How do you split travel when dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if the inviter is in a different state and offers the invitee to visit them? Who pays for avia tickets?

I’m definitely pretty traditional but I hope in this case that the inviter is the man, and that he pays for the woman’s expenses to visit him, assuming he already visited her first at least once.

If you’re the woman and you’re inviting the man to visit you ( instead of him jumping on an airplane to go see you), this relationship is starting off on the wrong foot.

If you're traditional, I do hope you are staying in a hotel. Staying with your gentleman friend would be most improper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If one partner invites the other to an event which involves travel and lodging, who pays? Do you split it, or does the one inviting pay?

You pay yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What if the inviter is in a different state and offers the invitee to visit them? Who pays for avia tickets?

One who chooses to travel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if the inviter is in a different state and offers the invitee to visit them? Who pays for avia tickets?

I’m definitely pretty traditional but I hope in this case that the inviter is the man, and that he pays for the woman’s expenses to visit him, assuming he already visited her first at least once.

If you’re the woman and you’re inviting the man to visit you ( instead of him jumping on an airplane to go see you), this relationship is starting off on the wrong foot.

And here goes equality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you live in different cities and both go back and forth, then easiest to just pay your own way. If you are dating you need to see each other. I don't really consider it inviting someone, it is part of the process.

If it is always one person travelling for whatever reason, then the expenses should be shared.

What if one of the parties is much higher paid ? (like, 100 times)

Doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if the inviter is in a different state and offers the invitee to visit them? Who pays for avia tickets?

One who chooses to travel.

So they are “inviting” the other party to spend? Who pays for lodging ? It’s totally free to date in own neighborhood why would invitee even go, then ?

[Anonymous]

If it's a vacation, split. If it's accompanying your bf/gf to like, a family wedding that you wouldn't otherwise go to, they should pay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you live in different cities and both go back and forth, then easiest to just pay your own way. If you are dating you need to see each other. I don't really consider it inviting someone, it is part of the process.

If it is always one person travelling for whatever reason, then the expenses should be shared.

What if one of the parties is much higher paid ? (like, 100 times)

If somebody is that highly compensated but not willing to pay your share, they're just not that into you.

And if you mooch, you're just not that into them but their money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you live in different cities and both go back and forth, then easiest to just pay your own way. If you are dating you need to see each other. I don't really consider it inviting someone, it is part of the process.

If it is always one person travelling for whatever reason, then the expenses should be shared.

What if one of the parties is much higher paid ? (like, 100 times)

Doesn't matter.

Why and how is that fair that the marginal cost of a poorer individual to date someone that wealthy is incredibly high ? And for the wealthier it’s practically free.
I would be offended if I traveled with a partner and he went to 1st class and I would go to economy (which I a could afford). That tells me they don’t care at all.

Equality is not about 50/50 or each paying theirs way. It’s about fair distribution of responsibilities and costs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if the inviter is in a different state and offers the invitee to visit them? Who pays for avia tickets?

One who chooses to travel.

So they are “inviting” the other party to spend? Who pays for lodging ? It’s totally free to date in own neighborhood why would invitee even go, then ?

If invitee can't afford they shouldn't go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you live in different cities and both go back and forth, then easiest to just pay your own way. If you are dating you need to see each other. I don't really consider it inviting someone, it is part of the process.

If it is always one person travelling for whatever reason, then the expenses should be shared.

What if one of the parties is much higher paid ? (like, 100 times)

If somebody is that highly compensated but not willing to pay your share, they're just not that into you.

And if you mooch, you're just not that into them but their money.

I have nothing to gain economically from them getting an avia ticket. Otherwise I can just sit back home and in fact make more money working my 2 side gigs.

[Anonymous]

Just make up your mind, equality or free lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What if the inviter is in a different state and offers the invitee to visit them? Who pays for avia tickets?

One who chooses to travel.

So they are “inviting” the other party to spend? Who pays for lodging ? It’s totally free to date in own neighborhood why would invitee even go, then ?

If invitee can't afford they shouldn't go.

Yep, that’s what I did. Just stayed back home and offered him to visit. Turned out he came to visit, wanted sex but was too cheap to invite for a proper dinner. I just dumped him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just make up your mind, equality or free lunch.

Equality is not about 50/50. If they make $1m and the other party makes 100k then they should pay 9/10th of expenses in that couple

This would be equality: pro-rata contributing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it's a vacation, split. If it's accompanying your bf/gf to like, a family wedding that you wouldn't otherwise go to, they should pay.

+1

But if one person is substantially wealthier, they may want to just do all the paying because (1) they can, and (2) it means you can go nicer places.

If it's flying back and forth to visit someone - the default would be to pay for your own travel, but, again, if the other person makes a lot more than you'd probably expect them to offer to pay more of those expenses.

If they don't - yeah, move on. TRUST ME on that one.