Faux pas by not inviting whole class to 5th birthday party?

[Anonymous]

Venue only allows for around 15 kids. One boy is super mean to my kid and she doesn’t want to invite him. Could I get away with inviting only the girls? Do I have to invite all the girls? Covid baby so not like we’ve done a lot of parties. Thanks for your thoughts!

[Anonymous]

You can invite all of the girls. You can invite some of the kids. Just don’t do something that looks like you’re excluding a couple of them.

[Anonymous]

Just the girls is ok. I wouldn’t leave any of the girls out since it will be a small group without the boys.

[Anonymous]

What?

Whole class parties parties pretty much ended after preschool. Sure, there are a few playground parties throughout elementary where the whole class was invited but it’s certainly not the norm.

I have a first grader and a fourth grader. They’ve gone to dozens of parties this year. The average number is 15 kids or so. Only one party was for the whole class (and that was the 1st grader.)

Nobody invites the entire class to venue parties where the cost gets exorbitant fast. And nobody invites the entire class to house parties where there just isn’t space to host that many kids comfortably. And most of all, nobody invites their child’s bully to their birthday party. That’s insanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What?

Whole class parties parties pretty much ended after preschool. Sure, there are a few playground parties throughout elementary where the whole class was invited but it’s certainly not the norm.

I have a first grader and a fourth grader. They’ve gone to dozens of parties this year. The average number is 15 kids or so. Only one party was for the whole class (and that was the 1st grader.)

Nobody invites the entire class to venue parties where the cost gets exorbitant fast. And nobody invites the entire class to house parties where there just isn’t space to host that many kids comfortably. And most of all, nobody invites their child’s bully to their birthday party. That’s insanity.

I have a feeling *you* are not invited because you sound insufferable. The world does not revolve around yours, honey.

[Anonymous]

An all girls in the class party is fine.

[Anonymous]

You can invite the whole class, just a few people, just the boys, just the girls, whatever. What you can't do is invite all the kids except a couple or all the girls except a couple -- that looks targeted and is hurtful to the ones who didn't get invited.

[Anonymous]

All class parties are, in my experience, very rare. I don't think we've been to more than a couple ever, and none older than kindergarten. Invite your kids friends.

[Anonymous]

Of course you can invite only girls! I have a 5th grade boy and he would not want to go to a girl's party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All class parties are, in my experience, very rare. I don't think we've been to more than a couple ever, and none older than kindergarten. Invite your kids friends.

Maybe all class parties shouldn't be rare? Perhaps if we were all more inclusive in general it would foster better relationships among the children at school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All class parties are, in my experience, very rare. I don't think we've been to more than a couple ever, and none older than kindergarten. Invite your kids friends.

Maybe all class parties shouldn't be rare? Perhaps if we were all more inclusive in general it would foster better relationships among the children at school?

Teacher here. I disagree. Kids can be mean to each other, and having to invite the mean kid to your birthday party seems like a potential problem and not one the birthday kid needs to deal with on their day. I do a lot to foster relationships in the classroom and during lunch bunches, etc. But at home and in your own time, that’s your safe space and you don’t need to invite people that make you feel bad about yourself.

[Anonymous]

In fifth grade invite who you want. I would never invite the kid who’s mean to my daughter.

[Anonymous]

I would have to pre-self medicate to host the entire class 😁🍸

[Anonymous]

Invite who you want. No mean kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All class parties are, in my experience, very rare. I don't think we've been to more than a couple ever, and none older than kindergarten. Invite your kids friends.

Maybe all class parties shouldn't be rare? Perhaps if we were all more inclusive in general it would foster better relationships among the children at school?

How many violent bullies do you invite to your birthday party? The guy who pushes you down and rubs your face in the dirt? The woman who takes your lunch and destroys it? Do you find that it's helped your relationship with them?