Faux pas by not inviting whole class to 5th birthday party?

[Anonymous]

OP here to clarify. She’s turning 5, not in 5th grade.

[Anonymous]

Only the girls is a-ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here to clarify. She’s turning 5, not in 5th grade.

Invite everyone or as many as the venue will accommodate.

5 year old boys have been known to tease 5 year old girls. They grow out of it.

FWIW It's "fox paws", not "faux pas".

[Anonymous]

Fox paws? Wut

Agree it’s okay to invite all the girls. We did this for my daughter’s recent birthday party and also invited a few friends from other classes.

[Anonymous]

I will now and forever be calling all social errors "fox paws". Thank you, PP.

OP, just invite the girls. I assume your DD is in pre-school, as in mine. She has already had her feelings hurt by another girl telling her she's not invited to her birthday party (no idea if this is even true...). But absolutely don't pick and choose within the class where it makes it obvious that some kids got "chosen."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here to clarify. She’s turning 5, not in 5th grade.

Invite everyone or as many as the venue will accommodate.

5 year old boys have been known to tease 5 year old girls. They grow out of it.

FWIW It's "fox paws", not "faux pas".

Please tell me more about these fox paws. I'm truly hoping you think you're funny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can invite all of the girls. You can invite some of the kids. Just don’t do something that looks like you’re excluding a couple of them.

Honestly the thread should have ended here. This is the answer.

[Anonymous]

Im in California but we only get invited to a party once a year or so. Kids are k and 2nd grade and have good friends. I didn't know whole class parties were a thing. Definitely a rich people thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im in California but we only get invited to a party once a year or so. Kids are k and 2nd grade and have good friends. I didn't know whole class parties were a thing. Definitely a rich people thing.

Also, I have never thrown my kids a friend party. So maybe that's why? With everything going on in the world the last thing on my mind is entertaining a bunch of kids. I take my children on fun outings or trips instead.

As a child I had parties and got to invite 8 every time.

[Anonymous]

Omg fox paws.

Only girls is totally fine. And an all girls party where some of them come from school, some from basketball and some from underwater basket weaving is also cool. Just make sure that your child pays particular attention to any guest who doesn’t have another acquaintance at the party.

[Anonymous]

Fine to just invite all the girls. Also fine to just invite a handful of kids.

Not ok to exclude only a few kids in the class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All class parties are, in my experience, very rare. I don't think we've been to more than a couple ever, and none older than kindergarten. Invite your kids friends.

Maybe all class parties shouldn't be rare? Perhaps if we were all more inclusive in general it would foster better relationships among the children at school?

Not everyone can afford to invite 20+ kids to a party. My kid never had a whole class party. I did let him invite around 5-6 boys to his 10th birthday party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All class parties are, in my experience, very rare. I don't think we've been to more than a couple ever, and none older than kindergarten. Invite your kids friends.

Maybe all class parties shouldn't be rare? Perhaps if we were all more inclusive in general it would foster better relationships among the children at school?

How old is your toddler

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All class parties are, in my experience, very rare. I don't think we've been to more than a couple ever, and none older than kindergarten. Invite your kids friends.

Maybe all class parties shouldn't be rare? Perhaps if we were all more inclusive in general it would foster better relationships among the children at school?

Teacher here. I disagree. Kids can be mean to each other, and having to invite the mean kid to your birthday party seems like a potential problem and not one the birthday kid needs to deal with on their day. I do a lot to foster relationships in the classroom and during lunch bunches, etc. But at home and in your own time, that’s your safe space and you don’t need to invite people that make you feel bad about yourself.

I did all class parties for three kids all through their elementary schools without any problems. Nobody was being mean because they were all having a good time. And I used private venues so I could watch the kids carefully.

The bully problem is one thing but some mothers are as nasty as their kids and they invite everyone but the “odd” kid. The quiet kid who dresses funny and has no friends. Those are the children I think of when I decide to invite everyone.

[Anonymous]

You can do whatever you/she wants. Really. I give you permission. No one is policing who is or isn’t invited. Hopefully your daughter and who ever else invited have been taught manners and know not to talk about parties in school- but if they don’t, oh well, they’ll learn eventually.