WFH moms, what do you wear to pick up the kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, jeans are not necessary. Most days I have yoga pants or joggers on.

+1

I dress up a bit on top for my WFH job when I have to be in video, but I usually do it after dropoff when I have the house to myself.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes my hair is wet or dirty and sometimes I am covered in mud and sometimes I am meeting-ready. I like to keep them guessing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Assless chaps.

Yee haw!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've struggled with depression lately, and dressing is difficult, especially when it's only to run inside daycare, the pool, whatever. What's appropriate? Do I have to wear at least jeans?

Don't worry about what the other parents think, but do try to make an effort to shower every morning and get dressed all the way to lace up tennis shoes/sneakers.

I've been there OP. I hope you feel better soon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've struggled with depression lately, and dressing is difficult, especially when it's only to run inside daycare, the pool, whatever. What's appropriate? Do I have to wear at least jeans?

I wah and only walk the dog most days (have older kids who drive). I get dressed in the am 100% of the time, as well as light makeup and brush my hair. I do either jeans or black pants and a sweater, flats or booties, or sometimes a lounge top and bottom, but put together, always earrings or a necklace. If you just get dressed and make your bed in the am, it will have a positive effect on everything.

What a waste of water to wash all that stuff no one will see.

Also, making your bed is contraindicated for those with dust mite allergies (many, many of us, so many that it's stupid blanket advice).

I don’t follow the washing and wasted water part. If anything washing jeans and sweaters is less frequent than leggings… do you mean you wear the same dirty pjs and leggings every day?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've struggled with depression lately, and dressing is difficult, especially when it's only to run inside daycare, the pool, whatever. What's appropriate? Do I have to wear at least jeans?

I wah and only walk the dog most days (have older kids who drive). I get dressed in the am 100% of the time, as well as light makeup and brush my hair. I do either jeans or black pants and a sweater, flats or booties, or sometimes a lounge top and bottom, but put together, always earrings or a necklace. If you just get dressed and make your bed in the am, it will have a positive effect on everything.

What a waste of water to wash all that stuff no one will see.

Also, making your bed is contraindicated for those with dust mite allergies (many, many of us, so many that it's stupid blanket advice).

Looked this up. Advice is airing for 30 mins, not all day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've struggled with depression lately, and dressing is difficult, especially when it's only to run inside daycare, the pool, whatever. What's appropriate? Do I have to wear at least jeans?

Jeans are super dressy especially post pandemic.

[Anonymous]

I wear jeans, sneakers, and a reasonable shirt (can be a t-shirt, but not ratty). Jacket depending on weather. I also put on a necklace, because I always wear some jewelry.

I've gone through bouts when it was really hard to leave the house, and I find that putting on something a little more structured helps me feel more like myself. It's also something to focus on while working up to actually leaving. I think it matters less what you wear than that you create a clear delineation around leaving the house.

[Anonymous]

I often just have on joggers or leggings. I don't think you have to wear jeans. Especially this time of year -- I generally have a longer coat on so no one can see what I'm wearing.

I will say that as someone else who struggles with depression, sometimes I take extra time to make myself look nice before I pick up my DC because it helps me feel better when interacting with other people. But it's hard to do that during a full blown depressive episode -- agree with others that just making sure you are showered and on time is enough.

But maybe think in the back of your mind if there is anything you could do that would help feel more human or connected to others when you go out. Even something really simple like getting a nice pair of gloves or a cool pair of sneakers. Often just the visible jolt of a bright color or the comforting feel of something soft can help me.

Good luck OP. Will be thinking about you this holiday season.

[Anonymous]

go to the gym to get over your depression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've struggled with depression lately, and dressing is difficult, especially when it's only to run inside daycare, the pool, whatever. What's appropriate? Do I have to wear at least jeans?

I wah and only walk the dog most days (have older kids who drive). I get dressed in the am 100% of the time, as well as light makeup and brush my hair. I do either jeans or black pants and a sweater, flats or booties, or sometimes a lounge top and bottom, but put together, always earrings or a necklace. If you just get dressed and make your bed in the am, it will have a positive effect on everything.

What a waste of water to wash all that stuff no one will see.

Also, making your bed is contraindicated for those with dust mite allergies (many, many of us, so many that it's stupid blanket advice).

I make my bed in a way that allows it to air out. We don't do flat sheets so I just double over the duvet so the fitted sheet is exposed and fluff up the pillows. We have really pretty sheets that go well with the duvet so this is visually appealing even though the bed is not "made." Doing this discourages me from getting back into it.

And the visual tidiness of the bed is truly an anti-depressant -- I once did a challenge to make my bed before 8am every day for a month (there was an online community of people doing it at the same time -- people would take photos of their made beds and post them and cheer each other on) and it was amazing the impact it had on my chronic mood issues. That experience put me on a path of "daily mindfulness" where I have a set of things I do each day to care for myself and surroundings, and it helps a lot to keep me from falling into deep depression even when I struggle with low mood. Making my bed, exercising (even just for a few minutes -- sometimes just doing jumping jacks and toe touches by my desk), drinking a glass of water upon waking and in the evening, showering, taking out the trash. I know this is basic stuff but it's hard to do basic stuff when you're depressed. Identifying the things that most help me feel like a person and then doing them in an almost religious, mindful way (I use a daily checklist and even write about how I felt going through my routine) has been a game changer for me.

[Anonymous]

Even when I was depressed, I picked my outfits thoughtfully, because I'm also vain and I have social anxiety about my appearance

Right before my period, I wear sweatpants or baggy pants because I feel bloated, but even those are ones I bought because they looked lovely, and I wear a coordinating top.

I just love clothes. If you see me in something terrible, I'll be in the last stages of dementia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FMP’s and jeans. Tank tops that show off my large brea$t$ just to piss off the other Moms because I’m fit and look good!

I don’t know what you’re talking about but a lot of moms have big boobs? I don’t think anyone is jealous? Okay? Enjoy you’re imaginary life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've struggled with depression lately, and dressing is difficult, especially when it's only to run inside daycare, the pool, whatever. What's appropriate? Do I have to wear at least jeans?

Nope--you do not have to wear jeans. Wear what you want for yourself. I barely get time to shower during the workweek because I'm juggling so many things and prioritize sleep. I wear black leggings every day and have done for a few years. Nobody cares.

[Anonymous]

jeans, trainers, t & hoodie
sub leather jacket in cooler weather

summer
slip dress & sandals or trainers

always lippy