Hovering Teen Boy Moms in Denial

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How to tell a teen boy mom her kid is not who she think he is.

She posted on his birthday a couple of months ago he was the “kindest” boy among other things. I couldn’t believe it. I don’t expect a bad post from a mother of course but “kindest” led me to believe she is really clueless. Her kid cheats at school, cheated and on his girlfriend and bullied her with a long time female friend from elementary school, bullies other boys (he’s at an all boys school and it happens but not excusable, esp when it’s a kid on the spectrum or socially awkward type). Other parents know.

Admittedly, the mother is a bit in denial becuse or her own difficult upbringing. He is 16 but she is still extremely controlling (secretly looks through his texts, calls parents before he goes to a house, obsesses over his basketball, etc ) and thinks the kid is perfect as a result of her discipline. Does one say something? I think she’d be embarrassed knowing the truth and would want to do something about it.

What is wrong with you? Gossiping about high schoolers and their relationships is very odd behaviour for an adult. Why do you care? Do you think people who cheat on a high school relationship cheat on their spouses 20 yrs later? Boy, do I have news for you.

Obsesses over basketball? This affects you, how exactly?

Maybe you should just mind your own business and worry about the children you're raising, and how you're doing it, instead of publicly critiquing her? Set an example, which you don't appear to be.

[Anonymous]

OP. The people that make those types of posts are the ones who only care about image and never take responsibility for anything. You won't change them. It's part of their identity to always act like they are on the winning team. Just find other people. It's a small percentage but one of them will always be in your orbit.

[Anonymous]

What would you say? Are you proposing posting on social media "I dont think he's kind!" Or calling the mom to tell her her post was tone deaf? You are ridiculous! Just roll your eyes and move on. Better yet, get off social media all together or unfollow this person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to tell a teen boy mom her kid is not who she think he is.

She posted on his birthday a couple of months ago he was the “kindest” boy among other things. I couldn’t believe it. I don’t expect a bad post from a mother of course but “kindest” led me to believe she is really clueless. Her kid cheats at school, cheated and on his girlfriend and bullied her with a long time female friend from elementary school, bullies other boys (he’s at an all boys school and it happens but not excusable, esp when it’s a kid on the spectrum or socially awkward type). Other parents know.

Admittedly, the mother is a bit in denial becuse or her own difficult upbringing. He is 16 but she is still extremely controlling (secretly looks through his texts, calls parents before he goes to a house, obsesses over his basketball, etc ) and thinks the kid is perfect as a result of her discipline. Does one say something? I think she’d be embarrassed knowing the truth and would want to do something about it.

You can roll your eyes when you see her posts but otherwise you're already way too invested in passing judgment on other kids. May not be a good look for her, but it's a really bad look for you.

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[Anonymous]

What kind of monster parent DOESN’T say nice things about their kid on his birthday?

You’re out of your mind, OP.

[Anonymous]

News flash: it doesn't end when the boys are teens.

Signed, estranged sister of joke brother and mom who is in denial that he's an a*hole

[Anonymous]

You don’t.

[Anonymous]

She's the type of person who has to post sentiments on social media for her teenage sons birthday. That tells you all you need to know. Stay far away and don't get involved OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. The people that make those types of posts are the ones who only care about image and never take responsibility for anything. You won't change them. It's part of their identity to always act like they are on the winning team. Just find other people. It's a small percentage but one of them will always be in your orbit.

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[Anonymous]

The only time I would ever approach someone with these type of issues is if it was directly impacting my kid in a negative way. And even then, it would have to be quite serious.

[Anonymous]

That’s a typical boy mom.

[Anonymous]

What's wrong with you? Why do you even care?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of monster parent DOESN’T say nice things about their kid on his birthday?

You’re out of your mind, OP.

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Not really thinking there's anything wrong with the other mom. It's OP that worries me.

[Anonymous]

What exactly would you say? “Hey your son is a horrible person?” There is no scenario where any parent wants to hear that - they either know and it’s like twisting the knife or they are clueless and definitely will make you the villain for saying that.

Now if a specific incident comes up that she needs to know about, go ahead and tell her but I would just share the info without a value judgment.

[Anonymous]

She sounds misguided, but you sound much worse. Why not mute her or do yourself a favor and get off social media. This is one of the more gross posts I've seen on this site and that's saying something. Your obsession and desire to meddle is unhealthy.