My 3 1/2yr old son likes to wear my heels!

[Anonymous]

This is 110% normal. He wants to be like you, and he likes imaginative play and being silly. Nothing harmful in that.

The oldest boy I watch is 3 and tends to put on his mom's or dad's shoes and try to walk around the house in them. I have pictures from when he was 2 when he put on his mom's bright pink rainboots as well. And now whenever we are getting to go outside, he puts on my flip flops and I put his sandals on my toes. He thinks it's hilarious.

He also will try to use markers as lipstick and make up. Had to put a stop to that one

[Anonymous]

My cousin did this when he was little, maybe even a little older. It got to the point where my aunt had to lock her shoes up in her closet. He also would try to put socks on his head and say it was his hair, carried purses, loved to dance to Madonna, etc. He's a teenager now and he's gay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin did this when he was little, maybe even a little older. It got to the point where my aunt had to lock her shoes up in her closet. He also would try to put socks on his head and say it was his hair, carried purses, loved to dance to Madonna, etc. He's a teenager now and he's gay.

17:37 here

All 3 year olds engage in imaginary play and being silly. They'll even dress up, play with dolls, and play with toy kitchens. That doesn't necessarily mean they will be gay.

[Anonymous]

My DS says he wants to marry his best friend (boy) because he loves him.

[Anonymous]

My Mom took me with her when she was shoe shopping when I was 6 or 7.

I started trying out all the high heels and walking around.

My Mom never took me on her shoe shopping trips again.

[Anonymous]

As a gay woman, I just wanted to throw my opinion out here...at 3.5, there is very little you can assume about what your child's sexuality will be like when he's older. This is a time where he's just playing/pretending/trying new things out. It's all very normal. If this continues into ages 5, 6, 7...then it's something to think about, but you sound very open thankfully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Mom took me with her when she was shoe shopping when I was 6 or 7.

I started trying out all the high heels and walking around.

My Mom never took me on her shoe shopping trips again.

That's sad

[Anonymous]

If he keeps acting like that I bet he'll end up at GDS and not Landon

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin did this when he was little, maybe even a little older. It got to the point where my aunt had to lock her shoes up in her closet. He also would try to put socks on his head and say it was his hair, carried purses, loved to dance to Madonna, etc. He's a teenager now and he's gay.

My 3 year old daughter likes to clomp around the house in her dad's shoes, put on his tie if he leaves it knotted, and drink her milk such that she gets a mustache "like daddy". She is very proud of the mustache, and requests that we take her picture. Oh, and her train set is her very favorite toy.

Guess I should just break out the flannel now, huh, PP? Maybe move to Vermont so that she has the option of a hometown wedding?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My cousin did this when he was little, maybe even a little older. It got to the point where my aunt had to lock her shoes up in her closet. He also would try to put socks on his head and say it was his hair, carried purses, loved to dance to Madonna, etc. He's a teenager now and he's gay.

My 3 year old daughter likes to clomp around the house in her dad's shoes, put on his tie if he leaves it knotted, and drink her milk such that she gets a mustache "like daddy". She is very proud of the mustache, and requests that we take her picture. Oh, and her train set is her very favorite toy.

Guess I should just break out the flannel now, huh, PP? Maybe move to Vermont so that she has the option of a hometown wedding?

I was about to say the same thing.. My daughter is ALWAYS trying to wear daddy's work boots, shoes slippers etc.. and mine too.. she tries to put his watch on.. She just loves her daddy and wants to be just like him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Should I be concerned? He always wants to wear my heels, & say he's a grown up, & he does things like wraps himself in a blanket & ask if I like his dress. He makes reference to my eyeliner & lipstick. Aside all of this, he is a typical masculine boy, not feminine at all. He's rough, likes to climb things. Is this normal, or do I have reason to be concerned?

My main concern would be that he would fall down in your high heels so I would try to find a pair in his size because of safety. Are you worried that he is gay? Would this change your love for him. According to studies, children are born with sexual preferences and wearing high heels, pretend dresses, makeup have nothing to do with their sexuality.

[Anonymous]

DS is 23 months and he likes to wear a "dress" (one of my tight pre-kids t-shirts) and put on lip gloss. I remember my younger brother used to wear nail varnish when he was about 2. When I dropped DS off at daycare the other day one of the other boys was crying because he wanted to wear a tutu. So I guess it's pretty normal at this age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a gay woman, I just wanted to throw my opinion out here...at 3.5, there is very little you can assume about what your child's sexuality will be like when he's older. This is a time where he's just playing/pretending/trying new things out. It's all very normal. If this continues into ages 5, 6, 7...then it's something to think about, but you sound very open thankfully.

Interesting...I'm the PP whose DS said he wants to marry his friend who is a boy. He's 5.5 (will be 6 in January) and has never said he wants to marry a girl--it's always one of his boy friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a gay woman, I just wanted to throw my opinion out here...at 3.5, there is very little you can assume about what your child's sexuality will be like when he's older. This is a time where he's just playing/pretending/trying new things out. It's all very normal. If this continues into ages 5, 6, 7...then it's something to think about, but you sound very open thankfully.

Interesting...I'm the PP whose DS said he wants to marry his friend who is a boy. He's 5.5 (will be 6 in January) and has never said he wants to marry a girl--it's always one of his boy friends.

I'm the PP you quoted...again, saying those kinds of things may or may not indicate his sexuality. That still seems pretty young to me. Although, um, I DID want to shack up with my female friends at a young age (before I even knew what 'gay' was). Nothing you can do but wait and see. I just hope you would still support and love him

[Anonymous]

OP here. It's been a while, but I figured I'd update. It's gotten progressively more frequent. Now it's all about princesses, only likes to play w/girls & dress up, etc. My ex is beside themselves, blaming me because I "promote it". Which means I won't make my DS feel bad about what he likes. I hate my EX! Truly, it's not that big of a deal to me. He is what he is, whatever that is. He's still my baby boy..