And who want their kids to go to the same school they have been funding and get all the benefits... |
sometimes you need more than the alum....and btw children of wealthy alum can be Z list too! |
| I don't get the 'Z list' reference. Sorry, new here. |
Just get rid of legacy. The parents stop being crybabies who demand unfair admission when you take away the carrot dangling right on their foreheads. This belief that legacy is some necessary means of fundraising is ridiculous. If you have donor class money, you have the capacity to get your kid into Harvard, if you desire it that greatly, without cheating. |
google???? https://blog.collegevine.com/what-is-the-harvard-z-list |
Good on your DC. The real shame here is that the kid is not interested in the school. I hope he is able to land at a school that he will be happy at and if it turns out to be this Ivy, then I hope the people surrounding him remain supportive (including his best friend's mother). |
OP, this is absurd. All private school placements should be taken with a grain of salt? And you think the level of competition is low at Ivies? Send your kid to one and get back to us. |
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I have a story from our top private too:
Kid was denied/deferred harvard REA. Kid applied to UChicago ED 2 and was accepted in June, kid renegaded his UChicago acceptance, and will be going to Harvard, but with NEXT year's class (taking a gap year). One of the parents is a Harvard legacy, and famous. Family is rich. There you go. |
Is your top private worried about blow back from Chicago? |
That is a good one. In New York City, I see names on private school commit pages that are literally names of buildings or schools at Ivies. |
Like these folks: https://www.propublica.org/article/hedge-fund-billionaires-donations-college-admissions-elite-universities |
Yes common. Happens at our private all the time. Some have Zlist, princeton does a forced princeton affiliated gap year. Meh. Who cares. Run your own race and be the unhooked kid at the ivy outshining the vast majority of kids, especially the hooked ones. If they do not get ivy just do the best with what you get |
| But I don't think any of us would like to be the Z list kid at Harvard, right? The PP who relayed the Z list kid's doubts and insecurities is spot on. You end up with a huge sense of inferiority, and then you get the worse grades in the class, and feel awful. I'd rather go where I can be more academically successful! |
If my kid was a decent student and I had the wallet and clout to ensure an acceptance at Harvard or whatever their school of choice was, then I would definitely use that to my advantage. The thing with schools like Harvard is that they do have a lot programs in place that can help my kid can become academically successful. Sure I can keep my worthless pride let the cards fall where they may and those cards may fall in the highly populated state schools- did I really do my kid a favor by having them be in classes that are 600 students big? My high horse won't get my kid far. |
| We know two girls who used the z-list 10ish years ago. It happens. |