successful avoidant-anxious relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can secure people handle a relationship with an anxious or avoidant person?

Omg please stop. There’s no such fixed categories. Someone extreme on the anxious or avoidant sides would be hard to deal with. But most of us are not extremes and vary between anxious, avoidant and secure based on the relationship and life circumstances. I’ve been anxious, avoidant and secure in the same relationship!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can secure people handle a relationship with an anxious or avoidant person?

Omg please stop. There’s no such fixed categories. Someone extreme on the anxious or avoidant sides would be hard to deal with. But most of us are not extremes and vary between anxious, avoidant and secure based on the relationship and life circumstances. I’ve been anxious, avoidant and secure in the same relationship!

Yes, but clearly the people labeled anxious or avoidant are extremes and are difficult to deal with. They also attract each other and so this relationship type exists more than anxious-anxious or avoidant-avoidant. Having been in an anxious-avoidant relationship I would never recommend.

[Anonymous]

Only if the avoidant wants the relationship, in which case they probably aren’t truly an avoidant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Only if the avoidant wants the relationship, in which case they probably aren’t truly an avoidant.

Hmm, I think avoidants actually do want relationships. They just don't know how to be in them. It's a kind of inadvertent self-sabotage.