Waiting for a label

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH was like this for longer than three months.

It is either a sign that the person is healthy and mature and doesn't jump into commitment, or a sign that they don't want to commit to you. Kind of hard to know the difference, but if it's the first, you have won the lottery.

like literally wouldn’t call you his girlfriend after 3+ months of exclusive dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DH was like this for longer than three months.

It is either a sign that the person is healthy and mature and doesn't jump into commitment, or a sign that they don't want to commit to you. Kind of hard to know the difference, but if it's the first, you have won the lottery.

To me, using “girlfriend” is an accurate description of what is going on, not a “commitment.” It seems churlish to pretend you aren’t in a relationship when you are.

+1. It is pretty controlling and self-centered. Or belies a really rigid and mindset focused on internal milestones only he can discern. Which is fine for one person but not really for a couple. It’s really not that hard to call someone by the conventional name that everyone else would use in an identical situation unless you think you are really special.

+2. This person sounds like they would have too many emotional hang ups for me to want to continue.