Any deeply monogamous men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not religious and am monogamous. Also take my marriage vows very seriously.

OP thinks you have low self esteem and no better options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not religious and am monogamous. Also take my marriage vows very seriously.

I am the same way. I am monogamous because it's the right thing to do, and not because I fear any divine retribution.

[Anonymous]

Actually even religious men are not being monogamous out of some fear of divine retribution, PP.

Generally it’s because they have been brought up to believe that God created marriage as a beautiful covenant sealing one man to one woman in spiritual and physical unity.
And the apostle Paul instructs that we should be faithful to the covenants that we make to our spouse and to God, out of love for Him and for each other.

Newsflash- We can’t behave our way out of retribution and just punishment for our many sins. Only grace can take care of that.

[Anonymous]

OP, you are looking for the men with integrity and mature emotional lives. There are millions of them. There are also millions of emotionally immature men with impulse control issues and zero ethics or integrity. They can be loyal to a football team most Sundays, but not to real people in their daily lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Actually even religious men are not being monogamous out of some fear of divine retribution, PP.

Generally it’s because they have been brought up to believe that God created marriage as a beautiful covenant sealing one man to one woman in spiritual and physical unity.
And the apostle Paul instructs that we should be faithful to the covenants that we make to our spouse and to God, out of love for Him and for each other.

Newsflash- We can’t behave our way out of retribution and just punishment for our many sins. Only grace can take care of that.

People can have good values without a religious upbringing.

[Anonymous]

My ex, but because he was an Aspie and that was a no-no for him. Add to it that he had no game, and would have needed a blue bill ahead of time.

[Anonymous]

Married man with no desire to cheat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work in healthcare and we frequently ask about sexual history, STI testing, etc. I have had quite a few male patients tell me that they have never slept with another woman besides their wife.

Dr. House has thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's not about having low drive;

ex-DH turned out to not be monogamous -- either by orientation, sheer will, or religious compulsion -- and there were significant other fractures.

Translation: you gave him at most once a month duty sex that dried up into a couple of times a year then you were surprised when the guy went elsewhere to get what you weren't giving him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not religious and am monogamous. Also take my marriage vows very seriously.

OP thinks you have low self esteem and no better options.

Don’t have low self-esteem. Very successful and I prioritize my family. Have an amazing wife, who is also stunningly beautiful.

[Anonymous]

I've had a couple boyfriends like this. VERY monogamous - one of them couldn't even have casual sex and was EXTREMELY into me (would have married that guy but we had different plans for kids).

H wasn't originally monogamous but has grown to it over the years.

Interestingly we've sort of swapped - I was deeply monogamous early on but would be open to exploring now; he was more open early on but found marriage, kids, family life, and monogamy to be much more enjoyable than when he was more promiscuous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not religious and am monogamous. Also take my marriage vows very seriously.

OP thinks you have low self esteem and no better options.

Don’t have low self-esteem. Very successful and I prioritize my family. Have an amazing wife, who is also stunningly beautiful.

What’s a coincidence! I too have high self-esteem, am successful, prioritize my family, have an amazing and stunning spouse, and somehow find myself on the relationship forum in a thread about men who cheat!

[Anonymous]

DH is kind of squeamish about sex and the female body. I don’t think he would ever have sex with another woman because of this, he really likes what he’s used to. I could say he is so in love with me and deeply monogamous but I really don’t think that’s it. I think it’s the childish squeamishness.

[Anonymous]

I think there are a lot of men who are relieved to be married because finding a woman they like that likes them back is very difficult. So maybe in their minds they're not monogamous, but they accept they got lucky with 1 and want to keep the peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not religious and am monogamous. Also take my marriage vows very seriously.

OP thinks you have low self esteem and no better options.

Don’t have low self-esteem. Very successful and I prioritize my family. Have an amazing wife, who is also stunningly beautiful.

What’s a coincidence! I too have high self-esteem, am successful, prioritize my family, have an amazing and stunning spouse, and somehow find myself on the relationship forum in a thread about men who cheat!

I'm a woman and here I am. No one can look away from a spectacle.