Does anyone else hate double dates?

[Anonymous]

No one likes double dates

[Anonymous]

How old are you?

One thing I didn’t know was how much more difficult it is to make friends as you get older including in your 40s.

I’d take advantage of these double dates because before you know it people will move, have kids and it’s more difficult to make social plans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an introvert, but 2 on 2 dates are small enough for me to feel comfortable. It sounds like your declining these dates is putting a crimp in your husband's social life. Can you say yes half the time?

I am fine with my husband going solo. If two people are going to talk about things for hours that aren’t relevant to the general group, it really makes more sense for them to just get together 1:1, I feel like.

I think you should have a frank talk with your DH about this dynamic. What he and his friends are doing is not socially gracious. They're talking with each other and excluding their partners. In my world, a double date is when all 4 ppl interact. My DH's friend would ask about going ons in my life and vice versa. I may not always hit it off with DH's friends' partners, but at least there would be some connection with the friend. DH is the same way. He cares about his friends, so he wants to know their partners too.

If your DH wants to catch up with friend only and ignores the partner, then he should suggest guys only get togethers. If he makes an effort to include the partners in conversations you can meet him halfway by attending some times.

This. Your DH and his friends are being rude by talking about work or whatever other thing that they have in common the whole time. DH should help carry the conversation with the four of you.

If he does this, then you should try to go at least some of the time. Otherwise you're making it hard for your DH to have friends.