficial than me. Not over a guy or anything. I try to be one of the women who raises other women up, but I feel insecure collective vibes coming from her, and she has a lot of not-so-subtle digs at me. Trying to tell myself that all will balance out in the end, right? Right??

[Anonymous]

Look, it’s almost time for graduation. Give it a few months. Things will look different in the fall. Focus on lifeguarding.

[Anonymous]

Just don’t interact with this person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a frenemy situation (not of my own doing). I don’t call her my frenemy really, I can just tell I am being snubbed by someone younger and prettier and more superficial than me. Not over a guy or anything. I try to be one of the women who raises other women up, but I feel insecure collective vibes coming from her, and she has a lot of not-so-subtle digs at me. Trying to tell myself that all will balance out in the end, right? Right??

Why are you interacting with her? Why don’t you cut her off from your life? Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Move on from whatever situation-ship you have going on with this person.

You have no requirement to hang around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, it’s almost time for graduation. Give it a few months. Things will look different in the fall. Focus on lifeguarding.

lol

[Anonymous]

Is this someone you're obligated to interact with? You "succeed" by recognizing that she's taking digs at you because something about you is pushing her buttons. Lean into it---she's showing you her weakness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look, it’s almost time for graduation. Give it a few months. Things will look different in the fall. Focus on lifeguarding.

Best advice here.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have any “frenemies” because people I don’t get along with or who don’t like me are, by definition, not my friends. Which is fine. Live and let live. If someone snubs me, I don’t notice, and I carry on with my day. I say hello to everyone, and I converse with my friends or new acquaintances who seem friendly.

Life is a lot easier when you are not LOOKING for drama, OP.

[Anonymous]

How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

[Anonymous]

Have you tried taking off your glasses and whipping your hair out in slow motion?

Nothing gets to the mean pretty girls like when their boyfriend (played by Freddie Prinze Jr), the popular team football captain, suddenly notices you for the first time since the 8th grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

100%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

100%

+2. If it makes you feel any better OP, I’m in the reverse situation where I’m the pretty girl and the other girl constantly takes digs at me and snubs me because her husband has a harmless crush on me. It’s frustrating and isn’t fair, but a lot of women just can’t deal with other women in a mature and kind manner.

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

Can’t you just avoid her?

I have a frenemy who takes digs at me. I try to avoid her but she is in 2 of my friend groups. I try to avoid her as much as possible. I’m not sure how obvious it is that we dislike one another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about ugly mean girls? Or are we only bashing pretty girls?

100%

+2. If it makes you feel any better OP, I’m in the reverse situation where I’m the pretty girl and the other girl constantly takes digs at me and snubs me because her husband has a harmless crush on me. It’s frustrating and isn’t fair, but a lot of women just can’t deal with other women in a mature and kind manner.

Oh man, I was friends with one of these girls in college. Flirted with everyone’s boyfriend then complained nobody liked her because “it’s harmless! You’re insecure!”

While I believe everyone is free to do whatever they want, I don’t stay friends with women who don’t abide by girl code. If someone’s husband had a crush on me, I would avoid him entirely and if I was around, pick my nose or talk about my period or whatever.