Would you avoid an August birthday if possible?

[Anonymous]

Based on your post, yes, just wait. Because it sounds like an August bday will cause you angst. A very close friend of mine has an August birthday. She’s in her 40s now but is adamant that being held back was terrible for her. Because of her, I would never choose to hold back even before the child is born. But I get it - we all have different experiences.

[Anonymous]

Your baby could be due in November but born in August. Ask me how I know? I would transfer as soon as you can, and not try to control your future child’s birthday.

[Anonymous]

Just do it. This really doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

Did you PGT-A test the embryo and find out the sex? It seems like boys are redshirted more often than girls.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to be a parent or not?

This is not a real thing. Act like a grownup and not someone designing a Barbie dream house.

[Anonymous]

I’m going with December.

[Anonymous]

This is silly. Your decision on timing shouldn't have to do when your kid would potentially go to school.

You sound anxious and controlling. Get that under control before entering parenthood.

[Anonymous]

I have an August birthday, and I graduated high school at 17.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mother of IVF twins born in late August. Depending on your age and how confident you are that the transfer will be successful, I would vote for avoiding an August birthday. Sure, plenty of kids with August birthdays do fine, while others get held back. It might work out fine, but if you don't hold back, it can be hard always being the youngest in a grade (especially in schools or areas where redshirting is common).

Whenever someone tells you how great their young for their grade kid is doing, ask how old their kid is. There are decided disadvantages to being the youngest in the grade, some of which aren't apparent until a kid is older. For example, in Maryland, you can't get a driver's license until you are 16 years and 6 months old. That means that if you complete your driving requirements and get your license the first day you are eligible, the earliest you can drive is February of junior year. That gives kids only two summers as drivers before college and means that you will be driving them around for much longer. There are also jobs and education programs that require a minimum age of 16, which again, limits opportunities for summers during high school. If given a choice, I would not opt for an August birthday. My kids turned out fine, but I regret not holding at least one of them back.

You can’t be serious. You’d plan baby date based on when they get their drivers license?? You’re nuts.

[Anonymous]

We avoided conception during months that would result in a summer birthday for my second because this was important to me. All those on this thread saying “It doesn’t matter” will be the first to talk behind your back when they find out you sent your August 31 birthday kid to kindergarten right after they turn 6. People are rabid about not redshirting. Avoid if you can.

[Anonymous]

My second IVF baby (FET) is a late August baby and went to school on time (school cut-off was September 30th). Never occurred to me to avoid August. My brother is also a late August birthday and went to school on time, too (after some testing since all the other boys with summer birthdays in our neighborhood were being held back).

That said, my first IVF baby is an early October baby, and I would avoid that. I thought it was so nice to have a fall baby and walk her in cooler fall temperatures, but her birthday is right after the 9/30 cut-off and everyone (!!) was saying she shouldn't wait another year to start kindergarten. It was stressful and awful, and I would avoid it if possible.

[Anonymous]

No, but I would redshirt them.

[Anonymous]

If you are doing iVF, carrying a baby to term and having a healthy, happy child is all that matters. It was so hard for me, I could care less what her effing birthday was. I was just happy she was birthed.

So many factors affect a pregnant. Worrying about what month she was born was the last thing on my mind. Priorities!

[Anonymous]

^ she has an August birthday and I did not hold her back. She is one of the youngest kids in her class. She will get her license almost a year after most of her friends. She is doesn’t care. She is confident, smart, sassy, kind and such a joy. I am so lucky to have her. Doesn’t matter when her birthday is.

[Anonymous]

I could name pros and cons for every birthday and every season for pregnancy / maternity leave. Just get pregnant when it makes sense for you to cycle.