Has anyone revenge cheated to even the score as opposed to divorcing?

[Anonymous]

I can't see myself doing that. One of the biggest things that is gross about cheating is the potential to catch/spread disease so if I came out of a cheating situation disease-free, I sure wouldn't try to put myself at risk myself.

[Anonymous]

I did/still do.

Did it nullify the pain H caused in the first place? Of course not.

We’ve actually done therapy and gotten to a good place, but I still get triggered sometimes and get really upset. When that happens, and if another man happens to come across my path, I will as a way to get even.

I don’t really care about taking the higher road or anything. It’s more like, it makes me feel better in the moment. But nothing will ever undo how he made me feel.

[Anonymous]

Because in someone's mind, two wrongs somehow equal a right? I don't think so

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I did/still do.

Did it nullify the pain H caused in the first place? Of course not.

We’ve actually done therapy and gotten to a good place, but I still get triggered sometimes and get really upset. When that happens, and if another man happens to come across my path, I will as a way to get even.

I don’t really care about taking the higher road or anything. It’s more like, it makes me feel better in the moment. But nothing will ever undo how he made me feel.

So awful. Just LEAVE already! He took your dignity and now you are throwing away your integrity. Take the scraps of your mental health that you have left and get out.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's great! Especially if it's with the cheated upon spouse.
Sort of like swinging, just at different times.

[Anonymous]

No. There would be so much pain that I wouldn't even want to touch another woman.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t but told DH I did/would.

He got the absolute heartbreak and devastating feeling that I had, without sacrificing my integrity because I’m not a cheater.

He’s pressed and I dodge, “Did I, didn’t I? You’ll never know and that’s what being cheated on feels like.” The point has been made, 10/10 recommend.

[Anonymous]

Same story with me, but I’m a man.

I’m not looking to consider divorce until the kids are out of the house. Maybe by then I can forgive her.
In the mean-time, having sex with a few randoms does help me feel better.

Don’t care if that lowers me to her level.

Anonymous wrote:I did/still do.

Did it nullify the pain H caused in the first place? Of course not.

We’ve actually done therapy and gotten to a good place, but I still get triggered sometimes and get really upset. When that happens, and if another man happens to come across my path, I will as a way to get even.

I don’t really care about taking the higher road or anything. It’s more like, it makes me feel better in the moment. But nothing will ever undo how he made me feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because in someone's mind, two wrongs somehow equal a right? I don't think so

"Two wrongs make a right"

Is that not what our entire legal system is based upon though? Capote touched on that with his "In Cold Blood" novel and he wasn't just talking about the death penalty either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because in someone's mind, two wrongs somehow equal a right? I don't think so

"Two wrongs make a right"

Is that not what our entire legal system is based upon though? Capote touched on that with his "In Cold Blood" novel and he wasn't just talking about the death penalty either.

Huh?

This is pathetic. Experiencing a deep betrayal and then turning around and doing the same thing is just debasing yourself.

And if you are gloating to the cheater about it? I’m not sure that’s cheating since they know, but it is so sordid and ugly.

Be free! LEAVE!

[Anonymous]

Two wanga don't make it right

[Anonymous]

No, because the pain and destruction of infidelity doesn’t come from the physical act of my husband sleeping with someone else. It comes from the lying and deception and broken trust.

Me sleeping with some other dude isn’t going to make me trust my husband again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not asking about the morality of doing it. But if you did revenge cheat, what happened?

Not really. Don’t think it would have changed or helped anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because in someone's mind, two wrongs somehow equal a right? I don't think so

"Two wrongs make a right"

Is that not what our entire legal system is based upon though? Capote touched on that with his "In Cold Blood" novel and he wasn't just talking about the death penalty either.

Huh?

This is pathetic. Experiencing a deep betrayal and then turning around and doing the same thing is just debasing yourself.

And if you are gloating to the cheater about it? I’m not sure that’s cheating since they know, but it is so sordid and ugly.

Be free! LEAVE!

Sure. But you seemed to have missed the point of the parallel reference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So teach the piece of sh!t a lesson by becoming a piece of sh!t yourself.

OP: "I'm not asking about the morality of doing it."

Anonymous wrote:No, I wouldn't do that

Nobody asked.

Lol. She literally asked in the title