DS on the fence due to dive team shower situations

[Anonymous]

Mine shower at home, that is pretty normal.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

not the pp but I have 2 year round club swimmers who swim almost every morning before school and no, most kids do not shower after practice before school. Should they to remove chlorine? Probably. But most, at least boys, do not.

OP. I my kids also do summer swim and dive and do not shower at the pool. I find it incredibly odd that the dive team at your pool is all showering together after practice. Seriously never heard of that being the team culture.

[Anonymous]

My kids just come home in their suits and change / shower at home. Can’t you create a routine where he can just leave with you instead of showering at the pool?

Like make it a schedule / logistics thing so he can just say “see you tomorrow guys my mom is waiting”.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

not the pp but I have 2 year round club swimmers who swim almost every morning before school and no, most kids do not shower after practice before school. Should they to remove chlorine? Probably. But most, at least boys, do not.

OP. I my kids also do summer swim and dive and do not shower at the pool. I find it incredibly odd that the dive team at your pool is all showering together after practice. Seriously never heard of that being the team culture.

Same with my 8 & 10yr old boys. Do I wish they would at least rinse off with their suit on? Yes. My 10yr old has shoulder length hair that he gets a lot of compliments on and I only recently convinced him to wear a swim cap at practice and not just meets. Do I wish he would rinse his hair pre-swim or put some pre-swim conditioner in it? Absolutely, but that is apparently the most mortifying thing I could possibly suggest. I have to make do with bribing him to do a deep conditioning mask at home once a week.

[Anonymous]

Ask questions. Consider it practice for many years to come.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

not the pp but I have 2 year round club swimmers who swim almost every morning before school and no, most kids do not shower after practice before school. Should they to remove chlorine? Probably. But most, at least boys, do not.

OP. I my kids also do summer swim and dive and do not shower at the pool. I find it incredibly odd that the dive team at your pool is all showering together after practice. Seriously never heard of that being the team culture.

I also have year-round club swimmers, that shower at home. However, this is specific to people that need to leave immediately from the pool in order to go to camp, which means there is no time to go home. The choice is to go to camp without removing chlorine, or take a brief shower at the pool.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

not the pp but I have 2 year round club swimmers who swim almost every morning before school and no, most kids do not shower after practice before school. Should they to remove chlorine? Probably. But most, at least boys, do not.

OP. I my kids also do summer swim and dive and do not shower at the pool. I find it incredibly odd that the dive team at your pool is all showering together after practice. Seriously never heard of that being the team culture.

I also have year-round club swimmers, that shower at home. However, this is specific to people that need to leave immediately from the pool in order to go to camp, which means there is no time to go home. The choice is to go to camp without removing chlorine, or take a brief shower at the pool.

My kids don’t shower at home either. They just go to school. They shower at night but not between swim practice and school. Yes, they probably should but they and I suspect most kids don’t.

[Anonymous]

Don't pools make you shower before entering? Ours does and the swim team does.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

not the pp but I have 2 year round club swimmers who swim almost every morning before school and no, most kids do not shower after practice before school. Should they to remove chlorine? Probably. But most, at least boys, do not.

OP. I my kids also do summer swim and dive and do not shower at the pool. I find it incredibly odd that the dive team at your pool is all showering together after practice. Seriously never heard of that being the team culture.

I also have year-round club swimmers, that shower at home. However, this is specific to people that need to leave immediately from the pool in order to go to camp, which means there is no time to go home. The choice is to go to camp without removing chlorine, or take a brief shower at the pool.

My kids don’t shower at home either. They just go to school. They shower at night but not between swim practice and school. Yes, they probably should but they and I suspect most kids don’t.

Honestly, that’s gross.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

Yes, most kids with working parents do in fact go to camp. My kid is just going to get in the pool at camp, so no they're not washing the chlorine off after practice. They'll live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there any chance his friend is trying to pull one over on him?

I had been suspecting this too! However, I asked the dive team reps (as another poster suggested) and apparently it is the norm on this team to shower at the pool after practice (if it weren't awkward for DS I would be applauding the commitment to hygiene!). I would tell him to use the "sorry guys my mom is picking me up" excuse but due to my schedule I won't be able to pick him up for about twenty minutes after practice ends on some days, so that may not work. But I do think that DS is probably not the only kid with this worry, so he won't be alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there any chance his friend is trying to pull one over on him?

