HS boyfriend and girlfriend

[Anonymous]

I’m crossing my fingers it ends at the end of this school year and DC can focus on just having fun with their friends Senior year of high school. Don’t want this dragging out into college/long distance/distraction etc.

[Anonymous]

Still together as sophomores. The girlfriend moved to his college city and they live together. It has been stressful, but I think worth it for DS. He has no interest in trying to sleep with every woman possible. He likes being in a couple. It’s his life and we support his choices. DH thinks he is missing out. They are just not the same with the idea of partying and dating around in college. DH liked to party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going to college with a girlfriend still in high school or on another campus is one of the dumbest moves you can make -- right up there with following a high school girlfriend to college. Maybe one in ten couples actually go the distance. The other nine end up wasting part or all of their college experience -- time they could’ve spent chasing sorority dimez -- and they always regret it.

Not to mention, top-tier fraternities generally aren't interested in rushees who are tied down in long-distance relationships. They want guys who pull and bring fine women to the house. And a bid from a top-tier fraternity can lead to networking and career opportunities long after graduation. There are just so many reasons why trying to maintain a high school relationship in college is a bad idea.

Pull and bring fine women? Top-tier? Do you hear yourself? 🤢

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Going to college with a girlfriend still in high school or on another campus is one of the dumbest moves you can make -- right up there with following a high school girlfriend to college. Maybe one in ten couples actually go the distance. The other nine end up wasting part or all of their college experience -- time they could’ve spent chasing sorority dimez -- and they always regret it.

Not to mention, top-tier fraternities generally aren't interested in rushees who are tied down in long-distance relationships. They want guys who pull and bring fine women to the house. And a bid from a top-tier fraternity can lead to networking and career opportunities long after graduation. There are just so many reasons why trying to maintain a high school relationship in college is a bad idea.

Pull and bring fine women? Top-tier? Do you hear yourself? 🤢

I was in a sorority, my husband a fraternity. Great experiences, full of pros and cons, thankful mine have no interest though. Now that I’ve gotten that out of way that I don’t have a grudge not getting a bid, how old are the people that post these absolute cringe posts? I make it okay in my head that somehow it’s a college age kid as no one middle age could be this awful, but sadly unlikely.

[Anonymous]

Still together as sophomores at different schools. I don’t see them ever breaking up and I’m 100% fine with that. I really like the kid.

[Anonymous]

Freshman at two MD colleges. They have been able to visit several times so far and of course will see each other plenty over winter break. Both great kids. We are just trying to be supportive. It'll either work out or it won't. They are adults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Going to college with a girlfriend still in high school or on another campus is one of the dumbest moves you can make -- right up there with following a high school girlfriend to college. Maybe one in ten couples actually go the distance. The other nine end up wasting part or all of their college experience -- time they could’ve spent chasing sorority dimez -- and they always regret it.

Not to mention, top-tier fraternities generally aren't interested in rushees who are tied down in long-distance relationships. They want guys who pull and bring fine women to the house. And a bid from a top-tier fraternity can lead to networking and career opportunities long after graduation. There are just so many reasons why trying to maintain a high school relationship in college is a bad idea.

Pull and bring fine women? Top-tier? Do you hear yourself? 🤢

Trolls gonna troll.

The most that can be said is that the guys that pull are invited to join fraternities but just being in a fraternity does not make you the rizzler.

There are more organized social events which can be better than random college parties but not by much.

I stopped being particularly involved with my fraternity by junior year. I continued to hang out with some of the guys in my pledge class but most of us didn't do a lot of organized fraternity events anymore. Like a couple of times a semester at best.

[Anonymous]

Still together senior year and discussing a future together. They didn't actually start dating until after freshman year of college, though.

[Anonymous]

My parents met in HS and have now been married over 50 years. So, these things do sometimes happen.

I'm glad my boyfriend broke up with me right before HS graduation. It hurt at the time, but going to school without a boyfriend back home was so much better. I met a guy about a month into school and we wound up dating for a year and a half. He wasn't my forever, but we actually are still friends.

My daughter is currently a freshman 8 hours from home. She recently broke up with the boyfriend back home. I had nothing against him - he was a nice kid but they were just always a very odd fit. She's already seeing someone else - he's taking her to a doctor's appointment today as she does not have a car. No, I don't think the new guy was already in the wings - she was pretty sad when she told me she had broken up with the guy here at home. The new guy is NOT a student where she is - he's a local and studying HVAC repair at the community college.

[Anonymous]

I get why it’s bad but they still make each other happy so it’s hard to wish for them to split up. Plus, when is a time when the heartbreak won’t affect grades? I guess summer would be best.

[Anonymous]

I don't see it lasting. My daughter's boyfriend is much more into the relationship than she is. She is too independent.

[Anonymous]

Mine and longtime girlfriend broke up summer before college. I think it was the right thing to do. Of course, I'll never say a word but I secretly hope they find their way back to each other. She is a lovely person and I loved how they treated each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents met in HS and have now been married over 50 years. So, these things do sometimes happen.

I'm glad my boyfriend broke up with me right before HS graduation. It hurt at the time, but going to school without a boyfriend back home was so much better. I met a guy about a month into school and we wound up dating for a year and a half. He wasn't my forever, but we actually are still friends.

My daughter is currently a freshman 8 hours from home. She recently broke up with the boyfriend back home. I had nothing against him - he was a nice kid but they were just always a very odd fit. She's already seeing someone else - he's taking her to a doctor's appointment today as she does not have a car. No, I don't think the new guy was already in the wings - she was pretty sad when she told me she had broken up with the guy here at home. The new guy is NOT a student where she is - he's a local and studying HVAC repair at the community college.

Hahahahaha.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My parents met in HS and have now been married over 50 years. So, these things do sometimes happen.

I'm glad my boyfriend broke up with me right before HS graduation. It hurt at the time, but going to school without a boyfriend back home was so much better. I met a guy about a month into school and we wound up dating for a year and a half. He wasn't my forever, but we actually are still friends.

My daughter is currently a freshman 8 hours from home. She recently broke up with the boyfriend back home. I had nothing against him - he was a nice kid but they were just always a very odd fit. She's already seeing someone else - he's taking her to a doctor's appointment today as she does not have a car. No, I don't think the new guy was already in the wings - she was pretty sad when she told me she had broken up with the guy here at home. The new guy is NOT a student where she is - he's a local and studying HVAC repair at the community college.

Hahahahaha.

Not sure what is so funny? I mean, it's possible they were already talking, but she was a bit depressed about breaking up with the guy from home when she told me about it.

I mean, things happen, as we all know. Lots of people DO meet the next person and then break up with the current person. I'm just saying I don't think this is what happened here.

[Anonymous]

Mine lasted until the summer before my senior year. He was a good boyfriend and I liked having the excuse of having a boyfriend to keep fraternity creepers away from me. I should have ended the relationship sooner, because I knew I wasn't going to marry him, but it was comfortable and we didn't go to the same school.