All or nothing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, as a registered dietitian I have more than a few patients who come to me with your perspective on eating. My honest recommendation is therapy/ counseling as I've never seen a case where people are like this in only one area of their life (eating.)

You need to get to the root of why you approach eating/ many things in such an all or nothing fashion. It's not healthy in many ways, not just diet.

NP- I am surprised by that. I am a very organized person in my life, no big issues of any kind, no trauma, great kids and dh, but I love to eat, especially sweets, and overeat when stressed. My weight was totally normal my entire life, until it caught up with me in middle age. I thought that was a VERY common issue for women. With age we have to be so much more careful how we eat, or we gain.

RD again. We're not talking about your weight. You posted about your thinking about food. Those are two different things.

[Anonymous]

So clearly you are a perfectionist. You need to think of things in a different way and slowly build up your discipline. Why don’t you set your self up with clear parameters each day and meal plans. Then, build in 3 small cheats that you accept in advance as ok. Then you can slowly roll back the cheats either by dropping a few (until you are up to none) or just tasting a forkful of what you want. You just need to accept that it can’t be all or nothing. Plus you need to detox a bit from all the bad stuff you are eating. Once you gain control, you will loose weight and your self discipline will increase and this will be a greater motivation than the garbage food. Also, just off the bat accept that it will be uncomfortable for you and that’s ok. Or if you can’t do this, work backwards by subbing out one bad meal for a good one, until they are all good. But do it over a month.