Failing at having kids share a room

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Push out the first nap one or two hours

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Anonymous wrote:In this scenario I would put the baby in my room so as to let the 3yo get enough sleep.

This. It's the only option.

Yes, and Frankly, this entire post is OP looking for a way around this. It's a very, very long was of asking, "How can we force our two kids into sharing a room when the baby wakes up the 3 yo, because we really don't want to deal with the baby in our room."

It's pretty selfish, OP.

Wow. That’s pretty harsh. I know of people who do room share their kids and seem to sort it out, so I was just trying to see if there was something I was missing that other people have done that might help.

Thanks to the people who suggested separating the baby with a slumber pod. I was hopeful there was a better option!

Ignore that comment, dcum is full of perimenopausal harpies who are mad at the world

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Anonymous wrote:The other thing I’d look at is actually an earlier bedtime. Ideal is 7 pm, and 8 pm is the absolute latest for this age. Second nap should be no more than 60 minutes. For your kid I’d cap it at 45 since baby is not sleeping 12 hour nights. Worth a try

Cap it or try to drop it all together, consolidate 2 naps into 1.

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I’m dealing with this (sort of) only opposite - I need my older two to share a room and my oldest wakes up realllly early. I have no suggestions, sigh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:In this scenario I would put the baby in my room so as to let the 3yo get enough sleep.

This. It's the only option.

Yes, and Frankly, this entire post is OP looking for a way around this. It's a very, very long was of asking, "How can we force our two kids into sharing a room when the baby wakes up the 3 yo, because we really don't want to deal with the baby in our room."

It's pretty selfish, OP.

Wow. That’s pretty harsh. I know of people who do room share their kids and seem to sort it out, so I was just trying to see if there was something I was missing that other people have done that might help.

Thanks to the people who suggested separating the baby with a slumber pod. I was hopeful there was a better option!

Ignore that comment, dcum is full of perimenopausal harpies who are mad at the world

Thanks. Have been having a generally crummy day in a few different arenas, not helped I’m sure by the lack of sleep, so I appreciate your kindness.

The afternoon nap was capped at an hour today and I am going to try to see if we can’t sort an earlier bedtime for the baby tonight to see if it does a reset like other posters suggested.

I appreciate the other suggestions! If all else fails, we can also try rotating who is awake with the baby in the mornings and sneak in and grab him before he wakes up, because he does wake the three year old up when he wakes up. When I grabbed the baby and brought him into our room this week, I was hoping that it would allow my 3 year old to fall back asleep but no such luck there.

Thankfully the baby is very good natured or I might consider sending him back!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m dealing with this (sort of) only opposite - I need my older two to share a room and my oldest wakes up realllly early. I have no suggestions, sigh.

Push back bed time for the elder

[Anonymous]

I would put the baby in your room for the time being.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m dealing with this (sort of) only opposite - I need my older two to share a room and my oldest wakes up realllly early. I have no suggestions, sigh.

Push back bed time for the elder

We have tried. He could go to sleep at midnight and still wake up at 6. His body has an actual alarm at 6 on the dot (if not earlier).

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Anonymous wrote:I’m dealing with this (sort of) only opposite - I need my older two to share a room and my oldest wakes up realllly early. I have no suggestions, sigh.

Push back bed time for the elder

We have tried. He could go to sleep at midnight and still wake up at 6. His body has an actual alarm at 6 on the dot (if not earlier).

I researched this regarding my early sleeper and apparently anything after 6 is normal and there's not much you can do about it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In this scenario I would put the baby in my room so as to let the 3yo get enough sleep.

Same.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m dealing with this (sort of) only opposite - I need my older two to share a room and my oldest wakes up realllly early. I have no suggestions, sigh.

Push back bed time for the elder

We have tried. He could go to sleep at midnight and still wake up at 6. His body has an actual alarm at 6 on the dot (if not earlier).

I researched this regarding my early sleeper and apparently anything after 6 is normal and there's not much you can do about it

Yes, I’m not trying to get him to sleep in later (that ship has sailed) but how to deal with him in the same room as a late sleeper. Right now he just wakes up, turns on the lights and plays in his room quietly which is fine. But he can’t sleeping in the same room as his late-sleeper brother.

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Anonymous wrote:In this scenario I would put the baby in my room so as to let the 3yo get enough sleep.

Same.

+1. Then you and DH take turns getting up with the baby.

[Anonymous]

I would do two things: keep the baby in with you while ALSO trying different strategies to get the baby to sleep later - like messing with nap times and bedtimes.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m dealing with this (sort of) only opposite - I need my older two to share a room and my oldest wakes up realllly early. I have no suggestions, sigh.

Push back bed time for the elder

We have tried. He could go to sleep at midnight and still wake up at 6. His body has an actual alarm at 6 on the dot (if not earlier).

I researched this regarding my early sleeper and apparently anything after 6 is normal and there's not much you can do about it

Most very little kids (three and under) are early birds. People try to put their kids to bed later to have them wake up later and it doesn’t really work. The kid just ends up sleep deprived. Kids who go to bed early wake early, and kids who go to bed late wake up early too.

You suck it up and get up early with them until they outgrow it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m dealing with this (sort of) only opposite - I need my older two to share a room and my oldest wakes up realllly early. I have no suggestions, sigh.

Push back bed time for the elder

We have tried. He could go to sleep at midnight and still wake up at 6. His body has an actual alarm at 6 on the dot (if not earlier).

I researched this regarding my early sleeper and apparently anything after 6 is normal and there's not much you can do about it

Most very little kids (three and under) are early birds. People try to put their kids to bed later to have them wake up later and it doesn’t really work. The kid just ends up sleep deprived. Kids who go to bed early wake early, and kids who go to bed late wake up early too.

You suck it up and get up early with them until they outgrow it.

I just left my kids in their cribs until a more palpable hour (6:30-7am) and eventually they just started sleeping until then. If they got fussy prior, I’d go in with the light still off, act very groggy, given them a run and a paci and tell them it was still sleeping time. We also had blackout curtains and sound machines and really good overnight diapers.