How do middle aged straight men make new male friends?

[Anonymous]

I would suggest a church or other religious organization. Even if you're not religious - we joined a Unitarian congregation and met lots of similarly non-religious people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would suggest a church or other religious organization. Even if you're not religious - we joined a Unitarian congregation and met lots of similarly non-religious people.

My FIL made friends through church. He has a men's group that meets like once a week, not sure what they do maybe go out to eat or something like that. I think he is also in a woodworking club.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband is very, very good at making male friends. He basically asks people to play his sport (tennis) with him. Or if they like something else, like biking, he will go and do it with them. He has made a lot of friends this way. I have noticed that he takes a lot of interest in what other men have to say and likes to ask other men for advice and likes their opinion on things. If they have a hobby or something they are really interested in he will listen very attentively and be very admiring. I think he makes other men feel good about themselves. There's no weirdness to it either, he's just a friendly guys guy.

My husband is similar. He has a ton of male friends and is always making new friends. Right now he has a monthly book club with 5 other dads, a few walking and exercise buddies, a ton of guys he talks to on the phone, etc.

He is also someone who asks people a lot about themselves. He makes people feel important and listened to. He also has wide and varied interests.

I will say that he does not click as well with the "bro" dads. The ones that only talk about themselves and sports.

[Anonymous]

Sports is the easiest way especially team sports.

[Anonymous]

FFS, more than half of them seem to find affair partners with ease. Why is it so hard dot find friends?

How about hobbies? Join a meetup group or similar. Talking to the men on your street or in pickup line (if you do that). Just like plentiful APs - take your coworkers for a spin?m
Pretend this is someone you want to f*%k - I imagine you can come up with ideas.

[Anonymous]

Your focus should be on your family not poker night with the guys.

[Anonymous]

Men are super lazy about making plans. Either join an activity that has a regularly scheduled meeting, or start doing a monthly drinks night at the same place each time.