Employer Forbidding Short Term Schedule Adjustment

[Anonymous]

Is this a professional job? They are not treating you as such if you have never asked for flexibility over the course of 8 years and they are denying it. I could understand if it was a permanent request but this seems unreasonable unless there is something about your position that we don’t know.

[Anonymous]

I'd use a combo of care.com and asking other parents for help.

Does the school go through HS? If so, I bet a HS student would love to pick up extra $$ by driving yours home for a couple of weeks. My kid would jump at the chance because they don't want to do a permanent job, but two weeks of extra cash for small work would sound great.

Also, I once had one of my kid's friends come over about an hour before school for a week for a situation like this. Parent needed to leave the house an hour before it was time to go to school, so dropped their kid at my house and they sat in our family room for an hour til it was time for me to take both kids to school. Not particularly convenient, but it worked out fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hire a sitter or an afternoon babysitter. Do before and aftercare. Pay a neighbor, hire a high school student, etc. There are many options

It's more complicated than that. My kids attend a private school with no transportation so I need to do pick up and drop off both for school and ports.

No, it's not.
Good idea to stop using clever turns of the phrase to attempt get what you want.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]I need to arrive an hour late and leave 30 mins early for the next two weeks. [/b]This is child care related while my spouse is basically deployed. My employer said they 'can't' allow it. I've offered to use PTO or make up the hours later at night.

I've been here for 8 years and literally never once called in sick.

Short of just saying 'f^^k you' and walking, what can I do?

Need is a strong word.

[Anonymous]

Unless you are a shift worker and they need continuous coverage that is insane that they won't let you use your PTO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]I need to arrive an hour late and leave 30 mins early for the next two weeks. [/b]This is child care related while my spouse is basically deployed. My employer said they 'can't' allow it. I've offered to use PTO or make up the hours later at night.

I've been here for 8 years and literally never once called in sick.

Short of just saying 'f^^k you' and walking, what can I do?

Need is a strong word.

Shall I just leave my 6 year old at home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why won’t they let you use pto

Couldn't you have just put in the PTO and not discussed it? You're allowed to use your PTO - are you a shift worker where someone else has to pick up the time?

Agree with others on looking around. They don't seem to value you.

It sounds like they need continuous coverage for something. I’d address that. Maybe it’s a misunderstanding.

[Anonymous]

Hire someone, find a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]I need to arrive an hour late and leave 30 mins early for the next two weeks. [/b]This is child care related while my spouse is basically deployed. My employer said they 'can't' allow it. I've offered to use PTO or make up the hours later at night.

I've been here for 8 years and literally never once called in sick.

Short of just saying 'f^^k you' and walking, what can I do?

Need is a strong word.

Shall I just leave my 6 year old at home?

Ok you a smart answer for everything. See how far that get you.

The point is, your solution isn't the only solution to the issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why won’t they let you use pto

Couldn't you have just put in the PTO and not discussed it? You're allowed to use your PTO - are you a shift worker where someone else has to pick up the time?

Agree with others on looking around. They don't seem to value you.

It sounds like they need continuous coverage for something. I’d address that. Maybe it’s a misunderstanding.

They didn't misunderstand you, they heard you clearly. It is just that the answer is no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need to arrive an hour late and leave 30 mins early for the next two weeks. This is child care related while my spouse is basically deployed. My employer said they 'can't' allow it. I've offered to use PTO or make up the hours later at night.

I've been here for 8 years and literally never once called in sick.

Short of just saying 'f^^k you' and walking, what can I do?

What do you mean you CANT use your PTO?

They can either have you for the time you are available and use PTO or they can not have someone there and then pay out your PTO.

You can either stay and find alternative driving plans or lose the job.
Your spouse also needs to help with making arrangements since they are gone for 2 weeks and this should have been discussed with more notice.
If your spouse is military you may have a bit more leeway as I thought there are rules for military spouses and employment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]I need to arrive an hour late and leave 30 mins early for the next two weeks. [/b]This is child care related while my spouse is basically deployed. My employer said they 'can't' allow it. I've offered to use PTO or make up the hours later at night.

I've been here for 8 years and literally never once called in sick.

Short of just saying 'f^^k you' and walking, what can I do?

Need is a strong word.

Shall I just leave my 6 year old at home?

Ok you a smart answer for everything. See how far that get you.

The point is, your solution isn't the only solution to the issue.

As unfortunately as the situation is, I agree w pp. OP’s proposal is probably the best solution for OP but not necessarily for the employer. Unless there are other precedents, managers may not want to set a new benchmark on schedule flexibility. Although OP is a dedicated and loyal team players, there are many more who have abused and will abuse these polices.

OP, definitely look into asking other parents and neighbors to help as an alternative for the short duration.

[Anonymous]

Call out sick or take vacation for the 2 weeks.

[Anonymous]

I’d start with your employee handbook and any work agreements you signed. Is your schedule documented in writing? Do the policies provide an escalation point? If so, use those. If not, tell your boss you’d like a written response indicating why you cannot have this arrangement. Tell your boss you will be checking with senior management to ensure there are no workarounds possible.

[Anonymous]

Is your spouse military or what do you mean deployed?