Do men become more deferential to their wives as they get older and wealthier?

[Anonymous]

Because they realize their wives are doing all the heavy lifting around good decision making? Researching, weighing pros and cons, negotiation, budgeting scenarios, then coming up with options ranked according to short and long term utility to the family? Who would say no to that!!? Not a smart man…

[Anonymous]

Cheaper to keep her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They realize it is just easier to go along with most things, or to appear to go along, then to fight. My guess is that these people do what they want when it matters to them. That's why they've become rich -- they are smart about people and know which battles to fight.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Above PP is correct. Over time men learn that we do most of the upkeep in the house, have most of the social connections, maintain the relationships with the kids, etc. In many cases we handle the finances, know who the contractors for the home are, and take care of the aging parents. Smart men know their lives are held together by us and lean into that fact. The ones who don’t either age alone or marry younger and then work into their 70’s to pay for the new family. The “they break us down over time” poster is typical of men who both want their lives maintained, and then lament the loss of their independence. Hard to have it both ways.

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They tend to fall back on conventional wisdom "happy wife; happy life"

[Anonymous]

I think you’re just seeing them in situations where the wife is driving, like family social events. Social events in general.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Cheaper to keep her

+1. Plus they already won the major battle of sidelining their wife’s career and outside aspirations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Cheaper to keep her

+1. Plus they already won the major battle of sidelining their wife’s career and outside aspirations.

This hits so close to home and I am not even a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

For most regular people, doing well in business requires cognitive flexibility, listening to others, and being able to admit when you are wrong.
Anyone who can do that will find that they don’t really butt heads in a marriage.

[Anonymous]

We have been married a very long time and, thanks to my husband, we are very wealthy. We are both very chill people with great respect for each others decision making skills. If I take the lead on a project I will bounce ideas off him but he will defer to me because he knows I always consider how he might think given we’ve been married so long. When he takes the lead it works the same way. It sure makes for a happy marriage!

[Anonymous]

I don't think its tied to wealth; eventually most men conclude its just not worth it and go with the flow.

[Anonymous]

It's almost as if declining testosterone tracks with agreeable behavior...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Cheaper to keep her

+1. Plus they already won the major battle of sidelining their wife’s career and outside aspirations.

This hits so close to home and I am not even a SAHM.

Yes, what victims, having to live with someone who is agreeable and wealthy. How selfless of these women to agree to let someone else earn all the money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men, especially wealthy men get more laid back about $$ when we get older.

I’m already more laid back at 40 than I was at 30. In part because we’ve done really well. In another 10 years I’ll care even less, I hope. “Sure, new cabinets sound great sweetie.” So my net worth would go down from 7.3 million to 7.27 million or whatever. Not an issue.

This is such a cringey response. Would be hilarious if this were satire.

Poor lady gets her panties in a bunch because she can't drop whatever she wants on cabinets whenever she wants. Sad.

[Anonymous]

What the heck is OP even talking about?

Is he submissive when he's banging his secretary on the corporate jet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the heck is OP even talking about?

Is he submissive when he's banging his secretary on the corporate jet?

Yeah, was just about to post this.

Being forgiven of adultery buys a lot of deference. Ask me how I know. She could have blown up our family and didn't.