Why is the term "mommy" used so often now?

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Anonymous wrote:I actually have been wondering the same thing. I think it may be for two reasons, first because mothers want to be noticed and motherhood is looked at as something heroic and secondly because mothers see themselves as changed or different. They want people to know that they are mothers. Honestly I think it is a little sappy- I would never use that description to define me.

No it's not. Motherhood is not respected at all.

Maybe it would help if the self-identified Mommies would stop being so totally consumed by it, and expect those around them to fawn in similar fashion. The great majority of women for all of human history have been mothers. Get on with your day. And please bring that voice down an octave or two in pitch.

What's wrong with that?

Many people are consumed with their job, title, and status that no one cares about. No one says "most people have jobs, stop being so impressed with yourself and get a life." So what's wrong with being consumed with your child? Why is that bad, because you don't get paid for it?

I find it equally obnoxious when people are consumed with their job, title and status. And I do think that those people need to stop being so impressed with themselves and get a life...

Thank you for being consistent.

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It seems like it is used by people who are the first of their group of friends to have kids, i.e. they now have "mommy friends" who they met through playgroups as opposed to their before kids, or "real" friends who knew them from way back when.

Or, they are simply cheesy people who refer their mommyness because they have nothing better to do! (probably also call wine vino all the time, and dot their I's with hearts, etc.).

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Anonymous wrote:My personal pet peeve is the term "mommy juice". It's called WINE.

I've never heard this term but if I had, I would have thought it referred to breast milk. Thanks for the info.

I am so relieved it's not breast milk. And I'm probably pretty close to a "lactivist" (a word that makes me cringe in the way the photos of unshaven women with mirrors in Our Bodies, Ourselves do).

Also, I am repelled by the "Mommy Juice" concept. Does it come in a giant box with a straw? Jebus.

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Ha ha, the worst is when you introduce yourself to another mom at day care and they say, "hi I'm Madison's mom." Oh, did you have your name revoked when you stepped into that role?

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Anonymous wrote:I guess because people self-identify that way. They think of themselves as Mommy to Precious Angel first and foremost.

What bugs me is when other people call me mom/mommy/mama. Like if I'm in a restaurant and I say "let's have the chicken fingers basket for him...", and the waitress says "and what can I get for mom?" This is like nails on a chalkboard to me.

Ugh yes, I hate this. Our pediatrician does it. My best friend is a pediatrician in another state and I told her that I really hope she doesn't.

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Anonymous wrote:My personal pet peeve is the term "mommy juice". It's called WINE.

I've never heard this term but if I had, I would have thought it referred to breast milk. Thanks for the info.

I am so relieved it's not breast milk. And I'm probably pretty close to a "lactivist" (a word that makes me cringe in the way the photos of unshaven women with mirrors in Our Bodies, Ourselves do).

Also, I am repelled by the "Mommy Juice" concept. Does it come in a giant box with a straw? Jebus.

No, no, that's not how "mommy juice" is used. In some houses "mommy juice" or "daddy juice" is coffee. In others it is wine. I used to think it was a way of telling the kid that it is an adult beverage. Then my toddler started calling wine "mommy juice." No, I do drink my "juice" first thing in the morning.

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Because many moms are just plain annoying and feel they are not being good "mommies" unless their whole identity is in conjunction with their child

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I am so relieved it's not breast milk. And I'm probably pretty close to a "lactivist" (a word that makes me cringe in the way the photos of unshaven women with mirrors in Our Bodies, Ourselves do).

Are you an obnoxious zealot or are you just a friendly breastfeeding supporter?

[Anonymous]

when someone asks what I have been up to I usually say, 'you know, doing the mom thing." not because I am proud or heroic but really because doing mommy stuff takes up so much of my gd time and I want to spare them the detail. When they hear the word mommy it signals to the listener that they can tune out whatever I am going to say next.

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My children call me Mother.

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Anonymous wrote:when someone asks what I have been up to I usually say, 'you know, doing the mom thing." not because I am proud or heroic but really because doing mommy stuff takes up so much of my gd time and I want to spare them the detail. When they hear the word mommy it signals to the listener that they can tune out whatever I am going to say next.

I think we are starting to mix stuff up here. I am a PP and I thought this thread was about referring to momMY rather than mom. I'm totally ok with someone referring to someone else as a "mom friend" or a "mom's group" but it makes my skin crawl when people say "mommy friends" or "mommy group" or something with the word mommy when it is not a child referring to their own mother.

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Anonymous wrote:when someone asks what I have been up to I usually say, 'you know, doing the mom thing." not because I am proud or heroic but really because doing mommy stuff takes up so much of my gd time and I want to spare them the detail. When they hear the word mommy it signals to the listener that they can tune out whatever I am going to say next.

I think we are starting to mix stuff up here. I am a PP and I thought this thread was about referring to momMY rather than mom. I'm totally ok with someone referring to someone else as a "mom friend" or a "mom's group" but it makes my skin crawl when people say "mommy friends" or "mommy group" or something with the word mommy when it is not a child referring to their own mother.

Agree completely. "Mommy" is baby talk. Why do grown women talk baby talk??

[Anonymous]

i feel the same revulsion to the term mommy, unless it is my daughter using it. i haven't been able to put my finger on exactly why. maybe it's as a PP said, because it sounds infantile? hmm.

i am a doula and sometimes at births the nurses refer to the laboring woman as "mommy" and for some reason this really bugs me too. they'll say, "mommy i need to take your blood pressure" or "does mommy need to pee?" it can already feel enough like an assembly line and like the laboring mother is being treated like a helpless child -- if they could at least look at the mother's chart and use her real name, it would be nice.

i tried to get my kid to call me mama because mommy gives me the heebie jeebies but to no avail. mommy it is. though sometimes she calls me by my first name and i love it!

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I really hate it when they name activities "mommy and me" as in mommy and me yoga or mommy and me swimming. I know i might be missing out on some nice activity but I refuse to participate in anything called mommy and me

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Anonymous wrote:when someone asks what I have been up to I usually say, 'you know, doing the mom thing." not because I am proud or heroic but really because doing mommy stuff takes up so much of my gd time and I want to spare them the detail. When they hear the word mommy it signals to the listener that they can tune out whatever I am going to say next.

I think we are starting to mix stuff up here. I am a PP and I thought this thread was about referring to momMY rather than mom. I'm totally ok with someone referring to someone else as a "mom friend" or a "mom's group" but it makes my skin crawl when people say "mommy friends" or "mommy group" or something with the word mommy when it is not a child referring to their own mother.

Agree. I have no problem with the term "Mom Blank" but think like OP that "mommy" used by adults is annoying.

I do refer to "mom friends," (friends I met after having a baby and/or who I talk to about child related stuff, vs. work friends, etc.) call myself a "working mom," say I'm having a "mom's night out" or whatever. But yeah, mommy is annoying.

I assume my two year old will eventually call me "Mom." Right now she still says "Mama!" and occassionaly "Mommy." I have no problem with her saying, but don't like others to say that in reference to me!

[Anonymous]

I think the same people who like this term are the people who put those stick figure stickers on the backs of their cars. What is UP with that?