Employer Forbidding Short Term Schedule Adjustment

[Anonymous]

Tl;dr

Long term answer is find a different job. Start looking now. Not sure what the short term answer is.

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a possible userra issue, ie you are the spouse of a deployed military member. Research, contact doll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, this sucks.

Second, you honestly don't get points for never calling in sick or never using your PTO. Use it. Life is short. Stop begrudging others for using it.

Thirdly, please don't follow OP's advice and just drop your kid off before school with no supervision. That's not allowed at any school. I wish we had staffing to provide supervision outside to families in need, but we just don't, and the school can't be responsible for her safety.

Third, who can you pay in your circle of availability? For instance, we have LOTS of young teachers at my kid's sxhoomwho's be happy to get paid $50/hour to babysit your kid before school for two weeks. Or maybe your kids' friends have siblings in high school and would live a temp gig for two weeks.

If you can afford private school, presumably you can blow a few hundred bucks on a backup plan?

I don't at all mean to say it doesn't suck. It really does. But please don't think you earned this because of your virtue as a stellar employee. It's okay to take leave. No one is going to your perfect attendance record on your gravestone when you die an early death from stress and self-righteousness.

Honestly, even if that is reality, it's an effed up reality. Being dependable and relibale is a very admirable qulaity that should be rewarded. I can't tell you how frustrating it is watching people game the system.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, this sucks.

Second, you honestly don't get points for never calling in sick or never using your PTO. Use it. Life is short. Stop begrudging others for using it.

Thirdly, please don't follow OP's advice and just drop your kid off before school with no supervision. That's not allowed at any school. I wish we had staffing to provide supervision outside to families in need, but we just don't, and the school can't be responsible for her safety.

Third, who can you pay in your circle of availability? For instance, we have LOTS of young teachers at my kid's sxhoomwho's be happy to get paid $50/hour to babysit your kid before school for two weeks. Or maybe your kids' friends have siblings in high school and would live a temp gig for two weeks.

If you can afford private school, presumably you can blow a few hundred bucks on a backup plan?

I don't at all mean to say it doesn't suck. It really does. But please don't think you earned this because of your virtue as a stellar employee. It's okay to take leave. No one is going to your perfect attendance record on your gravestone when you die an early death from stress and self-righteousness.

Honestly, even if that is reality, it's an effed up reality. Being dependable and relibale is a very admirable qulaity that should be rewarded. I can't tell you how frustrating it is watching people game the system.

You can be dependable and reliable and still use your PTO. At the othe end of the spectrum are people who NEVER take a sick day and want a medal for it but who come to work and infect everybody else, over and over, when they are contagious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like a possible userra issue, ie you are the spouse of a deployed military member. Research, contact doll.

I don’t see how this applies to OP’s situation.