Always irritable and angry, can’t let things go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Drop the rock. AA big book 552. Anything about forgiveness.

Also? Change your self-talk. You absolutely CAN let things go, and should, and you don't need drugs to do it. You have mental conditioning and habits. Both can be altered with conscious, deliberate practice.

And the whole "other would" bit is nonsense. Doesn't matter if others would or wouldn't (and it's probably impossible to know anyway). What matters is that you've identified a problem with your thinking. You can and should address it, because nothing changes if nothing changes.

Try something. If it doesn't work, try something else. Quit making excuses for how you "can't" and just do.

This is terrible. Not only does 80% of what she is saying sound like BS she uses the word "pansy" in a derogatory way. And that word, surprise surprise, means "gay".

[Anonymous]

Magnesium helps me a lot with this.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you have high blood pressure?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks I do think it’s hormonal. I’m very good at times about guided meditation and praying. I was raised by a negligent borderline narcissist so at times I feel like although I am very self aware my childhood has conditional me to spiral and have that kind of obsessive anger when I’m at my most stressed.

I'm similar to you, and I recently tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. I only had a few sessions and I didn't even really like the therapist, but those few sessions did me a world of good. Having a neutral third-party with no skin in the game "evaluate" me and give me a few strategies was worth the few hundred dollars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Drop the rock. AA big book 552. Anything about forgiveness.

Also? Change your self-talk. You absolutely CAN let things go, and should, and you don't need drugs to do it. You have mental conditioning and habits. Both can be altered with conscious, deliberate practice.

And the whole "other would" bit is nonsense. Doesn't matter if others would or wouldn't (and it's probably impossible to know anyway). What matters is that you've identified a problem with your thinking. You can and should address it, because nothing changes if nothing changes.

Try something. If it doesn't work, try something else. Quit making excuses for how you "can't" and just do.

This is terrible. Not only does 80% of what she is saying sound like BS she uses the word "pansy" in a derogatory way. And that word, surprise surprise, means "gay".

I'm sorry you're not only ignorant, but unwilling to do even the smallest bit of googling to fix your condition. I'll leave you to it, and best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks I do think it’s hormonal. I’m very good at times about guided meditation and praying. I was raised by a negligent borderline narcissist so at times I feel like although I am very self aware my childhood has conditional me to spiral and have that kind of obsessive anger when I’m at my most stressed.

I am like you at times and it's definitely due to childhood issues. I think it's a result of neglect. We hold onto things because as children we literally had to -- we had to hold all our feelings and needs and be hyper vigilant because we could not trust the adults in our lives to parent us.

CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) has been helpful to me because it helps me recognize unhealthy thought patterns and learn to shift them. And then combining that with therapy or journaling or both. So basically learning how to control my thought processes and make them more productive, and then practicing the new thought patterns via journaling or talking to a therapist. Over time you can kind of re-wire your brain to move on from things.

I will say that the caveat is that some deep harms... I still really struggle moving forward. I've become someone who lets go of all the small stuff -- I will never be derailed by a rude server in a restaurant or a bad driver or something like that at this point. But I've had a handful of really deep cuts as an adult and whew I'm still working on getting over it. For that I just have to keep working on it. I will go months or even years thinking I'm done with it and then something will happen and I'll realize it's still in there somewhere.

I don't know if that's normal or not. It's normal for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every few months I find myself in depressive and angry episodes. I just can’t let things go that others would. I’ll
give an example. I experience some road rage by someone clearly upset about something else and flipping out and I was replaying it in my head for 24 hours, completely taken over by anger, could not sleep, etc. I have general anxiety and tend to spiral over small things when I’m in that place. I’ve tried ssri before but it’s not a good fit. What’s a good way to cope with this kind of thing. I hate that I cannot move on like a normal person.

My sister is like this. She is also a very negative person. She just can't let go of stuff. And at age 60 she is never going to change.

[Anonymous]

This is me. I've used exercise - cardio - to alleviate some of this. It really helps.

[Anonymous]

Exercise
Cognitive behavioral therapy
Try meds again. There really is better living through pharmaceuticals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I stopped taking the placebo pills in my BCP and that same feeling disappeared. How old are you? It could be hormonal.

So you went right on to the next pack of pills?
I have tried this (also in order to smooth out emotions) but I find that I still experience PMS before any of the placebo pills/ new pack any way. You have completely eliminated PMS?

[Anonymous]

Do you tend to have allergies? I’ve noticed that inflammatory responses in my body can manifest or exacerbate anxiety.