A simple request of kindness and discretion

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Coaches talk to each other. That's more likely the source. A more respectful route would be to give your coach a heads up that your kid will be trying out elsewhere.

We had a coach that actively threatened players about trying out elsewhere. The club also was known to black ball kids that did.

The real kicker is that they afforded no such courtesy to the kids. They would cut or demote without impunity or a heads-up---even kids that played/not bench players.

If your product is so good, you would welcome players the opportunity to check out the competition---not try to keep them there by threat.

When parents are paying $3k-10k for a team, they should shop around and re-evaluate every single year. Is the coaching good? Is this still the appropriate level of challenge? Is my kid growing here? How are training sessions?

Clubs have zero loyalty to kids, so they should next expect loyalty back.

If they are gossiping about you, it's because they aren't good enough to earn your spot so want to spread sh*t to try to take it the coward's way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My god, who cares? Who cares about any of this?

You by posting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Coaches talk to each other. That's more likely the source. A more respectful route would be to give your coach a heads up that your kid will be trying out elsewhere.

We had a coach that actively threatened players about trying out elsewhere. The club also was known to black ball kids that did.

The real kicker is that they afforded no such courtesy to the kids. They would cut or demote without impunity or a heads-up---even kids that played/not bench players.

If your product is so good, you would welcome players the opportunity to check out the competition---not try to keep them there by threat.

When parents are paying $3k-10k for a team, they should shop around and re-evaluate every single year. Is the coaching good? Is this still the appropriate level of challenge? Is my kid growing here? How are training sessions?

Clubs have zero loyalty to kids, so they should next expect loyalty back.

If they are gossiping about you, it's because they aren't good enough to earn your spot so want to spread sh*t to try to take it the coward's way.

It seems someone has hurt you.

If your coach is that bad, him finding out that your kid tried out at another club is the least of your worries. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

who cares 😂

Imagine coming into a forum and making a post like this so you can feel good about yourself.

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you just explain it to people? If you say that you don’t owe them anything and you’ll do the best thing for your own kids, why can’t you see that this is what everyone else is doing as well?

[Anonymous]

Is the behavior shameful?

If no, why are you afraid of gossip?

If yes, what makes it shameful?

[Anonymous]

What I've learned from this forum is that soccer daddies are 1000x worse than PTO mommies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I've learned from this forum is that soccer daddies are 1000x worse than PTO mommies.

This. ECNL Dad, this isn't you being a great girl Dad, it is you being a nosy biatch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A simple request of kindness and discretion. If you see my kid/any kid checking out a training for your club and you know they play elsewhere, don't run your trap and gossip about it. You may have no idea of the reasoning behind why my kid and or our family is looking elsewhere.

You are probably talking to the wrong group. (I say probably because some people are complete trash and will rat on you...stay strong). Did the club ask you where your kid currently plays? Probably. They will protect themselves and guard against league rules. They will likely tell the other club and have a talk director to director. And then there are coaches too. Its the club and coaches who will rat to protect themselves and/or to get your current club mad at you...more reason to move and become a new revenue stream for them!

All business and never about kids. Remember that.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Kids change teams all the time and everyone survives

[Anonymous]

It aint that serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I've learned from this forum is that soccer daddies are 1000x worse than PTO mommies.

You're comparing ogres to busy bees. Obviously "not all dads" but the soccer dad you see talking to coaches and gossiping with parents is toxic waste, stay away!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What I've learned from this forum is that soccer daddies are 1000x worse than PTO mommies.

No, the worst people are the worst people. The come in all shapes and sizes and anatomy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What I've learned from this forum is that soccer daddies are 1000x worse than PTO mommies.

No, the worst people are the worst people. The come in all shapes and sizes and anatomy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A simple request of kindness and discretion. If you see my kid/any kid checking out a training for your club and you know they play elsewhere, don't run your trap and gossip about it. You may have no idea of the reasoning behind why my kid and or our family is looking elsewhere.

What I've seen, where parents are at their kids' team trainings, if there's a new kid who shows up for practice, parents are texting everyone to find out about the new kid. So assume when you go to a new team's training, your whole league knows. Nothing to hide here. Just know this becomes public info before your kid finishes the training session.