I had been suspecting this too! However, I asked the dive team reps (as another poster suggested) and apparently it is the norm on this team to shower at the pool after practice (if it weren't awkward for DS I would be applauding the commitment to hygiene!). I would tell him to use the "sorry guys my mom is picking me up" excuse but due to my schedule I won't be able to pick him up for about twenty minutes after practice ends on some days, so that may not work. But I do think that DS is probably not the only kid with this worry, so he won't be alone.

This is honestly the weirdest thing I have ever heard. I can’t imagine our dive team practice ending and everyone heading off to shower together naked. That’s really weird.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

not the pp but I have 2 year round club swimmers who swim almost every morning before school and no, most kids do not shower after practice before school. Should they to remove chlorine? Probably. But most, at least boys, do not.

OP. I my kids also do summer swim and dive and do not shower at the pool. I find it incredibly odd that the dive team at your pool is all showering together after practice. Seriously never heard of that being the team culture.

I also have year-round club swimmers, that shower at home. However, this is specific to people that need to leave immediately from the pool in order to go to camp, which means there is no time to go home. The choice is to go to camp without removing chlorine, or take a brief shower at the pool.

My kids don’t shower at home either. They just go to school. They shower at night but not between swim practice and school. Yes, they probably should but they and I suspect most kids don’t.

Honestly, that’s gross.

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And yet they are still alive and pretty much never get sick. Chlorine kills a lot of germs.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

not the pp but I have 2 year round club swimmers who swim almost every morning before school and no, most kids do not shower after practice before school. Should they to remove chlorine? Probably. But most, at least boys, do not.

OP. I my kids also do summer swim and dive and do not shower at the pool. I find it incredibly odd that the dive team at your pool is all showering together after practice. Seriously never heard of that being the team culture.

I also have year-round club swimmers, that shower at home. However, this is specific to people that need to leave immediately from the pool in order to go to camp, which means there is no time to go home. The choice is to go to camp without removing chlorine, or take a brief shower at the pool.

My kids don’t shower at home either. They just go to school. They shower at night but not between swim practice and school. Yes, they probably should but they and I suspect most kids don’t.

Honestly, that’s gross.

I also hate to break it to you that no one showers before entering the pool either. I Siena a lot of time at pools and never see people shower before swimming. And no they are not showering at home beforehand.

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Anonymous wrote:DS (8) wants to join the dive team at our pool. However, he's on the fence because the teams here do communal showers. Now the woman's shower room has curtains and privacy, but DS and DH have both confirmed that this is not the case for guys. We've never showered at the pool before, but on the team, a friend of DS's who's done it has said that everyone on the team does it before practice. I'm not sure if it's a team rule per se, but I believe that it may be; in any event, DS would be the odd one out should he opt out. He is very private and seems very anxious about this possibility. I've explained that it's not inappropriate because of the situation, but he still feels that it would be "embarrassing". I don't want him to miss something that could be fun because of this. What should I do?

(Also, please be mindful about what you share, because there unfortunately are some real weirdos out there)

OP again, sorry I made a typo! It's supposed to say that they shower AFTER practice, not before. Sorry for the confusion. lol

It’s very unusual for kids to shower after practice. Most have to get out of there quickly for camps, other activities. Hardly anyone at our pool showers after.

Why do you share this schlock?

1. Most kids don’t go to camp every week. Many do, but not most, and not every week.

2. If you were sending your kid to camp immediately from the pool, wouldn’t you encourage taking a very brief shower to rinse the chlorine off?

When you wear blinders, you shouldn’t paint with such a bold brush.

not the pp but I have 2 year round club swimmers who swim almost every morning before school and no, most kids do not shower after practice before school. Should they to remove chlorine? Probably. But most, at least boys, do not.

OP. I my kids also do summer swim and dive and do not shower at the pool. I find it incredibly odd that the dive team at your pool is all showering together after practice. Seriously never heard of that being the team culture.

I also have year-round club swimmers, that shower at home. However, this is specific to people that need to leave immediately from the pool in order to go to camp, which means there is no time to go home. The choice is to go to camp without removing chlorine, or take a brief shower at the pool.

My kids don’t shower at home either. They just go to school. They shower at night but not between swim practice and school. Yes, they probably should but they and I suspect most kids don’t.

Honestly, that’s gross.

I also hate to break it to you that no one showers before entering the pool either. I Siena a lot of time at pools and never see people shower before swimming. And no they are not showering at home beforehand.

Who care about showering before? Showering after is mostly about getting chlorine out of hair, partially about getting it off the skin.