The lip smacking, the slurping, the throat clearing

[Anonymous]

My parents are in their eighties and dementia and don't generally do this. To me it sounds like they might be thirsty. Give them sips on water to drink frequently. I do that constantly when I am with my parents. It is tiresome but necessary

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pooped 12 times a day and ate like a feral creature, moved on to throwing whole bowls of food and lord knows what else before achieving civility. Have some compassion.

I agree. The OP's attitude makes me afraid to get old.

As long as you have no illusions about being “independent” (if you are 80, you are most likely not) and as long as you don’t expect your kids to entertain you - you should be fine.

This. I’m the entertainment 12 hours a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pooped 12 times a day and ate like a feral creature, moved on to throwing whole bowls of food and lord knows what else before achieving civility. Have some compassion.

I agree. The OP's attitude makes me afraid to get old.

As long as you have no illusions about being “independent” (if you are 80, you are most likely not) and as long as you don’t expect your kids to entertain you - you should be fine.

This. I’m the entertainment 12 hours a day.

I get it. In my case they won’t settle for anyone else. It has to be me, or “their day isn’t quite the same”.

[Anonymous]

It's sooo obnoxious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will be one of those people one day.

You don't need to be mean because you already are one.

[Anonymous]

What dental adhesive is she using?

[Anonymous]

I’m here to vent about talking with your mouth full. Our family dinner table growing up was strict. Napkin, asking to be excused, candles every night. Now I can’t look in my mom’s direction during a meal because she’s talking with a mouth full of food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You pooped 12 times a day and ate like a feral creature, moved on to throwing whole bowls of food and lord knows what else before achieving civility. Have some compassion.

Clearly op has compassion as they are spending time with their elderly parents. But everyone can vent. It’s how you relieve the stress of it all

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pooped 12 times a day and ate like a feral creature, moved on to throwing whole bowls of food and lord knows what else before achieving civility. Have some compassion.

Clearly op has compassion as they are spending time with their elderly parents. But everyone can vent. It’s how you relieve the stress of it all

The tone of the OP is degrading and directed at “old people.” Venting actually doesn’t make people feel better (look it up). There’s a big difference in sharing problems, seeking support/understanding, and just straight up insulting people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pooped 12 times a day and ate like a feral creature, moved on to throwing whole bowls of food and lord knows what else before achieving civility. Have some compassion.

Clearly op has compassion as they are spending time with their elderly parents. But everyone can vent. It’s how you relieve the stress of it all

The tone of the OP is degrading and directed at “old people.” Venting actually doesn’t make people feel better (look it up). There’s a big difference in sharing problems, seeking support/understanding, and just straight up insulting people.

NP
It is a rude post but a common feeling that seems to be as involuntary as smacking lips and clearing throats. I wonder if this is due to ages being so separated day to day or something biological or how that awful needless reaction can be combatted. I think it's worse in young people as I remember being bothered as a teen by an elderly aunts noises that I now cannot help making and am not bothered by throat clearing in others as much as I used to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pooped 12 times a day and ate like a feral creature, moved on to throwing whole bowls of food and lord knows what else before achieving civility. Have some compassion.

I agree. The OP's attitude makes me afraid to get old.

As long as you have no illusions about being “independent” (if you are 80, you are most likely not) and as long as you don’t expect your kids to entertain you - you should be fine.

This. I’m the entertainment 12 hours a day.

I get it. In my case they won’t settle for anyone else. It has to be me, or “their day isn’t quite the same”.

Why do you go along with this? I just...wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pooped 12 times a day and ate like a feral creature, moved on to throwing whole bowls of food and lord knows what else before achieving civility. Have some compassion.

I agree. The OP's attitude makes me afraid to get old.

As long as you have no illusions about being “independent” (if you are 80, you are most likely not) and as long as you don’t expect your kids to entertain you - you should be fine.

This. I’m the entertainment 12 hours a day.

I get it. In my case they won’t settle for anyone else. It has to be me, or “their day isn’t quite the same”.

Well of course it isn't the same. I would say yes, it's not the same, see you tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What dental adhesive is she using?

She doesn’t have dentures, but she is missing a lot of teeth. Maybe that has something to do with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What dental adhesive is she using?

She doesn’t have dentures, but she is missing a lot of teeth. Maybe that has something to do with it?

Yes. She's probably doing things with her lips and tongue to compensate for the missing teeth and that's causing the sound. But either she's totally used to it and doesn't notice it, or she's losing hearing and truly doesn't hear it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pooped 12 times a day and ate like a feral creature, moved on to throwing whole bowls of food and lord knows what else before achieving civility. Have some compassion.

I agree. The OP's attitude makes me afraid to get old.

As long as you have no illusions about being “independent” (if you are 80, you are most likely not) and as long as you don’t expect your kids to entertain you - you should be fine.

This. I’m the entertainment 12 hours a day.

I get it. In my case they won’t settle for anyone else. It has to be me, or “their day isn’t quite the same”.

Why do you go along with this? I just...wouldn't.

I don’t but the guilt is there tbh