If your kid changed their first name in middle school....

[Anonymous]

Wow, I didn't know so many people have experience with this.

I have a "foreign" sounding name that is often mispronounced initially, but it is very pretty.

When I got to 7th grade, I told everyone to call me "Cindy" and they did. By the end of 8th grade, I was almost completely back to my given name. By the time I started high school, I was so embarrassed that I ever did this, everyone called me by my given name, and probably no one even remembered that I tried to change it.

Maybe that's hope for you? GL.

[Anonymous]

My second child chose a name that I absolutely love. I could not pick that name at birth, because it's the name of my aunt, who has a high-conflict relationship with my mother, and my mother would be devastated if her grandchild had her mean sister's name. So at school she goes by the new name, and in the family circle, she goes by her legal name. Win-win, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this due to changing genders or more like using a middle name?

was name
Alexandria
changed to
Alejandrina. she was 5th grade legal changed in the DMV at 18, shes 25 now. she calls by Alex. Hispanic we gave her a so called "white girl name" and wanted her name to be Hispanic since her dad has a common white name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids do this? Aside from gender identity issues, I don’t know of any teens that have totally changed their name

I always hated my name. I hated how it sounded and how it looked written. I loved my Hebrew name and started going by that in 10th grade and never looked back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids do this? Aside from gender identity issues, I don’t know of any teens that have totally changed their name

It’s a gender thing. Was super common the year before last when my youngest was still in an FCPS middle school.

The policy was unlimited name-changes, and lots of kids took advantage of that. Some even changed gender/ names from month to month.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids do this? Aside from gender identity issues, I don’t know of any teens that have totally changed their name

It’s a gender thing. Was super common the year before last when my youngest was still in an FCPS middle school.

The policy was unlimited name-changes, and lots of kids took advantage of that. Some even changed gender/ names from month to month.

I don’t think it’s necessarily gender thing. I think there are kids who genuinely dislike their name and want to change it or are entering a new phase in life like MS and decide to try a new name or nickname.

[Anonymous]

When you say “ new name” , is this something along the lines of an Elizabeth becoming a Lizzie or an Elizabeth becoming something totally different like a Jewel or an Ava?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Kids do this? Aside from gender identity issues, I don’t know of any teens that have totally changed their name

It’s a gender thing. Was super common the year before last when my youngest was still in an FCPS middle school.

The policy was unlimited name-changes, and lots of kids took advantage of that. Some even changed gender/ names from month to month.

If you read the thread, you'd see that it's not.

[Anonymous]

Some kids I know have. Really depends on their reason for changing their name.

They may also go back once out of school bc it’s awkward to change your name a bunch at a certain point.

[Anonymous]

How arrogant to tell someone how to refer to her own family ethnicity

[Anonymous]

We have a family rule that you can have whatever nickname you want with your friends, but your parents took time and effort to choose your given name and as long as we are alive, it’s what we will call you.

It’s not a gender thing. We have a child who is bisexual. Her friends call her a gender neutral name. We are 100% okay with it.

When I was in middle school, my friends called me a different name when I announced that is what I wanted — in 1990. I don’t know if it was a trend then, but it’s what I wanted. It’s still my nickname with old friends but my professional name is back to my given name.

TDLR: middle school is hard and we all had to find ourselves. This generation had so much pressure to label themselves and use their names to define who they are. Let them do it. In our house, we will support but your, “your mama named you Clay, I’m gonna call you Clay.”

It helps we have a big family so the kids all know the deal together. It’s not personal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this due to changing genders or more like using a middle name?

was name
Alexandria
changed to
Alejandrina. she was 5th grade legal changed in the DMV at 18, shes 25 now. she calls by Alex. Hispanic we gave her a so called "white girl name" and wanted her name to be Hispanic since her dad has a common white name.

Your family is not “Hispanic.” The correct term is LatinX.

Please try to use the correct term.

Did you just try and correct someone on how to refer to their own ethnicity? Is this real?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dd now goes by a nickname of her middle name at school. Love her middle name but hate the new nickname. She lets us call her by her first name at home because she said it was “too weird” to have us call her by her middle/new name. In fact, everyone who know her by her first name continues to call her that. We’ll see if it continues into college or if she gets tired of constantly correcting people.

As someone who always went by their middle name, I don’t know why anyone would choose to, it’s so annoying!

Same. I love Gabriella and it was a perfect middle name. I can't stand that she is now called "Gabby."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a family rule that you can have whatever nickname you want with your friends, but your parents took time and effort to choose your given name and as long as we are alive, it’s what we will call you.

It’s not a gender thing. We have a child who is bisexual. Her friends call her a gender neutral name. We are 100% okay with it.

When I was in middle school, my friends called me a different name when I announced that is what I wanted — in 1990. I don’t know if it was a trend then, but it’s what I wanted. It’s still my nickname with old friends but my professional name is back to my given name.

TDLR: middle school is hard and we all had to find ourselves. This generation had so much pressure to label themselves and use their names to define who they are. Let them do it. In our house, we will support but your, “your mama named you Clay, I’m gonna call you Clay.”

It helps we have a big family so the kids all know the deal together. It’s not personal.

You picked a new nickname but don't let your kids do the same?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this due to changing genders or more like using a middle name?

was name
Alexandria
changed to
Alejandrina. she was 5th grade legal changed in the DMV at 18, shes 25 now. she calls by Alex. Hispanic we gave her a so called "white girl name" and wanted her name to be Hispanic since her dad has a common white name.

Your family is not “Hispanic.” The correct term is LatinX.

Please try to use the correct term.

Did you just try and correct someone on how to refer to their own ethnicity? Is this real?

No, I corrected them (and you) on the anachronistic and transphobic term “Latinos,” which you cannot use anymore (unless you are a MAGA/ bigot).