How do you split travel when dating?
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Anonymous
| If one partner invites the other to an event which involves travel and lodging, who pays? Do you split it, or does the one inviting pay? |
Anonymous
| Not OP but also wondering |
Anonymous
| The person who invited would pay the bill of it, though they don’t necessarily need to pay for every meal or thing. |
Anonymous
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Depends on the seriousness of the couple. If a new relationship, I would expect the inviter to pay if desired and/or it be no big deal for the other partner to simply not go.
In a serious, long-term dating relationship I'd expect some sort of budget/travel "pot"/other equitable division of cost. |
Anonymous
| By default the inviter pays. If the invitee is comfortable financially it's a nice gesture to offer to pay for half of it - the inviter can then decide to accept that or insist on paying all of it. |
Anonymous
| What if the inviter is in a different state and offers the invitee to visit them? Who pays for avia tickets? |
Anonymous
I’m definitely pretty traditional but I hope in this case that the inviter is the man, and that he pays for the woman’s expenses to visit him, assuming he already visited her first at least once. If you’re the woman and you’re inviting the man to visit you ( instead of him jumping on an airplane to go see you), this relationship is starting off on the wrong foot. |
Anonymous
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If both people extend equalish kinds of invitations, then it makes sense to each pay. But if it is always one person inviting and paying, then the other is just a cheap moocher.
For me, I am an adult and more than capable of being an adult and manging basc adult responsibilities like paying for myself. I don't need a man to look after me and pay for me and take care of me as though I was a child so I wouldn't date someone who did all the paying. I have zero interest in being a dependent. Also I have no intention of being his maid and cook and looking purty and at his beck and call so traditional gender roles aren't of interest to me. When I travel when dating, I would split it. Doesn't have to be an exact 50/50 but if he was getting the accommodation, I would get the flights type thing. Or if it is a special treat type trip for a birthday or whatnot, then fine if he pays it all but then I would do something similar for him at another time. |
Anonymous
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If you live in different cities and both go back and forth, then easiest to just pay your own way. If you are dating you need to see each other. I don't really consider it inviting someone, it is part of the process.
If it is always one person travelling for whatever reason, then the expenses should be shared. |
Anonymous
| Pay your own way. |
Anonymous
What if one of the parties is much higher paid ? (like, 100 times) |
Anonymous
If somebody is that highly compensated but not willing to pay your share, they're just not that into you. |
Anonymous
| Tell me what the event is and then I’ll answer. Also, are you in a long-term relationship or just casually dating one another? |
Anonymous
| Destination wedding…split unless one can afford to treat no problem. If you’re on equal financial footing you pay your own way. If this is not a conversation, you’re comfortable having you should not accept that invitation. If your expectation is that you’re always paid for you should not accept that invitation. |
Anonymous
DH mostly paid when we were long-distance dating, including when he sprung for first class several times. So that's what it looks like when someone is into you and is highly compensated. Our salaries are less disparate now than they were back then. |