Petition to expand military spouse exemption

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve divorced and have full custody? Why aren’t you free to move closer to your office? How is your situation any different than anyone else with a long hours or frequently-traveling spouse?

The exemption for current military spouses is because you don’t have a lot of choice where you live and frequent PCSing makes it difficult to build a career. If the Navy says you’re living in Norfolk for three years, you’re living in Norfolk for three years, and then it’s off to Seattle.

As an ex-spouse with full custody, the Navy is telling your husband to live in Norfolk, but that doesn’t preclude you from living in DC. Alternatively, you could just find a different job closer to where you live or that allows telework, because you know you can be here in DC for the long haul.

I empathize; it sucks to have to give up a very rich benefit. But your situation is really not deserving of a special exception.

+1. Your situation is not any different or deserving of a special exception compared to any other parent. The current administration doesn’t care about kids and the impact on families.

NP. I do think it's different, but it doesn't matter. They don't care even about military families or any others. I hope that's clear to people.

It’s not different. She’s not married. She’s not a spouse.

[Anonymous]

My dead father in law was in the army. Can I work from home too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To divorced spouses who are full time parents to children of military, diplomatic, and national security personnel.

Could this ever gain traction?
Because that is where I am. I have our kids FT because their dad frequently travels and/or long term overseas post and the kids can’t go with him.

RTO for me has meant spending 3.5 hours commuting every day to a location nearly 50 miles away. This has turned my kids lives upside down. I am gone from early morning until evening. We are only about a month in but already feeling a lot of pain and I am worried about summer. They are too old for camps but too young to completely be on their own. And my agency also canceled compelling reasons exceptions and my medical RA was denied.

I get that they don’t want to help a divorced spouse of military, but shouldn’t someone care about how it affects the kids?

No, you divorced. Figure it out. My retired husband spends 60-90 minutes or more commuting because of rto. You are divorced. Hire help or give him custody.

If he was to get custody, he'd have to come up with a family care plan, or separate (get out of the military.) He deploys frequently so he would have to identify who would take custody of his children while he deploys. OP, does your ex have such a person (his sibling? Parent? Is he remarried?)

[Anonymous]

Why should divorced military spouses be treated any differently than anyone else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve divorced and have full custody? Why aren’t you free to move closer to your office? How is your situation any different than anyone else with a long hours or frequently-traveling spouse?

The exemption for current military spouses is because you don’t have a lot of choice where you live and frequent PCSing makes it difficult to build a career. If the Navy says you’re living in Norfolk for three years, you’re living in Norfolk for three years, and then it’s off to Seattle.

As an ex-spouse with full custody, the Navy is telling your husband to live in Norfolk, but that doesn’t preclude you from living in DC. Alternatively, you could just find a different job closer to where you live or that allows telework, because you know you can be here in DC for the long haul.

I empathize; it sucks to have to give up a very rich benefit. But your situation is really not deserving of a special exception.

+1. Your situation is not any different or deserving of a special exception compared to any other parent. The current administration doesn’t care about kids and the impact on families.

NP. I do think it's different, but it doesn't matter. They don't care even about military families or any others. I hope that's clear to people.

It’s not different. She’s not married. She’s not a spouse.

The child is connected to his service member father. I feel like that’s different than a random divorced person who has no military connection. I say that as someone with no military connection. They give up a lot to serve. It should be respected. In any case, like I said above, this administration doesn’t care about you or me. They care about their bottom line. If they aligns with a few people being helped, it’s a happy coincidence.

[Anonymous]

Russell Vought wants you traumatized. Mission accomplished.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You’ve divorced and have full custody? Why aren’t you free to move closer to your office? How is your situation any different than anyone else with a long hours or frequently-traveling spouse?

The exemption for current military spouses is because you don’t have a lot of choice where you live and frequent PCSing makes it difficult to build a career. If the Navy says you’re living in Norfolk for three years, you’re living in Norfolk for three years, and then it’s off to Seattle.

As an ex-spouse with full custody, the Navy is telling your husband to live in Norfolk, but that doesn’t preclude you from living in DC. Alternatively, you could just find a different job closer to where you live or that allows telework, because you know you can be here in DC for the long haul.

I empathize; it sucks to have to give up a very rich benefit. But your situation is really not deserving of a special exception.

+1. Your situation is not any different or deserving of a special exception compared to any other parent. The current administration doesn’t care about kids and the impact on families.

NP. I do think it's different, but it doesn't matter. They don't care even about military families or any others. I hope that's clear to people.

It’s not different. She’s not married. She’s not a spouse.

The child is connected to his service member father. I feel like that’s different than a random divorced person who has no military connection. I say that as someone with no military connection. They give up a lot to serve. It should be respected. In any case, like I said above, this administration doesn’t care about you or me. They care about their bottom line. If they aligns with a few people being helped, it’s a happy coincidence.

I’m a military wife. Once you divorce you divorce.

[Anonymous]

I could support this. My spouse is Foreign Service, contemplated taking a hardship tour overseas. It would be a significant hardship for me and the kids as well here to do so. Maybe I could have managed if my job was still fully remote, but that extra time wasted on a commute just put it over the edge. Unfortunately as others have said, nobody cares. And the opening continurs to sit unfilled.

[Anonymous]

What are you looking for OP? Do you think you should be able to work from home because of the choices YOU made?